ok my step daughter is well she just turned to us and told us she is bi?

Question

Parents?How would you handle this she is a 13 year old girl.She told us she has dated over 4 girls and had sex over a million times all most with girls I was shocked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean she is almost 14 in 3 days so just how would you handle this and are you bi,gay,or straight.Or do you have anyone in your family that is bi,gay, or straight and if yes then who?

Answer 1

Let me start off by saying that her sexual orientation is NOT the problem here. The problem is that she is having sex at such a young age! You, as a parent, seriously need to focus her on more important matters and get her into therapy to get over being promiscuous - which is dangerous!

Also, at her age most can not say definitely what their orientation is sexually. It takes maturity and years to figure that out.

Answer 2

she's 14, she does not know enough about sex or love, or attraction to be making these decisions....mark my words, she will change her mind/ orientation as she becomes more aware of herself and who she is....at that age, girls tend to gravitate towards each other...if it's not a phase, she will grow into her sexuality and then you'll know...so it's a question of holding your breath, keeping her informed of the facts (that's your job) and loving her no matter what....it is important that whatever she decides to do, even if you don't approve, you still make her feel loved and supported. This is not easy, and it won't go away, so keep taking deep breaths, keep an open mind, and hopefully she will find her way. I'm a parent, I'm straight, and I'm a Christian. Patience and time are key in this for you, and making sure your step daughter is well informed about sex, attraction, relationships, and all that jazz.

Answer 3

I'm bi. First off, she needs to slow down. Get her tested, for everything under the sun. Getting her on the pill would help, make sure she knows about safe sex. Don't be mean and call her a s*lut, and stuff like that. I wouldn't punish her, because she's exploring her body as well as others, she wants to know who she is. Talk to her, ask questions. Make SURE she trusts you, if she doesn't she's just gonna build a wall that will be insanely hard to break through. Handle it with patience, and try your best to understand, and if you dont ask questions, if she's not ready to answer be there for her. See if she needs a therapist or anything. Make sure she wasnt sexually abused or anything like that.

Answer 4

first of all u need to figure out just how much of this was exagerated. i assure u at the age of 13 she hasn't had sex over a million times. this shows me that she isn't being 100% truthful. so is she actually bi and having sex or was this just something she said to get your attention? if she is having sex she needs to be put on birth control (preferably using condoms) and she needs counseling to find out why she is having sex at such a young age. if it was just an attention getter then u need to figure out why she needs that attention. is she not getting enough attention from u? seriously have a talk with her and find out exactly what is going on. then fix the prob however u need to with counseling or whatever. good luck.

Answer 5

Okay, the bi thing is no big deal. There are millions of bisexuals in the world just like there are millions of gays, lesbians, transgenders, heterosexuals, etc. It's the having SEX part that you should be focusing on.

Answer 6

I would be freaked out about the sex partner thing because she is growing up way to fast. The bi thing is normal most woman are bi and experiment. 13 is way too young to be doing that stuff.

Answer 7

first off....u need to be a parent ...or her father needs to be a parent (if shes not in great terms with you) shes flipping 13 and she's done all this!!!! get on the ball!!!! its not totally the parents fault but really.....supervision?????????? shes still a baby!!!! shes young and doesn't know what shes into! and what if one of those girls has something???? she can contract it!!! omg you need to be GOOD parents and monitor her friends! dont ban her from friends but just keep an eye out to make sure all is well. if she still feels this way in a few years...then maybe thats the way she is. just make sure she takes it more seriously and protects herself. its fine to be gay. i have many gay and lesbian friends...and honestly...most of them are whores. not to sound mean but they are cause they've hidden it for so long that they seem to just let anyone in. its weird. but be there to talk but also be a good parent

Answer 8

Well she sure is going for shock value now isn't she? Being a "step" says it all. I say be adult about it. First question to ask...Get a HIV test yet? 2nd question...Are you aware of just how many LIFE LONG stds you can get? Then ask if she's made an appt at Planned Parenthood.You'll foil her intent by NOT reacting. Ask her if she wants you go with her to pick out condoms. In other words, beat her at her own game.

Answer 9

Thirteen? What happened to kids these days? No, I am not a parent; I am too young. But really, that's insane! You should respect her decision to freely date whomever she wants to, but should talk to her about setting boundaries. My Uncle is gay, and we all love him. We think it's great he can find someone he loves for once in his life, without doubting it. Your daughter seems very young, and unaware of herself. Give her a talk. The sex talk, the "nobody's perfect" talk, and the "we respect you, and want you to respect yourself" talk. She might just be going through a phase, who knows?

Answer 10

NO offense but u need way more control OVER A 13 YEAR OLD LIKE U HAVE