Long story short, my mother re-married about 25 years ago, I have 3 step sisters, one of them came to live with us when she was a teenager, we got very close, the other two stayed with their mother. Anyway, the one that lived with us did not get along with my mother very well, so she moved back to her mothers, after that, we didn't hear from any of them for years then my stepfathers dad passed away and when he went to the funeral, the girls were there and everything went well......... but now again, we haven't spoken to them since the funeral. I now live in the same town as my step sisters, and we get along great! we Talk all the time, but now how do I fix the rift between them and my mom & stepdad? I really want everyone to get along.
2007-08-05 02:45:01 · 6 answers · asked by yappyishappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You seem to be wise beyond your years and eager to have a relationship with your stepsisters. However, your mom & stepdad don't seem to share your enthusiasm.
Advice #1. You can't make mom & stepdad do it your way
Advice #2. You can only change yourself
Advice #3. Continue your own personal relationship with your stepsisters, and don't be afraid to mention it at dinner. Just don't try to preach it to mom & stepdad.
Hopefully, there will be a happy event come up that you all can attend. But as far as expecting a change, the probability is high that it will take another funeral to get them together.
AGAIN, that's not within your power to change right now.
Good Luck
2007-08-05 02:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know life is short and things change. Forgive and give people a chance before it is to late. Also accept people for how they are. If they give them a chance may have a good relationship or at least one where they can get along and know some more of their family.
2007-08-05 09:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like time is the key,, I wouldnt put sparks unto the wood,so to say,, just do what you can, without starting up any trouble, its a time thing,, some mothers are hard to get along with for alot of reasons, so we dont know all the story only what you said here.. just dont get to crazy about it.. let the heat cool off first and maybe then patch it up alittle.. good luck
2007-08-05 14:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you can't they have to want to solve that problem on their own, you can't force them because then they'll just rebel against you. Let your mother know you have contact with them, but spend a little extra time with her so she doesn't feel abandoned
2007-08-05 09:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by jzmom327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone or you could lose their friendship. It is for them to fix not you.
2007-08-05 17:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you cant. This has to come naturally from their inner selves.
2007-08-05 11:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋