Where do you draw the line. In general. Married w/ Children, we both work, my parents have needed help, we've been helping them, we feel like we've helped enough, their situation is starting to cut into our needs & wants. We do better than them, but when does it end? Is it when everyone is screwed and totally out of money? Told them we can't help anymore, and now I'm the bad guy.
2007-08-05 03:52:05 · 5 answers · asked by RUNINTLKT 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop helping them. Its now to the point they expect it all the time. They are ungrateful, selfish and taking you for a ride. Take care of your own immediate family. You were a sucker but now you are wising up. If they get mad let them, thats just another way of them trying to manipulate you.
2007-08-05 10:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you helped out as you said, i say to you your a nice person,, you did right,, but to keep doing it in so much that now it takes away from your family? dont do it,, youll be a fool, your family that you made comes first now not anyone should make you suffer, you helped already... so if they hate you or say bad things about you? AL WELL,, its not your fought they are in need 24-7 maybe they should help themselfs for once, My step father at age 76 still works off and on to pay his bills or to help them out to buy things they want,, my father at age 78 with a bad heart still works,, he cant even hold a glass of water right as his arm sockets are worn out due to a hammer he used all his life.. so your story sounds like to me, they are just lazy, sorry to say... you did your job as a good person, so dont worrie about what others say,, my lord what happens if others in the family need help too? will you support the whole family?? i hope not.... lol it would be dumb and silly...
2007-08-05 14:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the old days many men had many sons to secure their old age ,so that there would be many incomes to look after them
They figured that they worked to bring up the kids and set them on the road to life ,so that when they were tired
the kids were obliged to take care of them
Maybe your folks did not have enough kids to spread the responsibility around
what is the limit
who knows that better than you
their life span is limited
this discission can only come from within
not from the internet .
2007-08-07 05:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your existence cut into their needs and wants. Instead of just handing them money, how about arranging some time with a financial counselor to find out where the problem is and provide some constructive help.
You're the one who has to live with yourself if you let your parents live in poverty while you party. If that isn't the way it is, then reread your question because you sure seem to be whiney and selfish.
2007-08-05 10:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you wanna do the easy way outl. move somewhere far from them. it's great that you are helping them, i know what you mean and say about helping alot. i too am in the same situation and i keep telling myself that when you help someone they will help you in a way back. just think about karma. if you were old like your parents and you didn't have a job or something and your kids were your only support. would you like it if they denied to help you in anyway. cause i know if i was old i would want my kids to help me in any way possible if i can't help myself. decide wisely.
2007-08-05 11:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋