Christians, I am one 2 with a Q about celibacy.?

Question

Ok im a christian baptist girl. I havent had sex before because I dont want 2 go 2 hell or be known as a slut. But this whole waiting till marriage thing Idk about it. I mean if you have sex with someone in a long term relationship then it doesnt go as planned and you repent then do u still go 2 hell? All my friends have already done it. I feel like a prude....although most people think im real cool and say Shes a virgin! Whats your opinion? Please no rude comments....Im not a bad girl....

Answer 1

You go to Hell by not trusting in Jesus for your salvation. But don't turn grace into disgrace. You shouldn't have sex before marriage because God says that when a man and a woman have sex "the two become one".

Just because all of your friends have had sex doesn't make it right or a good idea. How much better would if be for you if on your wedding night you told your husband that even though you didn't know who he would turn out to be, you knew that you were going to love him and that you didn't share your body with another man because you wanted it to be only known by your new husband?

Hopefully you can get hooked up with a godly man who has thought the matter through and resisted temptation and who can tell you the same thing.

On the other hand, think how terrible it would be if at your wedding reception your husband was walking by some of the guests and one was telling the others that he had had sex with you before your husband even knew you.

Answer 2

Most Christians believe that it's best to wait until after marriage for sex. There are a lot of good things about this; no pregnancies out of wedlock, no STD's, etc.

You're not going to go to "hell" for making a mistake. I'm sure any loving God will forgive you if you go to Him with a repentful heart.

Answer 3

I don't think you will go to hell if you are trully sorry. But you might want to ask why are all Christians asked to refrain from sex before marriage? I suggest you read the Epistles of St. Paul. But remember that all Christians are held to virginity or celibacy if they are not married. Men and women, no sex before marriage.

Answer 4

You mention that you would repent of your premarital sex only if the long-term relationship didn't work out. The Bible makes it very clear that premarital sex itself is a sin, regardless of whether you end up marrying your partner. If you intentionally plan first to sin and then to immediately ask God's forgiveness afterwards, how can you be truly sorry for what you've done, as true repentence requires?

That was the intellectual half of my argument. The other half, in which I appeal to you in love as a sister in Christ, is this: for the sake of your future husband, and even for your own sake, stay chaste until marriage. Sex creates not only a physical union but also a spiritual union between the man and the woman. Marriage represents this union. Abstain from premarital sex so that you can give yourself wholly to your husband. If you had had sex with another man before your marriage, you would have already had this spiritual bond and you would not be able to give your whole self to your husband. The beauty of marriage is that the wife gives everything of herself to her husband, and the husband gives everything of himself to his wife. It is one of God's most beautiful gifts.

Naturally, Scripture explains this topic best:

18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20

Ask yourself: what good can come from premarital sex?

Answer 5

You will not go to hell for having sex. But you are honoring God with your body, and that is to be something to be proud of. You have guilty feelings, and plus the one who loves you might not respect you for having sex with someone else. You are not a prude for not having sex. I applaud you whole heatedly. Just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean you have too. God bless you as you do the right thing.

Answer 6

Suggestion. Why don't you stop worrying about what other girls and your friends think or do? It's none of their business whether you've had sex or not.
The decision to have sex should be yours-not because you're giving into peer pressure. But if you ask my opinion you should wait a while-no offense but you sound quite immature.

Answer 7

God intended sex to be only between a married man and woman. Sex isn't something you just have for fun - yeah its great (I wouldn't know) - but it is intended to bring the married couple closer together, and so they can become one in a sense. And I don't think you'll go to hell, as long as you repent and are truly remorseful for your sins.

Answer 8

I do not want to offend ... but throughout my life I've had more Baptists frightened to the extreme over fears of going to hell. Why are Baptists so fearful of a loving God who forgives?

Answer 9

you wont go to hell if you have sex before marriage. but also, you cant do premeditated sin. if your friends cant respect the fact that your saving yourself for someone that is ordained from God himself then they arnt your friends. no, your not a bad person. from a virgin to another virgin...i think its the best thing i've kept and i cant want to give myself to my fiance' on our wedding night. dont let peer pressure get to you.

Answer 10

Stick to your beliefs. Wait for the one that God will lead you too. Your waiting is a sign of immense strength and courage, something so few have in this day. May God be with you in your time of confusion.