is my boyfriend gunna break up with me after we have sex?????

Question

i agreed to have sex with my boyfriend of almost a month. we havent yet but within the week we will. he hasnt given me any reason that he WOULD actually dump me but im afraid that once we've done this, that he might want to move on so he can experience other girls. we're both virgins, and he's not a player but what are the chances of him staying with me? are relationship is going well, we really like each other and like hanging out whenever we can.so, could that we a good sign? but the fact that were both 15 is a bad sign though right?

Answer 1

Don't have sex with, much less lose your virginity to someone you would even THINK would dump you afterwards. This insecurity is a sure sign that you do not fully trust him and that you're not ready. You're 15, enjoy your childhood and teen years without dealing with the drama and heartache sex too early can bring.

Answer 2

**we're both virgins, and he's not a player"

How can you be absolutely, postively sure? You can't.

If he's pressuring you into sex, or even suggesting highly, then you should be running...the other way!!!

As a young man who VALUES you and your virginity he should be willing to wait at least a year. A month of going together isn't enough time to wait. You've held onto that virginity for 15 years and you'll going to let some boy that you've only been going with for a MONTH take it from you????

Honey, he's using you. He's doing what every other boy, man, male who has the morals of an alley cat does, trying to get you into bed.

Tell you what, be adamant and tell him NO, you aren't comfortable (and it's obvious you aren't or you wouldn't be asking this question) and that you will wait until you're married and sorry but if he wants sex he'll have to go elsewhere. Now after you say this, see what he does.
Does he get mad?
Does he cry?
Does he stalk off and tell you what a slut you are?
Does he say "I'm glad, and put his arms around you and say "We'll wait together"?.....

You're mature enough to know that you're too young to be giving away something so precious. Your virginity is a once in a lifetime thing... you should save it for your future husband and deep down inside, you know that. Just borrow on your strength Hon....and you'll do the right thing.

Answer 3

Honey as a mother and as an adult woman - please you are not ready. The fact that you even have a doubt that he will break up with you says your relationship is not on solid ground and no matter what kinda crap this world feeds you -- SEX IS NOT JUST SEX.

It is the most significant way to express your love for another person. Yes I said LOVE.

There was no one there for me when I was your age to stop me from making the biggest mistake. Your virginity, whether you are a boy or girl, is precious. You can never get it back.

Do you know why I had sex for the first time - it was not because it was love it was because I fell for that old LIE, everybody is doing it.

Nobody with any respect for themselves or their partner are doing it and making love should never be addressed so casually as "DOING IT".

But, if you do choose to have sex please be safe AIDS, SYPHILLUS, GONNERHEA, AND CERVICAL CANCERS are real.

These are diseases that never go away and could very well lead to death.

Have you two discussed condoms - who will wear one you or him, have you discussed oral birth control, have you discussed the consequences should all or any of the birth control methods of your choice fail and yes they do fail what either of you will do and want.

Do you want to become a mother at 15 does he want to become a father. It is not all sweetness and light being a mother and father and parents in general is the hardest job of your life and if your contraception failed and you become pregnant you are still at risk of STD's.

Please, think long and hard - talk to your parents no matter how hard and uncomfortable the subject might be for you and for them because honey they will still and always will see you as their little baby girl they probably have not broached the subject of sex because they just don't think in that way.

Answer 4

For the love of God stay a virgin as long as possible. I would like to say until marriage but that's not realistic. I know you probably feel mature but save it for when you're older. I can't say what age is better but I do know 15 is too young. You already have doubts about this kid staying with you after sex. You're only a virgin once. Wait until you have a solid adult relationship. Trust me - you will enjoy sex much better if you wait until you are older and more mature.
What's the rush anyway? Don't feel pressured into having sex just for the sake of doing it!
I hope you make the right decision...

Answer 5

No way to tell. Some boys do, some don't, but as your are both 15 there is a 99.9999% chance you will break up at some point in the future, be it right after you have sex or a few months later. If you want your time to be special, you really should wait, at least until you're old enough to make a responsible decision.

Answer 6

Wait back up.

You are both a virgin at 15 years old and you have dated for a month? you waited for 15 years and made that call in a month. I would say wait a few more months, you have waited this long. I dont care if you wait until you are married or not, that just seems pretty fast if you are about to lose your virginity.

Thats really fast. Madonna thinks you are rushing into things.

One question. Did he ask you too? If so he is gone, because you are about sex to him. Actually you are about him getting to tell his friends hes not a virgin anymore.

Tell him you want to wait for 3 months. If he says no, you already knew it was about sex, if he says okay and stays with you, maybe it was about you. At least you will know. But 100% guarantee he walks away.

Answer 7

You need to wait. 15 is too young. And thats coming from a 13 year old! But Im still a virgin and Im proud! Im saving my virginity for when Im really in love. And you say you've been together for nearly a month. Sounds like he just wants to get in your pants! I've known this guy Andrew for about 5 to 6 weeks now. I met him at my bff's bday party. If we had been going out all this time, I wouldnt agree to sex! I probably wouldnt agree for a few years, because for one, most teen relationships dont last that long and why would you want to give your virginity to that? For two, you want to have a strong relationship with great trust and comfort, and that definitely isnt built in a month! For three, if he stays with you for that long and he still hasnt cheated (you know it), then you know he really does care. Four, it takes a long time to fall in love, and thats what Im waiting for. And anyways, if he asked me to have sex so early, its obvious how fast he is, and what a player he is. DONT DO IT!!!

Answer 8

WOAH Major NO NO if a guy is 15 and openly confronts you about haveing sex either a he is very stupid or he is desperate! I strongly suggest that you wait at least 4-6 months before giveing him anything sexual! Make sure he wants to be with you for the long run. If you do it now bad things could happen if he is a player and wants to move on. And you end up a mom because of it!

Answer 9

The fact that you are both 15 means that you probably aren't ready for the emotions that are going to come with having sex, but that's a decision only you can make. If this cat cares about you enough that you want to sleep with him, he will most likely stick around. Just because your relationship went to that level doesn't automatically mean he's going to take off, especially if you've been together a month already.


Good luck

Answer 10

from the bottom of my heart, i say, don't sleep with him. youre only 15 and as much as i don't want you to despise me for saying this, there is so much about relationships that you don't know yet! i mean that in a matter of fact way, not being condescending. you would be so surprised at what all sleeping with someone involves, you want your first time to be with someone really special, someone you've known for quite a while and can be yourself with, and REALLY trust! (which it sounds like you havent been with this guy long enough to know if you can trust him)
also the downside is that even if you use protection you'll be counting down the days until your period just to make sure you didn't get pregnant by some freak chance. just be carefull!
best wishes! -s