He is 10 yrs old, and since he acts like this all the time, I am not going to take him anywhere around other people, because he cannot behave. I have never seen a child cry as much as he does. If I do not get more help than 3 hours a week, then I am going to go insane, or get so sick from stress, that it is going to kill me. I am a single mom of him and a 16 yr old son. This behavior is getting on me and my other son's last nerve. I need help to get it under control. We live in town in an apt, with all the noise he makes, we need to move into the country, but I cannot even afford to pay my bills now, so how can I move. I need to move him in the country, so he does not disturb everyone. Does anyone have a solution or can help me buy a house in the country. I have applied for Extreme Makeover Home Edition 3 times, but I haven't got a response from them, I also have tried Habitat for Humanity, but I have more debt then income, so I do not qualify. I need a house pymt that I can afford.
2007-08-05 04:46:48 · 7 answers · asked by mldavr29 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I don't know where you live, but here is some basic information that is good for every state:
1. Contact the school district and request an IEP (individual Educational Plan)--they will test and diagnose your son and the state will pay for whatever therapy he requires. I assume you have not done this because you only talk about your needs--instead of you looking for a way to calm your nerves, why don't you do something to HELP YOUR SON?
2. Look for the local disability support agency--try the regional center. If he is autisic the state may also provide financial assistance for his care.
3. Get an advocate. Contact the Autism society. Many advocates work for scale or pro bone. (based on your income or free.)
Please remember that your son is struggling to live in a world that is hard for him to understand, with people who don't understand him. Educate yourself and be tolerant, Trust me, what he is going through is SO much worse than what you are.
2007-08-05 09:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Happy lady 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys with autism, my youngest is the same way but I have learned to deal with it. I would not have him any other way because that is who he is and that is what makes him him. If it is getting on your nerves that much and to the point that you can not stand it, than maybe you should consider putting in an institution for autistic children. I suggest this only if you really can not handle the stress and what everyone else thinks. There are also programs that you will qualify for that help you, there is a program where someone will come out to your home sometimes several times a week and watch your son, you can be home or leave but whatever your son needs they will do it. For example, you need a few hours to yourself like a nap maybe, the lady will come by and make sure he is fine while you nap, if he wants a glass of water or a sandwich they will do it for him not you. This is so you can clam your sanity again. I am a stay at home mother and though I have yet to get this service I sometimes think I should.
2007-08-05 16:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by metojrjoma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I probably can't help much--my son is in the same spectrum of disorders, but on the more functional side. The older he gets, the closer he comes to being normal.
I don't know how you do it. I was a stay-at-home mom when Joel was growing up and it took every ounce of my energy to calm him down, yelling, screaming, rage. Eventually we found some drugs to calm the rage and he's become more manageable--he's 17 and he still had a "conversation" with me today which included him yelling and crying.
I know a school here in TX that works with autistic kids. My daughter wants to do speech therapy, so she visited over there. I know the man who established this center and I know him to be a Christian man. The name of the center is Bayes Achievement Center in Huntsville, Texas. I don't know if this will help you at all, but there it is.
By the way, I had a nervous breakdown dealing with Joel that year. I ended up in the hospital for 11 days, which further complicated the problem because he wasn't with me, his #1 caregiver. You've got to get some help.
I don't know what I can do for you, but you have my sympathy and my prayers.
Debbie Villareal
2007-08-10 23:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your son's fault he's acting out like that so don't worry about what other people say to you or think. They'll just have to deal with it and be compassionate. You need to contact your local organization on autistic children and get help from them. No one should have to deal with a disabled child on their own. His father should be paying child support or you should be on welfare to help pay for things. There are also a lot of free programs the state can offer you to help you with your son. He should be in a special school for autistic children so they can teach him properly, also schizophrenia is common in autistic people-he may need medication.
My grandmother has been taking care of her autistic son (my uncle) all his life. He is almost 60 years old now and she is 85 and she is still doing it. My aunt lives with her, never got married, but is at work all day. It can be done. Just love him and ask for help everywhere you can. Good luck and god bless.
2007-08-05 11:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you sound like you are at your wits end, but you are coming across as if your son can help how he acts. He can not help how he is, Him disturbing others is the least of your worries. Find a support group for parents of handicapt children, talk to your son's doctor, but there are places out there to help you.
2007-08-09 19:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you I have 2 children a 6yo and 4yo with mild autism have a partner but no other support from family and sometimes we both need a break too.
I would recommend respite that way you could have a break or even if a family member looks after him for a while would help.
check out http://www.conductdisorders.com/ourarticles/autism.shtml and http://www.autism.about.com/od/supportforparents/p/respitecare.htm
2007-08-11 19:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, but running from the problem wont make it easier to deal with. You need to address his problems directly and seak help with handling your autistic child in a safe and direct manor.
Best wishes.
2007-08-05 11:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by vegface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋