OK here is a puzzling question, at least for me anyway, involving bar girls in Thailand?

Question

The first bar girl I slept with didn't charge me at all, she just wanted to have intercourse. I saw her again another day and the same thing happened..after her shift we went to a dance club and danced for a little then had sex again. She performed oral sex on me without using a condom. I accidentally ran into her again a third day and the same thing happened. She even turned down guys hitting on her at the dance club. Why do you think she didn't charge me for any of the nights? She also took a picture of me and used it as her cellphone wallpaper. Was she just really into me? Usually they charge 1500-2000 baht a night. I am still worried about STD's so I will get checked, but I would just like some suggestion as to what you think about the situation.

Answer 1

your asking alot of questions about bar girls (five as of right now) and your ability to get them free and the risk of getting STD. I think your just blowing wind, I seen your type here just telling tall tails about themself and there ability to get women. I doubt if anything your saying is true.

Answer 2

Bar girl doesn't equal prostitute. You have no idea what kind of life these girls live. I live in Thailand, so I at least have some first hand experience of seeing how farangs treat these girls. I worked in a surgery for a while, and the amount of men that got these girls pregnant and left them. Some even were violent with them... The difference between low season and high season is staggering.

But this girl must have liked you, even if superficially. These girls generally want to leave that sort of lifestyle and have a husband and children. Thai people are far more open minded than Westerners, so they don't have the same weird views on prostitution that we have. Thai people find westerners attractive however, because the geographical location = money. Their culture even has whitening products for skin. Girls have nose augmentation to make their noses, 'more western'.

A lot of them don't even get paid to work in their respective bars/holes. They get tips, commission on the drinks you buy them (they rarely drink alcohol, even if you think they do) and whatever else she gets along the way; gifts, etc.

Most of them send money home to families in remote parts of Thailand.

Thailand is a lot like Victorian England, and as for STD's, unless you had full blown unprotected sex, I'd say that you most unlikely will have caught anything. You could get a full test for other things that you might need antibiotics for, which isn't unheard of in Thailand. You also have to be careful for Hepatitis, as I've known a few men get that off ladies in Thailand.

For every person that says, 'never fall in love with a bar girl', i like to say, "well they're people too!"

Answer 3

We chinese have a saying .... "feed more line to catch a big fish"

Dont mean to burst your bubble my friend but a lot of these women sees us as fishes in the sea. They want to get a big catch. Sometimes its a quick catch to feed themselves for a day. Sometimes they would like to get a big fish that may feed them for a month.

Do you think if she can fall for you the first time she is out with you that she couldnt fall for another guy just the same?

Remember at all times what she does for a living - granted there may be some girls who will fall in love and want a real relationship from a guy staying thousands of miles away who could probably see her once or twice a year but just be careful.

Me and my friends have seen this happen time and time again - a month after you leave max ... she will call you and tell you her mom or dad is sick in hospital and need money - that is the standard line they tell you. I have even heard of the famliy cow dying before as well. They would then ask you to send them 1000usd or whatever they can milk from you.

If this doesnt happen after the first month, you may have met a girl who truely likes you.

Goodluck!

Answer 4

The only reason thai girls work in the bar is money. The reason this girl isn't charging you may be because she's got long term plans like Raymond R mentioned....
Also, a lot of these girls that work the bar for a while have sponsors, meaning, they have guys (like you, possibly), fall in love with them and send them money on a regular basis. I know a girl in Pattaya that gets 30,000 baht every month from some guy in the UK, and she still goes out with customers...

I've known both bargirls and "normal" thai girls, and I would suggest you be careful when dealing with either one. After dealing with women in western society, who spend most of their time playing silly mind games, it is very easy to fall in love with a thai girl, even if she is a prostitute....
There's some really good underground forums that have expats, beer bar and go-go managers, and frequent visitors to TL, that discuss this situation in more detail.If you look on the internet you should be able to find them. They're a great help....
Good luck

Answer 5

I will not entertain conjecture of what the girl's motives may have been, other than to speculate that she imagined you have money. I doubt very much if she was "into you" at all. Sorry to burst your ego bubble.

The age of most bar girls notwithstanding, I will resist the urge to comment on the morality of what you have done. Others will do that for me, and likely not be as polite.

A lot of "sex trade workers" in Thailand are a lot younger than you might think. 14. 13. 12 years old sometimes. Sex with girls that young isn't sex, it's child abuse. Enough said.

You are quite right to be worried about STD's--they are exactly the reason why young prostitutes are in such demand. Guys think there is less chance of them having anything. They think wrong, but there you have it.

You need to get checked, fast, before you pass on HIV or some (for now, anyway) asymptomatic STD to anyone else.

Answer 6

hello again.......you've put your question much better this time.
Maybe,quite a big maybe she really was into you,and saw in you a possibility of a full blown relationship back in Canada,or wherever you are from.It's not unheard of.I dont want to sound like mother theresa but most of those girls would rather be doing something else with their lives and maybe she saw her chance.Did you give any hints or mention those three words at all,even in jest?You probably haven't got a dose but only a check up will tell you that.Has this particular girl got into your head?You could always do a pretty woman remake
Despite what you think these girls did want money,if not then,then later,as I have explained

Answer 7

Do you think how many westerners come to Thailand for sex each year?

It's a kind of Demand and Supply, isn't it?

The more Westerners hunger for Thai sex, the more styles that bar girls will treat you.

When Thai people see Westerners, they assume that those westerners are looking for sex. That’s why this business is growing every year.

Answer 8

Gauging from all your questions about bargirls. I think the question is "What do you think of them?". Are you going to feel good or comfortable having her around. Are your friends going to be comfortable? What is family going to think? Etc. What is your purpose in dating a "bar girl" ? What do you want in a woman? If a "bar girl" does not fit the picture then go on to the next thing to do, which is get tested. Don't you think?

Answer 9

I'd speculate that she was hitting on you for the longer term benefits, rather than the few thousand baht for the short term thing. Of course, that would include marriage, purchasing a house for her, her parents and extended family, the purchase of a lot of gold, an automobile, the most fashionable wardrobe imaginable, etc. for starters.

Answer 10

She probably likes you. Loves you? Impossible to say.

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