I am the maid of honor in a friend's wedding. Ok, the bridal party is helping me throw a bridal shower she would never believe. But she keeps asking what r we having and i won't tell her cause i feel it ain't her business to know. all she needs to do is concentrate on her wedding and wait on the time to come and sit back and have fun but she got mad and said she would plan her own bridal shower. So am i wrong for keeping that a secret cause the fun part of it is her not knowing?
2007-08-05 01:16:27 · 20 answers · asked by babysezy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only reason I can think of her wanting to know is if you are possibly doing something she might find offensive or not doing something she really want to do. Ask her if there is any particular activities she wants, and if not let her know she will just have to enjoy the surprise!
2007-08-05 04:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the bride is having a bridezilla moment and she is entitled as her nerves and stress level fell off the richter scale. but the now is not the time to battle with her. tell her go ahead and plan your own bridal shower as u will be having too much at the surprise one u are giving her. she will back down, she is just extremly high strung and that makes life miserable for all the other attendants. tell her take a chill pill sit back and enjoy everything u have planned for her and she will come around. just make sure u dont forget this is her day not yours . have a good shower and keep us informed...
2007-08-05 02:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most bridal showers are not planned by the bride. She should trust your judgment and just trust your ability to throw a good one. Tell her to relax and quit stressing out. Even if it isn't the best party in the end it's still the thought that counts. I lived away from my friends when I got married and so my mother in law threw me shower with people I didn't even know. Really, It doesn't matter in the long run.
2007-08-05 01:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kind of like your friend is trying to control everything. The term "Bridezilla" comes to mind! Tell her to chill and that she will have a beautiful bridal shower. All she has to do is show up and enjoy it. And anyway, if she gets mad at you for this, don't worry...she will end up looking foolish when everything turns out great, despite her not having a hand in the planning.
2007-08-05 05:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong in keeping it a secret, she doesn't need to know till she shows up! She should be HAPPY that SOMEONE is planning a shower for her and concentrate on the wedding planning.
Oh, and she can't plan her own bridal shower, its extremely wrong to do. You and her mother and others should tell her its wrong to plan her own, especially when she knows she is already getting one from her attendants!
2007-08-05 02:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The bride has no say at all in the bridal shower, stick to your guns. This is a side effect of the me generation. The bride planning her own shower is just so tacky as to be unbelievable. You do not under any circumstances plan your own shower, if someone else doesn't do it you don't get one.
2007-08-05 06:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok..there could be a few issues. First if she is like me she may not enjoy being surprised. I am not a control freak but I feel like when I dont know what is going on i am vulnurable. I know it sounds silly, but there are a lot of people in the world who hate surprises. Additionally, she may have other functions or events going on and needs to make sure that there are no scheduling conflicts. Lastly, i dont think she should plan her own shower, but maybe if you talk to her and explain what you are planning then she will calm down. i understand you wanted it to be a surprise, but this is for her so if she is happy with it not being a surprise then so be it. you are a great friend for doing this for her, so just go with it.
2007-08-08 14:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by mikejustine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a control freak. Many brides get this way because they think the wedding is 'her day' and that no one else matters. It's quite ridiculous for brides to think like this. Weddings are a celebration of her marriage yes, but a celebration is always for the people. It's not her day. In fact, if anything, a wedding is the families day. The bride and groom are just the main attraction and excuse to party.
As for your situation, you can continue to fight her on this, or you can let the little girl have her blanky and throw her own shower. Of course, she's being extremely rude, so definitely spread the news to everyone and let 'em all cheap out on the gifts or not show up at all.
2007-08-05 01:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that the bride planning her own bridal shower is an etiquette no-no.
Perhaps you can enlist bride's mother to second that information.
You are correct. The hostesses of the bridal shower are the planners. The bride is not involved in the planning. She may provide you with a guest list, but that's about it.
2007-08-05 01:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Suz123 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i think you should have a say in the bridal shower.. tell her you want it to be a surprise rather than snapping at each other and if it means that much to her tell her she can plan another one too and pay for it herself
2007-08-05 04:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋