I want some answers to this! I'm a big girl and I enjoy having curves although I'm not where I prefer to be right now. When I go out I'm made to feel like big girls are just not dateable. I used to be thin and am treated completely different by men now. What the hell is so special about skinny girls? Is it just because it's more socially acceptable or is there a deeper reason?
2007-08-05 02:27:47 · 24 answers · asked by Jiji 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would like to add to this question. I do eat right and workout 5-6 times a week. I'm just built this way. I am not by ANY means bashing skinny girls. As a matter of fact almost all my friends are thin. I do however think it's funny that some of those saying that how much better skinny girls are can't spell or use proper grammar! hahah. This is what I mean. Some guys (not all) would rather date a girl who is thin, dumb and insecure than to date a girl who has some meat on her. Also I am calm I just have a theory about this. I think it's more because society tells men and women what to like. At least for the most part. I understand people have certain things they are attracted to but I'm speaking in general.
2007-08-05 03:11:55 · update #1
rolls just arnt a turn on..
honestly.. can u honestly say u dont look at bigger guys differently to skinny guys.. cause if u look at them the same then i take my hat of 2 u.. but personally i cant date ppl with rolls.. its not a vainity thing.. its just a real turn off.. how are u supposed to respect sum1 if they dont respect themselves enough to make an effort to stay healthy?
hope that helps =]
2007-08-05 02:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by becstar 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Society is somewhat involved, but you can't disregard the fact that everyone has varying opinions and not all their thoughts are derived from how society tells them to think.
That's like asking what's so special about a muscular guy, compared to an overweight or skinny guy?
It's nothing personal, the decision is just based on the preference of some people. Many men like girls with curves because they know how to "work it", while some men couldn't care for them and prefer skinny girls with long, skinny legs.
Nowadays, more often than not, I find men will prefer a girl with meat on her bones over a girl who's is built like a twig and could blow away in the wind.
Being overweight is just as bad as being underweight, and so it's normal to prefer an average girl with meat on her bones. However, underweight seems to have a lot less health implications on a person (AND it seems alot more natural, as being overweight can be that person's own fault, generally from overeating); so how can we like a girl who doesn't care enough to take care of her own body?
If you are comparing a "big" girl and an "average" girl, then it would take a lot more personality to win over a shallow guy, simply because of his image of a perfect girl.
Hope that helped
2007-08-05 09:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ray-Banned 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this date and age, the definition of attractive is a mixture of many things, one of which is being thin. Theres nothing that can change a guys opinion on what he thinks is attractive. Personally i'm not a big fan of excessive curves, but I do know guys that are. There are guys out there that are attracted to big girls, but then there are those that are just desperate to get laid, and usually big girls are the easiest. The thing you're probably realizing is that the guys that were once attracted to you and nice to you are no longer that way. Well heres news girls: guys do not want to be your "friend," guys are not nice to you because they're just nice guys, 95% of the time, the only reason a guy treats you the way you were once treated is because they want to be with you, whether thats emotionally or physically or both. You were niave to think it was your "great personality" that made guys behave the way they did to you. And now you've gained weight and seen what has happened as a result. My advice lose weight, because that special thing about skinny girls is that they're attractive.
2007-08-05 09:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well , sweetie, I am a big girl, size 16-18 however; I am not stomach heavy and a very pretty face and I am self-confident - secure in my being. Many people are attracted to me. As far dating goes, fat or skinny it;s hard to find the right person. But I believe it's worth the wait, I would rather , await for God's best for me, than settle for Mr. Right Now or just any old person who will help me not feel lonely. Stop craving attention and love yourself, people can see confidence that's what makes you attractive, Trust me, no guy really wants a skinny woman, they love curves hips, all that. Watch how you carry yourself, if you have a fat stomach, don't wear tight shirts that show your rolls, or low riders or belly shirts. Wear clothes that compliment your shape, big stomach loose shirt , fitting pant, small stomach fitted shirts - if you have big hips and big butt - don't wear pants so tight - not too baggy either.
2007-08-05 09:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all calm down, if you are mad about skinny girls and you are upset about the way you look, you my friend, have the power to change yourself and the way you look!
I used to be a size 22-28 in the plus size, did not like the way I looked went on a diet, a strict one and went down to a size 2!!!! Believe it or not, I did not like the way I looked, and I realized I had the power to make that change, and so do you!!!
Do not bash skinny girls, if you do not like the way you look, then make the change, no one can do it for you but you, you are not going to loose the weight by bashing skinny girls!
People are people and being skinny and healthy and toned is acceptable and so is going out and making that change for yourself!!!!
Go to a local pool and get in water exercises for an hour and you will be amazed at how good you feel!
I go swimming with my daughter for two days a week for 50 minutes and I get a total body workout!!! It feels wonderful!!!
Watch what you eat, exercise, and you will soon not be bashing us skinny women anymore!
2007-08-05 09:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's because the media pushes everything we're suppose to be down our throat from a shockingly young age... We're told how to look, what to wear, how to eat, etc etc etc... And anybody who doesn't look a certain way or wears certain clothes, or eats certain things, according to mass advertising/corporations, is just not attractive.
It's all total and complete BULLSHIT!
Any man who would not be interested in you because you're full figured is NOT a man who is worth your time. GOOD FOR YOU for being proud of who you are and how you look.
America needs more women like you!!!!
Marylin Monroe, Arguably the most attractive centerfold of all time had some major curves on her body! In the 1950's ALL women had some serious curves and THAT was attractive. It's only been recently that the whole 'thin' craze has started...
2007-08-05 09:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Big girls seem to be less into doing all sorts of activities than smaller ones. It is hard to find a larger girl that will go do sports or other stuff with you. Even stuff that just requires a little effort like going over to a friend's house and riding horses. If you are fun and out going you just need to be more able to show this.
2007-08-05 09:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're just skinny...nothing special about that to me. By the same token, "big girls" are just big...nothing special about that either. It's what's inside (between the ears) that counts. I like a girl who's confident in herself, athletic and has a great sense of humor. If she's also pretty, she can carry a little more weight than a girl who doesn't have a personality.
2007-08-05 09:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The media has a lot to do with it. In recent years, 'skinny girls' have been seen as being somewhat more attractive than 'fuller girls', yet admittedly views are changing in today's society. Nowadays, people are being persuaded to love themselves for who they are; a HEALTHY woman is seen as being a hundred times better than a 'skinny girl' or 'big girl'.
2007-08-05 09:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres a difference between someone "with curves" and a BIG GIRL.
Guys love a girl with some curve to them.. no one likes a rail. But alot of girls use the excuse that they are "curvy" when they are really overweight.
Overweight is unhealthy and guys are attracted to healthy girls.
2007-08-05 09:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by la428282 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋