He didnt want anything to do with him after the test were done and he hasnt helped me with anything. I went to childsupport and let him know he then started making threats and came to my house 4 days later trying to say he was visiting and tried to leave with our son . He isnt on the birth certificate and I am breast fedding and have request that he come here to visit for that reason . he threw a fit and was cussing and making a scene around our child and shoved me cause i was trying to get the baby so i could feed him . he then wanted the cops called . they said he couldnt take the child . I went to my attorny and got a DVPO and that is good till tuesday but I am wondering if he should get any type of custody he has a very bad temper only wants things he way . and he also has alot of bad habits.. I cant sleep I stay up all night and put the couch in front of my door cause im scared he is going to come here and harm me and take the baby ..
2007-08-04 17:16:56 · 14 answers · asked by melissa a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was only with him for a couple months on and off when i found out i was pregnant .. we werent together during my pregnancy
2007-08-04 17:31:42 · update #1
I have a DVPO.. Domestic Violence Protection Order.. But its only good till we go to court tuesday to see if it will become permanant
2007-08-04 17:33:00 · update #2
I also am truly not worried about the child-support . I just didnt know he would do all of this he was not around at all but once.. he says i am using breast feeding as a excuse now ..
2007-08-04 17:33:49 · update #3
file for a permanent order
2007-08-08 11:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police and let them know everything about this man and tell them that you are afraid for you and your child's life and you need to know what other protection you can get to keep him away from the home. go to your attorney and have him file a motion that he is to have visitation only under supervision in your home because you are breast feeding. Then you let him know that after breast feeding and the child can go to the home you would like one of your family members besides his family there with him while the child visits in his home. You also need to tell the judge that in order for him to see his child his has to get anger management or some kind of treatment for his temper. Until he can abide by these rules then he can see his son under the order for visitation. You can also call ACS and have them monitor your situation and ask them to help intervene as for his home being the best place for the child to visit. There is help out there you just have to call and ask questions if your attorney can not help with other then the visitation call the child support and let them know your case and ask them for help in protecting your baby and yourself.
2007-08-04 17:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you must have cared about him at first. A lot of guys change after the first month or two and start acting crazy or posessive. I'm sorry you got stuck in this situation. It sounds like you DO need to move FAR. I don't think the child support money is worth the hassle with this one. He sounds psycho.
Get a restraining order. ! RUN not walk, out of the area, and don't let him know where you went. This guy sounds like WAY too much trouble.
2007-08-04 17:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by yomama23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that he will get custody based on his behaviour. Is there anyone who can stay with you until things calm down? Change your locks and your phone # and make sure you have the means of getting in touch with people if you need help quickly. It's hard when someone else is screwing with your life because their own is messed up. My bf dumped me and I'm 7 mos preggo. Thank goodness he hasn't come around b/c he can get violent when he's drinking. Take care and God bless. Your lawyer should be able to advise you on the custody issue.
2007-08-04 17:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't get custody of any type because he's abusive. The court can set up visitation with someone present.Can't you renew the protective order? Also, don't allow him to your home anymore, if he shows up don't answer the door just call the police.Good luck and hugs.
2007-08-05 01:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old u r.. but u could help.. many young girls out there..
leave his a&& until he cleans up his act..
u r the baby does not need this..
if he doesn't divorce.. if married..
yeah.. yeal willsend him to anger management... and if it keeps up... maybe a little jail time...
he will get the message sooner or later..
Safety is the most important thing for ur child... walk away and don't look back...
2007-08-04 17:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 00:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by joleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're scared for your child or yourself, then you absolutely, positively, MUST take action. You are the ONLY shield your child has......
Document what is happening with the baby's father. Write down what he says, what you way, when the police are called, etc... It's called evidence and could lead to a life without his threats.
2007-08-04 17:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhhhhh, they actlike idiots in the beginning. It is a control thing, not a love of the child thing. 18 years to go, it will calm down after awhile---the judge has heard it ALL before and will be fair--he can threaten all kinds of crap, but a judge will not listen to it. If you are really scared, like he will really hurt you--get help right away--see your local womens rights advocate--the police will give u the number.
2007-08-04 17:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by laraky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have filed a domestic disturbance when he pushed you and a restaining order. you can still file a restraining order and it sounds like you should then anytime he gets close to the house or you call the police. dont even try to talk to him just call the cops. I have 0 tolorence for guys who bully women cant stand them. you desurve much more then to be treated like that. good luck
2007-08-04 17:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by bendozaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to contact a paralegal very fast! it wont cost a fraction of what a lawyer charges but dear you need to know your rights, your protection and the babies fast, realize you made a big mistake! but atleast you have a wonderful child, make that baby happy!
2007-08-04 17:21:19 · answer #11 · answered by alangj91761 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋