Awhile back, my girlfriend wanted to be engaged to me. We were very sure of ourselves of that decision. Then, just yesterday, she says that she doesn't want to be engaged anymore. I have always re-assured her about her doubts of our relationship, and I was always able to make her feel a lot better about it. Now it seems like it's going to be very tough to try it again. Please, if you truly care about my problem, give me suggestions on how I can re-assure her again.
2007-08-05 03:40:24 · 10 answers · asked by curryreggie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What did you do?
2007-08-05 03:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE was the one who wanted to be engaged to you? Isn't it supposed to be the other way around? Typical girl..very fickle minded. If she's starting to doubt with the relationship and you have to keep reassuring her, I don't see the point in continuing with this whole thing. In the end, you'll just be torturing yourself. If she's like this now when you still aren't officially attached, how much more so when you get married. Trust me, you would be so tired of convincing her why you're the right person for her, that you'll wonder why you even stuck through the whole thing. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear right now, but then it's the truth, and sometimes you just have to face it for your own sake in the future.
It seems to me that she's falling out of love. If she truly loves you, you wouldn't have to keep proving yourself to her, because I think she would already know that, and just can't wait to spend the rest of her life with you. You deserve a better person who would appreciate and accept you for who you are; who wouldn't make you waste your time convincing her that you're the man for her. This is just an advice, and you have to make the decision on your own.
I hope this helps and I wish you well. Just remember that there's always someone better - and that you deserve better. Also, time heals everything. Good luck to you!!
2007-08-05 10:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be this much work just to convince her to be with you. Be glad that you're just engaged, and not married. If you've got to talk her down from the ledge all the time, then guess what - maybe she's just not that into you. Time to cut your losses and move on. You should feel like you dodged a bullet. Believe me, I know - just got out of a really bad marriage that started with an engagement JUST LIKE YOURS. She took eight years to finally get the balls to tell me that she never really loved me. It's a lot harder later, when kids, houses, cars and money are involved. I repeat - cut and run!
2007-08-12 19:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ben 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you two need some time apart, especially your girlfriend she sounds confused and trying to convince wont take care of the problem it will happen again and this time you might be married, i would also suggest some couple therapy and get out why she is so insecure.
2007-08-12 23:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly what are the doubts she has? have you asked her why is doing this? If if its a mini problem tell her you r ready to change.Find out if its true love or just an attraction for her.
Just ask her what exactly she wants because i think its lack of understanding.....
2007-08-13 05:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by lovesucks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 words for you honey; NOT READY, I think she's just pulling you by a leash and your following it up. Find you someone who doesn't keep putting you off. Sorry, But I'm being honest w/ you. Sometimes what you think is best, really is not.
2007-08-13 01:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by honeybee4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is simple.She might find some mistake on you and thats why she is in confuse.Try to tell her that whatever mistake you do, you wont repeat it again.and express to her how much she mean to your life.what will happen without her?
be confidence.your love is yours if you try.
2007-08-05 10:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bavani Thamothram 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm..... sounds like maybe you did something to make her not want to marry you any more......... but maybe you didn't maybe she is just having second thoughts and thinks she just isn't ready yet and maybe she just wants to wait....you should ask her these things find out whats on her mind
2007-08-05 10:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why your girlfriend doesn't have a ring on her finger. If you really want to marry her, prove it.
2007-08-05 10:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
buy her a ring,ask her to marry you
2007-08-05 10:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by crazy4hp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋