Me and my fiance are ready to start having babies. We're in our mid twenties and have baby fever bad! The only problem is, we both work. And right now we both have bills and obligations that need both our paychecks to cover. What should we do? Wait it out? How do you get to a point where you let go of your job to become a mother? Can anyone relate?
2007-08-05 03:38:10 · 8 answers · asked by beaniebaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We've been together over 3 years, just to let everyone know.
2007-08-05 03:53:03 · update #1
Um....as far as not being able to commit to marriage...please. And i do have control over my financies, thank you. I would like to be a stay at home mom, but that can't happen on just my husbands income. Thanks to all the other answers though, you've helped.
2007-08-05 04:12:12 · update #2
Definitely wait. Clear your debts so taht you can focus on your baby stress free. Babies do ending costing you money. Sometimes even more depends on an infants' special needs.
So, you and your hubby should pull together to pay off your debts and then start fresh with a new baby.
that's my suggestion. Get everything you want/need before baby comes along. Go away - travel before baby comes along.
2007-08-05 03:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Beanie,
Why not do things right? You've found the man (good for you!). Now, marry him. Keep in mind that while babies are wonderful, they are not the reason for marriage. Having a partner who is there for you when the world turns cold, who guards your back and has the same goals as you... that is why we marry. Enjoy your time as a couple for a while. You will never be alone again after the children come.
I'm not saying that children are bad, they are wonderful. However, when they are finally gone, you will be old. Take some special time for you and your mate. You will never be sorry that you did.
Pay your bills and obligations now. Wait a bit. You won't be sorry. :)
2007-08-05 03:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to wait until you are in a much better financial situation. Babies are expensive and whilst it is possible to do things on the cheap the extra financial pressure you will have makes it a lot harder.
You have to look at how long it will take you to get on top of those bills if you really tighten the purse strings and work on paying them off as quickly as possible or what will happen if you have your baby now and how you will financially cope.
It is really hard when you have to wait, we had to do it but the pay off was definately worth it.
2007-08-05 05:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Hoobelubula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT ready to have a baby. You have no control over your financial issues and you are not married. You don't get any guarantee's when you reproduce, that baby could be twins or sick and any baby is a baby for about 30 seconds and then its a growing human being that you are responsible for for the rest of your life. You don't seem to be able to even commit to marriage, how are you going to parent? Wait and get your life straightened out.
2007-08-05 04:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to wait honey. Babies will change your life forever in more ways than you may know. Right now, you think about babies and all you think is how cute they are, how sweet it will be. Are you keeping in mind all the changes that happen in your r'ship? Yes - things change. You need to give you and your fiance time to 1) get married and 2) create a solid relationship foundation after you get married.
2007-08-05 03:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until your married and you have enough money for the bills and can afford everything you need for a new baby. But this is only my opion.
Hope I helped!
<3 E
2007-08-05 03:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, before you have a baby, you should be ready ready first (financially, emotionally, physically, and psychologically). Wait it out a little more and try to save some money for the baby first.
2007-08-05 03:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Throneguard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you're planning a baby, perhaps have one when you're financially equipped to do so?
i hope the day comes soonest for you!
2007-08-05 04:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋