the guy is supposed to be her friend but i dont approve( they had sex before about three years ago). I said you can hang out with the guy but i dont want to be around. I know i sound stupid given the history, but she fights with me so much about it that i have given up. recently she had a birthday party where the guy showed up and i was stuck there. Any comments would be welcome.
2007-08-04 20:56:23 · 9 answers · asked by oracle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would drop her like a 'hot potato'. She is showing no respect for you, especially since she already knows you are uncomfortable in the presence of someone she's slept with. She is probably wanting to make HIM jealous. Why? Because she still has feelings for him.
How would she like it if the situation were reversed?
NO, I don't believe she didn't know the ex was going to be there .......... and neither should you!
2007-08-12 18:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't choose your gf's friends for her. That may be all there is to the fighting.
Did you notice what attention they showed each other during her party? If they treated each like all her other friends, I don't think you should be worried. If they treated each other as more than friends, then you should try talking to her again.
When you talk to her about her ex, you need to try to remain calm. You should explain that you're uncomfortable with the situation and ask her how she would feel if one of your exes was hanging out with you and showing up unexpectedly at parties.
2007-08-12 20:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Beth Rorie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means if she is to hang out with him why can't you come along. If she argues with you about him. Then it seems that she stills like him and something is still going on with them two being together. Don't be a fool and be blind by this relationship. Dump her and look for someone that is going to be with you and would enjoy that you hang out with her and her friend and your friends as well. This situation with your girl is over and bounce her to reality that this relationship is not going to work. Wish you luck.
P.S. If I were you to know the truth in my eyes. If she is planning to go out. Why don't you have someone or yourself keep an eye on what she is doing while she is with him so that way you can determine that she is real to you or not. Be careful and don't get caught also bring a camera so she won't say that your friend or yourself is lying. Like they say words are nothing but pictures tell a million things. Wish you luck.
2007-08-12 14:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two are allowed to have a friend! It helps to have someone to talk too, who is not related. But just ask her, which one does she want, you or him? And No, she did invite him, she just didn't tell you! You could invite and old friend of yours to a party, but that might make things worse! Ask "the friend", talk to him, find out what he thinks or what he is doing!! Don't give up on her, though. Start hanging out with her, maybe she misses you!! Good Luck!!
2007-08-12 20:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is probably more going on that you don't know about. She might still have feelings for him. If it bothers you let her know. What you want is important to. If she loves you then she will stop seeing him. I definately wouldn't want my bf hanging out with one of his exes or someone that he had slept with before. Good luck!!
2007-08-12 07:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she said she didn't know then she must not have known that her ex was gonna be there also hey it was three years ago things so just forget it if she wanted lie then she would have done after a month or year,,but it was three man..you gotta believe in her,,even she did know or didn't just tell her you trust her..so she will not do anything that will hurt you!! good luck!!
2007-08-04 21:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! She is with you now, it was three years ago. You should just show confidence in your relationship if he is around but dont hover all over her either.
2007-08-12 14:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was three years ago, and they are friends, dont worry, she is more tempted to cheat if you make a fuss out of the situation than if you tell her you trust her and its fine. try hanging out with them, you might like the guy.
2007-08-04 21:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get over it already!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-11 23:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋