My 4 yr old daughter and 7 yr old son want to share a room!!?

Question

Is this to old for a boy and a girl to share a room ??? they want to get bunk beds and share a room because they saythey are best friends!!! its sooo cute!!! I am just wonderin everyones else thinking on this !

btw they have their own rooms at the momment !! the 4 yr old sleeps in the 7 yr olds bed every night though

Answer 1

honestly i wouldn't worry about it at this age. i do have to say one thing, about someone elses comments. tseruyah suggested it wasn't a good idea because BOYS are curious about the sexual differences between the sexes at this age...but the truth is BOTH boys and girls are curious about it. no need to become paranoid though. and what tseruyah says about the touching is a bit overboard.
it's normal for children to recognize the differences between boys and girls...it's all part of growing up! BUT her suggestion that your son would start touching your daughter inappropriately is ridiculous..that is a LEARNED behavior and usually occurs among siblings that have been molested by someone..thus repeating what they have experienced on others around them.
it kinda bothers me that tseruyah would suggest such a thing and then include that this has happened among ppl she knows..that would send up a RED flag to me as a parent that something fishy was going on in that house!
Kids are curious yes, but usually they have questions or comments that they share w/everyone about what it is they don't understand..rarely do they TOUCH each other knowingly, as if they understood the function of each "part" of each others bodies.

as for how old is too old...I'd say when your son starts to ask more questions about life in general. the typical stuff that needs explaining (the birds and the bees stuff) then i would separate them..that and he will be going through puberty around age 12 and boys tend to want their privacy then.
i WOULD however discourage the sleeping in the same bed. not because of "what could happen", but simply that it's become a bad habit and needs to be broken now, before your son is 12. soon your son might not think it's such a fun idea to have little sis crowding his bed, and your daughter might take this as a rejection of some sort...and could hurt their bond as brother/sister. it's better to get across to your daughter now that sharing a room is okay, but that everyone has their own sleeping space, and needs to stay in it. be prepared for your daughter to want and try to climb into YOUR bed at night if she can't sleep w/your 7 yr old. it sounds like she just is wanting comfort. this is not much different from older kids that still want to sleep w/the parents and the parents are conflicted on how to get their older child to sleep in their own bed.
your going to have the same issues here.

Answer 2

I think it's fine to share a room at that age. That's so sweet that they love each other so much! I would, however, just put bunks in your son's room and allow your daughter to sleep in big brother's room and leave your daughter's room as it is. This way each one has a room of their own and when the time comes that one feels like they need space or privacy, they will have it. I'm guessing in the next 2-3 years your son is going to want to change the sleeping arrangements. Until then, enjoy!

Answer 3

I don't think your children have any impure intentions for wanting to share a room, but I don't think it would be a good idea due to your son's age. 7 may not be too old, but he is quickly advancing on a time of puberty.

Maybe you could suggest that they have their own room but on weekends allow them to take a sleeping bag into the other room (boy to girl's or vice versa) and have a slumber party together. This would make it like a special treat for them.

Answer 4

if you have the money to buy bunkbeds for like 6 mo. then go ahead but otherwise in like 6 mo. they are going to want their own rooms again. Otherwise, why don't you just let them have their separate rooms and tell them if they are nice they can have a sleep over in the other one's room. I don't think it's a bad think that a 7 and 4 year old want to sleep together, but i think by 9 and 6 they should have their own room for sure

Answer 5

It's only too old if you think something inappropriate is going on in there. Or, when either of them starts to say they are not comfortable with the situation.

My 5yo daughter (almost 6) and 7yo son are best friends, too & share bunk beds.

Answer 6

I think it's a great idea. In my opinion, the age to NEED separate rooms is around 12-13...after that, puberty and all plays in and yes they need privacy and should have their own spaces. But you shouldn't fight it, if this is what they want I say go for it..otherwise, you may give them the idea that it's not good for them to be so close and that would be really sad.

Answer 7

i shared a room with my brother until he was 11! i was 6 at the time. I find it perfectly normal that they want to share a room.

Savor the times when they love each other because once they become teenagers they'll become total enemies, fighting all over the place!

Answer 8

If they sleep in each others rooms anyway, you might want to just let them share. They don't have to share their whole lives, and when they get older, then you should have them in their own rooms, but at the time, it should be fine

Answer 9

The boy is getting a bit old for this. If the girl was ten and the boy 4 and you were cramped for space, it'd be all right for a little while.

Your son is getting to the age when little boys become fascinated with the sexual differences and could start touching your daughter inappropriately. I have heard such stories from acquaintances over and over.

They need privacy and personal space.

Answer 10

Normal..me and my little bro shared a room until I was like 12...He was 5 years younger than me. Even when we moved into a bigger house, his room was right beside mine and we would still sleep together. I am sure they will want their space eventually...let them be for now!