I was with my boyfriend for 7 yrs we have 3 children & he has played ALOT of games & finally I got feed up & I broke up with him & I was upset for a lil while after words cuz i gave this man all i the love a woman could give a man & he crushed my heart but then i started feeling stronger after a while & i finally felt at peace inside. then a week after i got over him & him tryin 2 sweet talk me the entire time he told me he was finally over me. Then i started feeling confused cuz inside i still love this man i was with him 4 7 yrs. He still called me several times a day 2 talk. Then 2day i picked up his daughter form a previous relationship( i've been her mom 4 7 yrs her mom didn't want her)so she could spend the day with her siblings she jumped in the car and told me "daddy had his new girlfriend over last night w/ her boys and they spent the night i was really hurt cuz he was suppose to pick up our kids but never showd up. I really cant handle some mean comments I dont no what 2 do.
2007-08-04 17:47:57 · 16 answers · asked by Louisa F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how do i get over him it like he keeps putting salt on a wound. He tells me he loves every day. My heart cant handle much more. I have been strong for our kids cuz i dont want them 2 know anything is wrong. I just so disturbed inside. Why does he keep leading me on if he really dont love me anymore?
2007-08-04 17:50:05 · update #1
how do i let go?
2007-08-04 17:53:41 · update #2
in january he bought me an exspensive engagment ring and matching wedding band for both of us we were suppose to
be getting married in october.
2007-08-04 18:07:18 · update #3
When a farmer is growing corn he has to constantly keep check on his field. There are these parasite plants that they call suckers that attach themselves to the corn and if the farmer does not remove this parasite it will kill the entire stock.
What I'm saying is that I know that it's hard to get over someone that has been attached to you for so long, and it's only natural. Your going through a pruning process. When you prune a plant to take way the dead leaves, you take some of the living flesh along with it, and of course this causes pain. However this pain is endurable and temporary. You can bear it. Remain strong, cut that sucker off from not only your life but the children's as well. One of the most intemadating things to a man (boy) like that is a independent woman. Take your stand and hold your head high! I pray that all will work together for your good. God bless you.
2007-08-04 18:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I probably can't help you, but I'll tell you what I know. I just got out of a relationship, and it's taught me quite a bit. The guy I was with seemed great when he was in acting mode. I finally learned to see through his facade, and realized I was wasting time by putting up with him. I cared a lot about him, and he knew this and held it over me. As soon as I grew a spine and got out of the relationship, his entire disposition changed. Suddenly he "cared" and did everything in his power to keep me around. It was hard not to give in, as I honestly did care a lot about him. I had to tell myself, though, that he was only doing this because he felt powerless. My decision to leave was one that he didn't make, nor one he could control. His emotions were over a loss of control, not the loss of me. It was (and is) hard for me to accept, but I know it will save me a lot more heartbreak in the long run. I've learned a lot about human nature by the different treatment I've received from him through the years. Don't silence any inner knowledge you have about this issue; if you feel like something's false or not quite right, then you're probably correct.
2007-08-04 17:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep walking. Keep taking things day by day, and eventually the road will get a little bit easier. Keep your children foremost in your life, make sure the best is sought out for them, then you still have to make sure you are finding the best for yourself. Its okay to love, but it sounds like you are better off without him. You will love again. Remind yourself daily that there are other fish in the ocean, no matter how old you are. And there is a guy out there that will love you for you. If this helps i have a song that i always say to myself bc the wrds mean alot to me, about who i am as a person. I also went through a horrible relationship, abuse and such were ever present in my life, but i got the strength to leave, it may not be the exact same for you, but believe it or not i still love the man i was with. But it does get easier. So the lyrics to this song help me through my day.
Its by a group named superchick, and the song is called stand in the rain. Im just gonna type the chorus in for you...
Stand in the rain,
Stand your ground,
Stand up when its all crashing down.
Stand through the pain,
you won't drown,
and one day whats lost will be found.
Stand in the rain.
2007-08-04 17:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by SweetMandy01234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My perception of your words is ... you have contradictions, more than doubts...is your heart heal ...already?. Is it really broken at all?...Are you really confused ...?... You are saying ..."Get your mind off it for a while, listen to sad songs, replay memories with them, think about how things are better now" ... I don't get it. I really don't ... your heart is broken, but you are given the solutions of how to heal it ...but you are still confused. Isn't it Ironic ?..... Peace dude.. God never give us weights that we cannot lift ... Sorry ...
2016-05-18 03:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
@$$ HOLE! That is such an insult for him to ditch your kids. You've gotta straighten this out with him before your kids are all F***ed up. How insensitive not to even have a perieod before he dates anyone else let alonw hops in bed with them. You have to either tell him to get his act together for the sake of the kids or take them away from him. To feel beter I would recomend a trick that lots of people use to help themselves move on from a hurt like that. Take several peices of paper and write down all of your feelings for him; your confushion your thoughts your pain. It all goes down. Then fold it into a nice little paper boat and push it out onto the lake. Say goodbye to it, to that period of your life and walk away without looking back. Believe that those are your feelings. That usually helps people. ;)
2007-08-04 17:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Carrots and bunnies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can't blame you to be confuse and all broken,Sometimes men are sometimes ungrateful,I mean when girls dump a guy it takes a guy to notice what he feels and whats needed at a time like this like a new girlfriend,he just wanted to makeover himself,like getting himself back on track.He talks to you so he can still check up how you are, he stills want to talk to you,its not like he mad at you or avoiding you.He had guys over to talk about some stuff like how girls are.An the kid its just something that takes your heart away but it still connects you though him.You can't blame your child really shes confuse as well,sometimes you just have to comfirm a bit and tell her abit of this and that so she notice that you care and you want to have a chit chat to show some love.If you still need to talk about something eles or still about this,you can add me and I message your questions right away.I'm here to talk and read along.Lol.
2007-08-04 17:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by chocolate yum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just goes to show that being without him is a good thing. You have to learn to disconnect yourself from his garbage, rise above it and move on. He is a mean person and I am glad you are moving on, you will be a stronger person for it and he can live with his choices. Karma does happen. Give yourself a hug and be happy. Your soul and mind is clear.
2007-08-04 17:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let his sweet talk confuse you again, he's been a player as you said. You dont' need to associate with him about your personal life or his personal life, the only issue you both need to communicate is the children issue.
2007-08-04 18:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by judy06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry for what happien it happien to me my x boy friend cheated on me i was with him for6 years it really hurt but u can fine some one else don't let treat u bad u only got one life just the best u can maybe he will grow up and think about what he lost
2007-08-04 17:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should confront him ask him how he can still love you and have other woman spend the night. sounds like he wants his cake and eat it to. there is better fish in the sea i know you donot want to hear that. but you need to let go or go back and hope it works but sounds like he got over you fast.
2007-08-04 17:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋