If you were a guy, and your friends talked s*hit about your gf, and said ur a dumbass for being with her. What would you do? Say your gf is bipolar, but she cant help that. But if they were like shes such a b*itch and a s*lut (when actually she's only ever had sex with you), and yadda yadda...what would you do? HONESTLY! Guys and Gals please answers, i would love to hear both sides. Like Gals what would you expect your bf to do? Any one had this problem, if yes what happened?
2007-08-04 19:13:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Umm just a thing...i'm the girl being s*it talked. And umm yeah i dont think i need to say more...
2007-08-04 19:22:23 · update #1
if you really like her, you should stand up for her. you friends might not see what you like about her. if she's not those things then tell them. don't let your friends talk about your girl. maybe there just haters.
2007-08-04 19:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by maeheartsyou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never dated anyone Bipolar then again you never know. I have been in situations before where my friends hated the person I was dating and constantly kept trying to put them down in front of me...but that was before they got to know them. Maybe your friends just really need to get to know your girlfriend more and see she's not what they think. If they know her then you should look into getting new friends or...okies I'm going way out on the limb with this...if you are absolutely 100% ccertain that she's not what they think then you really need to ditch them if you can't convince them otherwise. They're not your real friends then. If there's an ounce of truth to what they're saying then you might want to try and see things from their side...I don't mean for you to dump this girl but try and see why they think the way they do...then together prove your friends wrong.
Best of luck to ya.
2007-08-05 11:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true boyfriend wouldn't take any crap from his mates and allow them to say unjustified things about his girlfriend, if the boyfriend is more concerned about his male mates remarks then he doesn't deserve a decent girlfriend, if he truly understands that his girlfriend has a disorder and that she genuinely cares about him etc, then he should stick up for his girlfriend and not be a gutless wonder! If he doesn't support his girlfriend and believes what his mates have to say (who are probably just stirring things up or trying to cause a rift between him and his girlfriend) over his girlfriend, then there is no trust and no point in the relationship and so should end, no one, either woman or man, should put up with it from their partner if its mean and unjustified comments being made about them, there are plenty of other fish in the sea!
2007-08-05 03:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with her and know her better than anyone else.
If you kow she is not what they are asuming her to be and sure about it then i dont think they are true friends anyways.
But if they are true friends then there must be some spark without which they would not say things about your girl for fun.
Be sure of your conciense.
2007-08-04 20:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chris Dais 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Why do people love to bad mouth other people when they don't really know them. I think it is you they are talking about, and i would expect my boyfriend to stand up to them and defend me, especially because he knows the things they are saying are not true. If he didn't defend me then i am afraid i would get rid of him because if he is not willing to defend you now he will never defend you. You are best to keep away from these people as they are clearly jealous of you.
2007-08-04 19:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1 of my friends had a bf and his friends stopped talking 2 him so he broke up wit her and then i asked him if he really liked her and he said that he loved her witch was Bullsh*t but he never admited it anyway every1 knows he's an a**hole but any way if i were in ur position warn him to stop and if he doesn't do the same to him so he can see how it feels
2007-08-04 19:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd expect my boyfriend to stand up for me. Its OK to have a laugh and a joke with your mates but not at the expense of someone else.
If i were you i would tell my boyfriend how i feel and ask him to have a word with his mates if he wont ask why. It sounds unfair him letting them bad mouth you like that. They sound like w****rs.
2007-08-05 03:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda pisses me off when people do that, like ive dated a girl in school that according to other people....gets around. But i normally just tell them that i need her to get outa a dating funk. And problem solved. They lay off...But if a friends said that stuff to me, id punch him in the face.
2007-08-04 19:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jason D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are dating her, not them. If you really care about her tell your friends enough is enough, and that you do not appreciate what they have to say about your girlfriend.
If you agree with them, dump her.If you are afraid to stand up to them do what they tell you, but keep in mind your life will never be your own.
Just be honest, with yourself and then with your friends.
2007-08-04 19:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by blueink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me and my partner on the beginning of our relationship, now were engaged! everyone was saying to him that im a whore, a cheat, not worth knowing etc, then they were telling me how my partner had cheated on me with them eventhough he was in my company at the time! tell it to them straight, tell them all to f*ck right off, dont let them sad low-lifes ruin your relationship as its worth more than them! theyre jus jelous of what you've got. ^_^
2007-08-04 19:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by Venomous Doll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋