Wrong or Right?

Question

Is it godly, or, right for a Christian woman to sleep with an ungodly man. She (my mom) believes in God, and so does he, but he's not saved. They aren't married, and it seems as though she has changed for the worse every since she has been with him. She's constantly screaming at my sister and I for the most pettiest things, she puts us to the side and will hardly do anything for us, but she will give the whole world to him. I can't put up with her anymore so I'm moving out with someone else in a few short hours and will never return. May I remind you, SHE ISN'T MARRIED TO THIS DUDE!! It's been nearly a month and a week she hasn't been to church. If this is not of God, why no, if He approves of this, why? Is there anything in the Bible stating that this is wrong?

Is it also true that once you have sexual relations with someone, your spirits become one? Almost as though you both carry the same spirit of each other...

I didn't ask anyone to tell me what I should and shouldn't do...I asked a simple question as to if this behavior is acceptable unto God. I didn't put my life story on here so none of you know all of the reason's why I'm moving out. If you're staying with someone and you don't get along, you should do the both of you a favor and move out! Please answer this question within it's boundaries!

I didn't ask anyone to tell me what I should and shouldn't do...I asked a simple question as to if this behavior is acceptable unto God. I didn't put my life story on here so none of you know all of the reason's why I'm moving out. If you're staying with someone and you don't get along, you should do the both of you a favor and move out! Please answer this question within it's boundaries! THANKS!

Answer 1

There are actually several places in Scripture where it says that anyone sleeping with anyone out of the marriage relationship is not right. Your later post is correct when you say that once you are intimate, your spirits become one. That is one thing that this world is paying the price for.

I think that if you haven't spoken with your mom yet, you definitely need to follow the instructions for confronting someone in Matthew 18. That structure for intervention is widely used, and because it was God's idea in the first place, you will have the best results with that.

You must remember though that your responsibility is not to change your mom, but to honor God in the first place. He wants what's best for you AND your mom, and if she really is saved, he will deal with her on his own time. You need to be prepared for this to get messy though. Dealing with sin is never an easy thing, but if you really want what is right in God's eyes, you have to ask him.

Don't listen to anyone who tells you that things are more complicated than they seem, or that you're being judgemental. I commend you for asking for help on something that bothers your conscience. If more people did that, we would have a better world. God isn't a fluzy, emotionally absent deity. He wants a real relationship with you and with your mom, and with this man. The hard thing you need to turn to God with is that you need to treat your mom and him as POW's. They are trapped in a vicious cycle that comes with entering into a relationship like that.

Pray hard. Pray like your mother's life depends on it, because it does. God speaks a whole lot louder than we think, but we have to be willing to listen because he loves you WAY too much to give you anything less than the best for your life. The best is the freedom in obedience.

Answer 2

I think instead of this question, you might start with asking the Lord to help you. Families are difficult, and its easy for us characterize a family member's action as sin.....but usually when we do so, we're not correcting in love. Rather we're trying to play the "I'm more spiritual" one upmanship game.

I do believe that sex outside marriage is sin....yet, like you, before I start telling someone else what their own sin is, I have to look to my own motivation. Jesus didn't tell us to go out an whack each other upside the head with the Bible. Rather to go and love----and if you're behaving in a manner that reflects Christ, others will see that and it will inspire them to be more Christlike (and turn from sin) as they see Jesus in you.

Answer 3

In God's eyes we are spirit for that is His extension. Right and wrong are based on many things such as culture, society, religious doctrine etc... God saw what He had made and saw it as good. Jesus taught us not to judge because how you think directs your judgment. Man goes on saying what is right and wrong, never agreeing with an opposing opinion of the same. To thine own self be true, means to go about your life and let others do the same. Live without judgment and let live without judgment.

Answer 4

So he is a bad person if he's not been saved by the Christian God? You are being very unfair. Plus you are a hypocrite, you are supposed to honour your mother according to the Christian teachings. You're not doing that if you are moving out. Support her don't abandon her.

Sex is a sacred thing, you are right on that one, and it should be respected. But we all make mistakes. No one is perfect, not even God.

Answer 5

Wow, not judgemental in the least are we.......?

You will grow up one day and find the world isn't quite as black and white as you seem to think it is.

Answer 6

Grow up.

Answer 7

Can you not see she is being punished, that is the worst kind. She might put a mask over it, but she is being punished...

Answer 8

Are there only those two options?