They don't like me since the very begining of our relationship.When we met we decide that we want to try this out so I move to NY bc I am from PR he is dominican. I got a job before I moved and when I move I went to his grandma house bc she was renting a room. I paid rent the whole time I lived there. But then(5 month later)I decided to get my own apartment and my boyfriend decide to move in with me. The parents got crazy they talked a lot of things about me. They said that he should'nt let me move that it was'nt the right time. That I think that I am the man of the relationship and he have to take control over me. I felt very offended bc since when someone have to tell me when I can move if I am the one who is paying for that. I never ask for anything, I work and pay my bills. Now we are getting marry on Jan so I asked him to bring his bills to our house and the dad is saying the same thing again. I just want to have our financial status fix and clear before we get marry. I am wrong?
2007-08-04 19:07:52 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you should think real good before you get into a marriage that isnt going to work out because his family may never like you at all for you so dont even think of the marriage anymore
2007-08-04 19:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found, in relationships, that I either get along great with the boy and not his family, or I get along great with the family and not with the boy! I wish we all could get along!
That being said, I am first beginning to get along with my in-laws and I've been married for 10 years. It's very difficult but I have to keep remembering that I love my husband. I've always been nice to my in-laws, but what you have to realize is that it's your relationship with your boyfriend that really matters. If the parents interfere, then you need to take action to protect the relationship. But, if they want to talk badly about you, then no matter what you do or who you are -- they will talk about you and there's not much you can do about it.
You can try to explain yourself, but mainly they will probably stick with their own opinions. You are not wrong to get your finances in order. Do what you need to do to make you and your boyfriend happy. As long as you two get along, the relationship with the parents will develop. When they see that you're not going anywhere and their son is happy, they'll get over any differences they have with you. Just be prepared because this could take years!
2007-08-05 02:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Angie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are absolutely correct....are his parents old school?? You know super traditional to their culture? You have the spirit of an independent American woman....and that is really quite fantastic!!
Try not to be offended by his parents....but let them know that you are an adult and you are trying to make good choices for yourself and your future. Also, I agree that the two of you should have your finances in order before you get married, sounds to me like you are really thinking ahead. Who cares what they are saying about you, you are working and depending on yourself....so let them talk. They will see your efforts pay off in the long run.
2007-08-05 02:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably have a reason for not liking you, but I can't see exactly what. In the meantime, I suggest being extremely nice to them. After all, they will become part of your family pretty soon. You should also talk to your boyfriend about this. If it still bothers you, you and your future husband can move to another state where they can't bother you.
2007-08-05 02:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anne D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bump them honey!!!UR NOT MARRING THEM UR MARRING HIM!!!!say its ur bussiness and they need to stay out of it cuz they wont have to worry about it for the rest of there lives!!
some ppl said kill them~good idea
some say new relationship~BAD IDEA!!!!
YOU LOVE THIS MAN U MARRY THIS MAN U R THE ONLY PIECE IN THIS CHESS GAME THE QUEEN!ACT LIKE IT!!
good luck peace love and hairgrease!
2007-08-05 02:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake'S. Fall-hard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to deal with boyfriend's parents in general. don't let there words or actions get the best of you. just worry about yourself and your boyfriend. you seem responsible enough to handle yourself. his parents are probably just jealous that your taking there son away from them. just try to be nice, even if there not nice to you, and prove to them your good enough to be with there son.
2007-08-05 02:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by maeheartsyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just do not understand equality and an independant woman. stick to your guns and don't let anyone control you!!!
2007-08-08 18:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should get someone to kill them!
2007-08-05 02:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋