I have a problem with been shy and uninvolved in alot of things in the past years and its really bothering me. I dont really have friends and not much of a life... due to the fact that i spend alot of time being unsocial and sticking to myself... Im not trying to go back to my past and change it ...but how can i get myself to live more in the moment and enjoy my life... I keep telling myself that life is short but i keep behaving the same way... How can i force myself to change ?
2007-08-04 16:44:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It will take time but if you are serious about it you just have to push yourself to commit. Don't be overly outgoing, be yourself but be more open. If you go to parties casually walk up to people (male or female) and just start a simple conversation, not what do you think of global warming, but about what is happening at the party, or if they have heard about a certain sport team, or something equally simple. People will react differently to everything so don't get discouraged. Try bringing things to the host(ess) of the party (appropriate things only!), it could have people go to you for help carrying, or to get what you brought. And remember be who you are and don't try to act like people on TV. If you're yourself you'll get people with the same interests. Hope this helps!
2007-08-04 17:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Call me K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard to do when you're shy, but talk to strangers whenever you get the chance. Look for someone friendly, and just let the words flow. Have some things in mind that you want to discuss. (if you can't come up with things on the spot.) Always ask questions about the the person you're talking to. People love to talk about themselves! If you can't think of a question, or a topic, then give them a compliment. Before you know it, you'll be a pro.
2007-08-04 16:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are just private people, I'm a very private person but not too shy.
Just don't be afraid to talk, don't be afraid of embarssing yourself people will care about the opinion, the voice you have.
2007-08-04 17:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rain. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess there's no way for you to change, because that's your personality. just let people approach you, but remember, don't be a snob. be friendly, entertain them. =) and try to smile..
2007-08-04 17:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by johnNy kim 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
start talking to strnagers and you will get out of your shell.
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2007-08-04 16:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋