This is embarassing but...
My first few kisses were pretty traumatic and embarassing. Fast forward many years, many boyfriends, and many kisses, but I'm still shy and inhibited when it comes to kissing, especially early on (the first few dates).
I enjoy kissing and making out, but I always seem to "hold back." It's hard for me to really get in touch with passionate feelings...they are in there somewhere, but they don't seem to come out much unless I've had several drinks. All I usually feel is uneasiness and nervousness.
I think this causes the men I date to feel that we don't have chemistry, when in fact I just have hang-ups and nervousness that keep me inhibited until I have *really* grown to trust someone (which takes quite a long time).
Anyway, do you think it would be better to tell whoever I am dating that I am shy and that this doesn't mean that I don't like them? How can I get over my nervous feelings, develop confidence, and get in touch with my passionate feelings
2007-08-05 05:15:23 · 5 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hang ups and hanging back come from cautiousness. Cautiousness comes from experience... experience of being hurt. If you are with someone that you are truly interested in, then be up front with him about your feelings. Let him know that you are interested, but it takes you a little longer than some others to truly open up with someone. If he is a standup guy, and he feels similarly about you, he'll wait and work with you.
If you can't jump into love with both feet, its not the end of the world. Its the beginning of a slow journey that ends up in the same happy place. Work on your confidence. Be yourself. Learn to really like yourself. Once you master that, other people will like you the same. Confidence is borne of this.
I myself like shy girls. Its more of a challenge to read their body language, but they have so much love beneath the surface. Take your time and love slow but strong. The right guy will understand and be patient.
Good luck. The road to happiness is paved with impatient people, step over them and keep going.
2007-08-05 05:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet it's okay to kiss, but it always lead to something else. And the problem there are you ready to go to the next level. why do you have to pretend the way you are just be yourself, without the drinking because when you drink you are not enjoy the person without being yourself. In other words you are being something that you are not. you taking on another character when you drink, let the person see you for who you are. If you are shy then explain that you the person who you are with.
2007-08-05 05:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are with the right partner, your inner animal will be unleashed and you will start having fun and enjoying it. Until then, listen to your inner voice.
2007-08-05 05:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you need is the right person to bring out ur passion
2007-08-05 05:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by ningamdo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you ? a psychologist ? relax, stop analyzing everything that you do while dating, you will scare alot of men away..step by step..don't make every date perfect,
2007-08-05 05:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Maindrian Pace 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋