My son nearly drowned 2 days ago, he was in a pool, and he was under water for a good 10 seconds before i got to him, i could see his face under the water, and he looked so panicked and scared, and was flailing and trying to swim, but just couldnt get to the surface, and everytime i think about it i just want to cry, and have several times. He doesnt care, at least not that he has mentioned to me (he wanted to go back in the water within 2 minutes of me pulling him out), but i keep picturing this in my mind...how do i stop?
2007-08-04 16:59:06 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Take the cue from your son. He got over it real fast.
You were close by & were there looking after him.
You shouldn't blame your self for any thing going wrong.
For your son sake & for your self get him swimming lessons.
It is a parents job to get children to adulthood in one piece & you may thing you can do a better job if you really protect your son against every thing.
It isn't easy letting our children learn about life when we want to protect them from all the bumps & bruses.
But by over protecting them they don't learn how to cope when things go wrong.
So watch over him but don't get overly upset with the little bumps that happen, but be there to help him avoid the big bumps.
2007-08-04 17:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go see a counselor and get your child swimming lessons as soon as he's old enough. I nearly drowned when I was 2 in my backyard swimming pool too and my mom jumped in to get me. I was under for a good couple minutes and was all blue and had no vitals. I had to get cpr from the neighbor that heard my mom's screams before I was sent away in an ambulance and in the hospital for a week. My mom still has nightmares about that and I'm 26 now. She said what really helped was tearing out the swimming pool and getting me into swimming lessons as soon as I was able to. She said it was peace of mind to know that if I was an expert swimmer I would never have an accident like that again. It's weird. I love the water and I've never been scared of it even though it almost took my life.
2007-08-05 00:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Eisbär 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do the right thing and teach your kid to swim. Clearly, he is not traumatized by it. He likes the water.
When your raising kids, they do all kinds of things which freak parents out. I remember the 1st time my daughter dove off the high dive at the pool, and I thought I would have a stroke. Within about 5 seconds, she came bobbing to the top. She never jumped off the high dive again for about 3 yrs.
Think of it this way, your child has learned a lesson. I bet he dont do whatever he was doing to make himself almost drown and if he was under for 10 seconds, he has the wherewithall to hold his breath.
2007-08-05 00:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
10 seconds? That isn't really almost drowning. If he almost drowned he would not have wanted to get back in the water. How to get over it? Well he is alive right? That should be enough to move on don't ya think? A lot of people lose children to drowning and they actually did drown as in are dead.
2007-08-05 00:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
its hard at first but its time u moved on from it...its like regaining trust in something...instead of thinking that he nearly drowned think he didnt drown..and be thankful for that.. next time go into the pool with him and let him waddle around and start teaching him basics like how to kick first...good way is to have him hold onto the wall and teach him how to kick ...he'll love the first 5 minutes of it cause of all the splashing...plus u'll be bonding with him...then teach him the arms and if he decides he wants to get to the deep end... let him but just be close by...bring water wings if he needs them but dont force them on him unless he wants them... bring flutter boards and noodles and place them close by spread around the pool so he has little things to swim too...and so while he learns to swim,....he dusnt have to swim TOO far till he reaches a floater and take a break then swim on to the next floater...then wen hes confident enough make them farther apart and soon he'll be swimming in no time...dont always get stuck in the past....think of how we can solve this problem int he future =)....best wishes i know its hard for a mom
2007-08-05 00:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by hiphopanonyms 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A traumatic even like this, or a traumatic even in general happens to almost everyone who's a parent. It happened to my brother, also. It's natural to get scared because he is your child, but you do have to get over it. It's over and done with, and kids will always get hurt when playing ,it's part of growing up. He will probably forget about this, not saying that you should, but you do need to understand that this happens to kids. Since you're a mom, it's going to be hard, but try anyways.
=)
2007-08-05 00:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pray and ask God to give you wisdom in how to handle this. Also to help you to over come the fear. I had this happen to me with my daughter when she was only 1 1/2 years old and it also happened to me when I was 3. You were a good mom and got him in time. That wasn't all the long before you got him so it was no big deal to him.
Just know that you will keep a good eye on him and know in your heart that he will be ok. I always pray over my kids and ask God to keep them safe. God has helped me through many hard times. Some so bad I don't know how I made it. Give it to him he will be your strength he was mine.
2007-08-05 00:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Joni 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk, talk, and talk about it with people who care and understand. You need to process your emotions and fears until you come to the realization that he is safe now. Sometimes events like this help us to put smaller, unimportant things into perspective. He is too young to understand the seriousness of what happened, but he is not too young to sense your fear and pain. Turn to a spiritual advisor or counselor to help you through what is a very natural reaction to what happened. Good luck.
2007-08-05 00:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by CAT 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Time is the only thing that can make you feel better about this situation. Just make sure that someone is in the water with him at all times from now on.
2007-08-05 00:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Watch him, watch him like a hawk. That is so awful. Love him ever day like it is the last. That is all any of us can do. Life is too short and the ones we love are too precious. If you still have problems seek help. I hope you get through this ok. Give your son a kiss for me!
2007-08-05 00:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anna C 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋