We can use it to buy what we want and people don't have to worry about picking the right gift. Seems win-win to me but I am curious to find what conventional thought on this is.
2007-08-05 05:25:45 · 28 answers · asked by magus6666us 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Outrageously so. Unbelievably rude. Enormously tacky. Astonishingly crass. In fact, I'm not sure there is much else that you could do to let that many people all at once think you are uncouth and vulgar. A breach of etiquette to the point if you were raised by wolves and had never been taught any manners.
That would be the conventional thought on this.
I know you didn't say you were going to do it--and I know all the answers will say the same thing so it's not bashing you--but you did ask for the conventional thought, and I don't know of one person who doesn't look at a Bride and Groom differently after an invite that puts an entrance fee on attending what is suppose to be a beautiful moment.
2007-08-05 05:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No. There is no way to ask this and not be rude.
Register for a few things, or for nothing at all. These days, if there is no registry, a lot of people will give cash or a gift card, rather than offering you yet another spatula set. But as the gift recipient, you don't have the right to demand what they should give you. Even registries are suggestions, and they offer a variety.
2007-08-05 06:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh...I really recommend NOT asking for cash gifts. I was recently invited to a wedding where the couple asked for cash gifts. It was actually printed as part of their wedding invitation..."Monetary Gifts Appreciated." Now, I know why they did it (they needed the money!) but it was just tacky. They also had a gift registry, so I ended up choosing something from that. But, with a wedding, chances are you are going to get a decent amount of cash even without asking for it.
2007-08-05 05:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THis is what I am doing. I am not registering anywhere, just sending the invite. I am not asking for money. My family and friends will either ask my parents or bridesmaids and they will tell them that we pretty much have everything we need, but they know we are saving for a house, so if they want to get them something, maybe some money to go towards their savings. Just word of mouth. No one has found that to be tacky at all, it isnt coming from me, and they have the option of not getting us a gift or buying something they pick out, but everyone so far has appreciated the advice from my friends and parents. This wasn;t even my idea, my friend and parents just started doing that cause it was the truth.
2007-08-05 06:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you can do it slyly, but shouldn't outright say "cash please!"
if you don't have any gift registries, people will give you cash or items they think you'd want. people give cash a lot anyway though, so you may want to make at least a small gift registry so people can get you things you'd want anyway.
theknot.com has a good registry function, and on it you can also ask for moeny towards a certian thing, like plane tickets or a dinner date for 2. it's a little more smooth than just asking for cash with no specific thing to spend it on.
2007-08-05 07:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Erica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. Pass the word discreetly through friends, and don't use a registry - people will get the message without you being too damn blunt about it. Some people will still want to give you a real gift - you may be able to return those for cash.
2007-08-05 08:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes is it very rude and poor etiquette, the only way to possibly do this is by word of mouth from like the mothers or the maid of honor and bestman. DO NOT put anything down about it on or in the invitations. You might also wanna do a registry somewhere just in case! : )
2007-08-05 05:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is rude at all and completely disagree with some of the answers. A lot of people in today's society ask for money as the tradition of toasters, kettles, etc have gone out of the window due to co-habitation before marriage. Money is the next logical answer. Many of your guests will be relieved that they don't need to find the most original gift that you will both use and love.
My Mum and Step-Dad are due to get married in 3 weeks and they included the following little poem in their initial invitations. No-one has been offended and many of their friends and family have kindly contributed to their wedding / honeymoon fund.
"We realise there is such a custom,
on special days such as this,
For people to show their affection,
by the giving of presents and gifts.
Now pots and pans we have plenty,
and towels and bedding too,
We’ve even got a good toaster,
and lots of nice things for the loo.
But we want to save up for our future,
so wondered if you wouldn’t mind,
If you are planning on keeping with custom,
that your gift would be of the £ note kind.
Now we know that this is a little cheeky,
and wouldn’t want to presume,
So please do whatever you think is best,
many thanks from the bride and the groom."
Hope this helps. Oh, and Congrats !!
:o)
2007-08-05 06:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by ozshaz1985 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes. It is rude to ask for cash. If you want to get what you want, you do a bridal registry. Most stores will supply you with small notes that you can include in the invitations informing the invitee that you are registered there.
2007-08-05 07:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rude to ask for gifts period. If you don't register for a lot most folks will get the hint. However, folks seem to let go of the irritation if there are extenuating circumstances like you are moving to another country.
2007-08-05 06:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋