my guy was keeping something from me. i found out. but should i give it time or just say was up. he went some where he should never have been sorry thats all i can say. he talks to us all the time so..........
2007-08-04 16:51:29 · 18 answers · asked by ladywolf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok.... Let's take this in a few steps.
1. *ask yourself* on a scale of 1 to 10, how bad is this?
2. *ask Yourself* How does this effect my relationship w/him?
3. *ask yourself* What does he mean to me?
If you give this negative marks, you need to ask the question. You can try and bounce around it, but, If he starts the "denial", he'll figure out you have him by the short hairs.
4. *ask yourself* If I do this, what am I willing to do?
What I mean by this is either you will "forgive and forget" or tell him "Its over". Since I don't know what it is, I've put this in terms that makes you think it over.
I don't envy you. This isn't going to be fun or easy...
2007-08-04 16:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would present him with an opportunity to come clean - and call him on it if he continues to with-hold the truth. Nothing good will come from your harbouring the resentment of knowing his secert, nor will anything good come from any attempt to use it against him at some point down the line. Men don't think the same way we do - if something is left alone for a while they tend to consider that it is "water under the bridge" and "in the past" and isn't important anymore. It's us gals who hold on to this stuff... The only one who gets hurt from you holding back is you. After all, right now he is happily oblivious, right?
2007-08-04 23:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the answer to 90 percent of all questions in the dating section...
Always speak, ask, approach, and the time is always now.
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2007-08-04 23:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Fitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience, never leave anything unsaid! you will regret it. dont start a fight just ask and if he gets defensive then somethings up. be grown about it. its gonna come out sooner or later, why not make it sooner to give you peace of mind!
2007-08-04 23:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by grunt's wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is really bad and you think that it is bad for him then confront him if you think that it was a one time thing then don't say anything you don't want him to think that you have been keeping a close eye on him
2007-08-04 23:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cody w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that "something" you're talking about bad...or...good?Either way, give him some time to tell you. Maybe he will, if he's honorable. If you think he won't tell you, then confront him.
=)
2007-08-04 23:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give it time, but you don't sacrifice self-respect. Draw a line if you were wronged. (Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.)
2007-08-04 23:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by jtvisona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is lying and your snooping your relationship is doomed already...Best thing to do is move on....It will only end badly
2007-08-04 23:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aske him. He does not need to hide things from you
2007-08-04 23:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Georgia Peach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would deffinately talk to him about it. Because it is obivously something of importance so talk about it! no question!
2007-08-04 23:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Koty F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋