My brother is a very kind person but drugs have taken over his life. He's irriable and depressed. He recently got beat up so badly he had his jaw broken in 3 places, and he will never fully recover from it, years ago he almost OD on a eight ball, and had to phone my mom shaking and in tears to bring him home. He was in he's early twenty's then. Now he's 29 almost and he's facing jail time (because him and he's ex-girlfriend were fighting and it got physical) (that's not his personialty to hit a girl it's the drug and the type of girl his with!) and he's for sure into cocaine as in the police report he had done two lines of coke that night. He;s life is so scary. And he of course thinks he doesn't have a problem.
He wasn't raise at all like this. His personality has been stolen because of drugs. And it's only a matter of time until we find out he's dead.
2007-08-04 17:44:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He gets his back up when you try to confront him. Sometimes he's a mess because of everything crying and shaking. It's so horrible. I even made a point to have my 9 month old daughter she's 11 now, meet him (we live a few hours away) just because I feel she might not get the chance if I didn't do it right away. It's very sad
2007-08-04 17:46:38 · update #1
oops she's 11 months now, so 2 months ago, and things just keep getting worst. He used to have such a lively face and now he honestly looks like kurt cobain, empty broken eye's
2007-08-04 17:48:02 · update #2
Isn't that florida, I live in canada
2007-08-04 17:50:36 · update #3
you can Baker Act him
2007-08-04 17:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by margie k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello i am in the same situation with my sister, but she is an alcoholic, she is the sweetest thing when she is sober and so violent when she is drink she only drinks the hard stuff, I've been dealing with thees for a long time, any i can tell you they wont go with pressure, i have tried every thing and nothing works, i talked to a AA member and they said all you can do is pray they will go on there own, he said it was sad to say but she might half to hit rock bottom before she goes so i am so sorry you half to go through this, they really don't no the drinking and the drugs effect the hole family, thy don't under stand that, so i hope all goes well for you and good luck sweetie
2007-08-04 17:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by marcell2967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly, the person who is the addict has to make the choice, otherwise it won't stick. The first step i believe in most addict courses is admitting there is a problem. And although it is tough to see a family member struggle, there is little you can do. Just love him where he is. And tell him how you feel. Tell him you worry, tell him you know he is worth way more then he is making himself become, tell him you love him and most of all just be there, no matter if he takes your advice or not.
2007-08-04 17:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by SweetMandy01234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this is happening to your brother.This will be hard, but the best thing you can do is nothing. Don't bail him out of jail, don't give him a roof over his head or a dollar for food unless he agrees to go into rehab.
2007-08-04 17:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force anyone to rehab. try having an intervention with your whole family and him. or jail time may be good for him also. my brother is an addict hes been to rehab a hand full of times. it doesn't help unless they admit they have a problem and are ready to quit
2007-08-04 17:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by bendozaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervention. You get a couple of great big guys who've done this sort of thing before, and you have them quite literally kidnap your brother. Then he stays with them until he's clean, or they take him to a clinic that he can't sign himself out of. It's not legal, but no one's ever been prosecuted successfully for it......too much good comes out of it.
Good luck and Godspeed.
2007-08-04 17:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your family need an intervention for him. Get a profeffesional interventionist involved. Listen, YOU cant change him. He is the ONLY person that can change himself. I know its hard, but you and your family cant live like this forever.
2007-08-04 17:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Amelie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There very little you can do for him. You can take his calls and advise hem to go to Narcotics Anonymous. You need to find a Al-non meeting to help you deal with how his problem is effecting your life. God Bless...
2007-08-04 17:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, my brother is the same way. He is kiling the whole family. I love my brother, and I am so sorry for you. You can't make them go.(rehab) Even if you could you can't teach what they can't or won't learn. My brother scares me sometimes, he is rude and loud. Or drunk and high and loves everyone. Our country is in big trouble. Wish I could make them go to rehab together. We can't, I am so sorry.
2007-08-04 18:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stage an intervention. After all - you cannot change him any less than he could force you to change. An intervention confronts him with people who love him and push him to start changing himself.
2007-08-04 17:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from someone who has been there.ive been on your side and his w/ me and my brother. no one can MAKE him quit what he is doing, all you can do is try to show him how good life can be w/out drugs. whether he WANTS to give up the drugs for the good life is up to him. just keep loving and caring for him, and hope that he will understand what he is doing to the people who love him. which i think, eventually he will.
2007-08-04 17:59:43 · answer #11 · answered by chad r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋