What would you do in my situation?

Question

I used to party alot (drinking, drugs), and I haven't done that in 43 days. Since I quit partying, I haven't talked to any of my friends. I thought not talking to my friends would give me time to think, and time to break all the habits that came with the constant partying. During that time alone I realized that the drinking and the drugs was what was saving me from reality. I live in a house where everybody can't stand each other, theres constant yelling, fights, and stuff being smashed. Without being intoxicated I can't sleep, I can't block out the screaming, and I am becoming very depressed. What should I do? I'm not old enough to be able to move out and support myself, and I don't want to get back into the partying habit again because that could ruin my whole future. I also don't want to report my family because the few days we do get along are great, and even through everything I still care about them. I don't know what I should do? What would you do in my situation?

Answer 1

First of all, congratulations on being 43 days of being sober and off drugs. Second of all, I'm sorry about your home being what it is. I can relate to that situation in many ways. It's hard to cope with the yelling and fighting, and daydreaming about your life with a different family will not help you. I used to do that plenty of times. I'm not sure how old you are but when you get the opportunity to go to college, take it. If your family cannot afford to send you, take out student loans and apply for Federal Aid. You're on summer vacation right now, but focus your energy into grades and academics. If you want out of your home, you need to work a little extra harder to get where you want to be. Drugs and alcohol is temporary. Remember that. If you want to truly change your life, you are going in the right direction. Don't stop your motivation. Get the grades, apply to colleges EARLY your senior year, and go. I'm not saying its going to be easy, but I am promising it's going to be worth it.

Answer 2

First off, CONGRATULATIONS to you for taming down the partying. That is such a step in a better direction for yourself and your future. As far as your friends, you may want to see about staring to hang out with a different sort of crowd, that is into other things.

See if there is anything you can get from your school, like a counselor, or a referral to see a therapist. Many places will do free counseling for teens. Maybe just talking to your high school counselor will help a little? You don't have to disclose any information that would be turnng your family in, just talk about how there is a lot of arguing. Have you tried like the local Boys and Girls club? Or the YWCA?

I wish you the best, sweetie. You will get through these rough years and be a better person because of it.

Answer 3

You've been there, you know "escaping" isn't really escaping. And when you come down, your reality is worse than it was before, and life has passed you by. I'm a sober drug addict, and I'm telling you, you're looking for an excuse to twist off. And if you allow it, you might not ever make it back to where you are today.. 43 days clean.

Families fight, that's what they do. Get some head phones.

You're best bet is to finish school, and go to college, then you will only have to spend as little or as much time with your family as you wish. And you can't do those things if you're high. Atleast, I couldn't.

Congratulations on your 43 days.

Answer 4

You are taking steps in the right direction by giving up partying, which will not solve the problems you have at home. Have you ever thought of having a conversation with your parents and other members of your family and trying to iron out the squabbling that is going on all the time? Perhaps they would understand that you are trying to change your life. Have you thought of living with another relative, you would have to explain to the relative why you want to get out of your home, but it might be worth it. You all need counseling, and that does not include only yourself. Good luck with this, and try to get OUT if you can find a way.

Answer 5

Talk to God! I know it I sound like a bible weirdo, but I know what your going through and I believe God can help, See if you just talk everyday to him, that will make all the difference in the world. Trust that those good moments spent with your family are worth the few minutes you spend talking to God. Most importantly take no offense to the bad moments. When you become offended by others behavior you are bitterly trapped and it takes up huge amount of precious time. Stay focused on your dreams and forgive as much as you would like to be forgiven. Then you will survive happily
" Don't let life discourage you;
everyone who got where he is
had to begin where he was."
Richard L Evans

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for you;but proud that you stopped drinking and drugs! You are in a difficult situation,but there is hope....Try going to church(some have groups for people hurting) meet some new friends that will be there for you and pray for you and your family. I would also really study in school and make the best grades possible! Read Christian books on how to cope with your family and most of all believe you have the choice to be the person you really want to be. Best of everything to you!

Answer 7

first i want to tell you that have made a very tough decision and i am so glad to hear that you are working towards a better life for yourself. it sounds to me like you need some help through this difficult time. do you trust a family member who could maybe help you? reality can be hard to deal with so the drinking and drugs can seem to be a great way to cope, unfortunately all that does is add to your problems. i hope you find someone who can help you thru this time. just try to remember that even though you feel lost you are not alone. try not to fall back into the old bad habits and try to keep a positive attitude. when i cant sleep i try to think of all of the things that i have been given instead of all of the things i didnt have.

Answer 8

first,i wanna tell you that i'm a chinese girl,and my english isn't that good.so forgive any mistake i make about english.
i'm glad that u don't wanna get back.r u a student?if u r,i think u can stay in the library all day,sleep in the library ,so u won't feel tired at night.when the new term stars,u can live in school.have a normal life.when darkness falls,go back home,listening to the music and think about something happy or keep diary .i like keeping diary.just find youself something to do.kkeep urself busy.busy busy busy.if u r not a student,u can find a job which can offer u a place to live.tell ur boss what situasion u r in i'm sure many of them would like to help.u sould talk to ur parens i think,tell them u wanna be good,let them help u get a job.changed ut cellphone number,don't tell ur old friends,try ur best to keep away from them.yes,u r right,it will ruin ur life if u go back to the life u used to have.i belive in you.u see,there are numerous example of great man,the lived a miserable life before they become someone.just have a little faith,u can do it!i'd like to be ur friends.here's my msn:[e-mail]
i think u need some good friends to help u get through these unhappy days.btw,buy urself some good clothes,it can make u confident.

Answer 9

Print this and show it to your folks when things are going well. Self realization gets 100 points from me. That's the first step to recovery.You all really need to sit and talk openly and honestly without yelling, name calling, throwing things. Set some rules for family meetings. All must agree to follow them. This is the only way you can change things with them by yourself. If not, you must think about yourself and your future. If it's out of control and they refuse to make it a better place to be then you don't have much choice other than invovling authorities. Good luck and don't give up.

Answer 10

I'm not trying to be judgemental but you say your not old enough to move out on your own or support yourself, but your old enough to go out partying and drunk and get high???
Every family has their ups and downs, you don't want to report your family because it can carry serious outcomes and I understand you love them; have you tried speaking to all of them together; or counseling. I wish you the best of luck and I admire that you want to stay away from the partying, drugs, and alcohol because it will definitely affect your future. GOOD LUCK & TAKE CARE