Okay who should you have in your wedding party? (ie: bridesmades and groomsmen)?

Question

Should you have all your sisters and brothers?
What about spouses?
What about cousions?
Can my mom walk me down the eisle, as my dad passed away 11 years ago?
Who else could walk me down the eisle?
Not asking what I should do, just getting ideas?
Also, if someone invites you to thier wedding, should you invite them to yours? =)

Answer 1

For your bridal party, ask whomever is close to you and your fiance. It doesn't matter how you know them.
Yes, your mom can walk you down, and I think that is a beautiful idea!
You don't necessarily have to invite someone because you were invited to theirs. Remember, every time you add to the guest list, the cost of your reception just went up. Only invite people you truly want to be with you on this special day.

Answer 2

Anyone can be in the wedding party but a bride and groom should NEVER feel obligated to have people in the wedding party no matter what their relation is. The most common number for bridal party is 4 on each side. Obviously some have smaller and some much larger..personal choice. They wedding party should only be people you are close to, friends you cherish and will need the support of during your bridezilla moments. I have one brother standing up in our wedding but not my other brother or sister because we are not as close. I have friends in the wedding who are married and we are friends with their spouses but the spouses are not in the wedding...really it boils down to what you feel comfortable with.
mom can walk you down the aisle or you can walk alone, have a brother, uncle or male friend walk you..or a grandfather. Really anyone who is willing to "offer" or "give away" the bride from her birth family to her husbands family.
AND no..just because u go to a wedding doesnt mean you have to invite them to yours. Stick to a budget and to those people you couldnt imagine your day without. If you fit all of those and then want to invite the others, than do so but there is no obligation.

Answer 3

For bridesmaids, you generally ask your very closest friends.....closest CURRENT friends. Don't feel obligated to ask a friend you've known since you were 5 years old but you haven't talked to her in the last 10 years!! If you have single sisters, it's kind of expected that you will ask them to be in your wedding. The married sisters can be "honorary matrons of honor." You can ask sister-in-laws to perform other duties at the wedding such as guest book, reading in the wedding, singing in the wedding, etc. The groomsmen - same rules apply. Very close friends and any brothers the groom has. Only involve cousins in the wedding party if you count them as an extremely close friend.

Yes, your mother can walk you down the aisle and it would be lovely. If she doesn't feel comfortable doing that, you can have a close male relative like a brother or uncle. If your dad had a best friend, he could even do the honor.

You should invite someone to your wedding if you were invited to theirs RECENTLY. Don't feel obligated to invite them if their wedding was 5 years ago and you haven't spoken a word since then! Remember, it's your wedding and you should be surrounded by people who are close to you and the groom.

Answer 4

For the bridal party you should ask people you are close to or want to be in your wedding. For mine I have 3 brothers and 2 sisters, I only have 1 brother and both of my sisters in the bridal party because my 2 other brothers are too young. They have a different role in the wedding. If you have family you would like to be a part of the wedding that always works well too. If you are close to your siblings liek I am it is a very good gesture, but if you don't want them in it, than no don't. Same with cousins and spouses, if you are close to them and want them in the wedding party then do it! If not then don't, it's your wedding day.
Your mother walking you down the aisle would be perfectly fine! I have a friend who did the same thing, it looked lovely. And if you want to recognize your father, you could display flowers in the front with a little note"In Memory of" in your prograam, if you have a program.
You do not need to invite people who have invited you. Invite who you want to be there and who you want to share your special day.

Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 5

First of all the best advice I can give about attendants is don't ask anyone until about 6 months before the wedding. Just look at previous questions here about how to kick out a bridesmaid. It's nice but not mandatory to have all your siblings in your wedding. They'll always be your family but you might not always be close to your friends. My husband hasn't heard from one of his groomsmen in 10 years same for me and one of my bridesmaids. You can have your cousins if you like, but again it's not mandatory. It would be a beautiful thing if your mom walked you down the aisle. You don't have to invite someone to your wedding if they invited you to their's but usually that means they're your friend so why wouldn't you?

Answer 6

Ok, I think that you should have your brothers and sisters stand up in the wedding.
As for spouses and cousins, if you don't have enough people in the wedding party or if you are particularly close to someones spouse our your cousin then they should stand up as well.
My father passed away as well and I think it is perfectly ok for your mother to give you away. I had my brother give me away and I've seen it where the mother gives the daughter away. I have also seen it where a close uncle gives the bride away.
I wouldn't say it's a written in stone rule that you have to invite somebody to your wedding if they invited you the theirs but it is a nice thing to do. But if you're trying to cut down on the guest list and you're not very close to them then I would say don't invite them.

Answer 7

First I would not have more than 6. I think that your siblings should be in it if you have any sister and he has any brothers. If he has 1 or 2 sisters, similar in age to you, I think they should be in it. If they are much older, younger or he has quite a few then I don't think you have to. Choose your very best friend or two. Unless your cousin is very close to you or one of your best friends you don't need to ask them just because they are your cousin. Your mom can walk you down the aisle but I think it would pay tribute to your father if you walked alone. Perhaps carried a single rose in a different color from your bouquet in his honor.

Answer 8

My opinion:

Yes, all your siblings, and your spouses. It's only right. They've been there your whole life. Cousins- if they're close to you. I only have two first cousins.. so yeah. Your mom CAN but as far as other people walking you down, you should just follow your heart and pick whoever you feel should give you away. Preferablly someone who reminds you of your father? You should have them mention your father too... It'd be sweet!
Inviting someone to your wedding who invited you to theirs, I think would be a nice and the right thing to do. It would kinda feel weird if you didn't and felt guilty.

Best Wishes! <3

Answer 9

you should have all of your sisters and brothers unless you have a serious conflict with one of them.

i'm not sure what you mean by spouses? brothers and sisters spouses? not unless you are really close to them.

cousins only if you are better friends with them than any of your friends.

sure your mom can walk you down the aisle. she'll be very honored i'm sure.

no, there are no "backsies" in wedding invites. hopefully though, if someone invited you to their wedding, you were pretty good friends.

Answer 10

You don't need to have anyone in the wedding party if you don't want anyone up there.

You do not have to ask all brothers/sisters/cousins/etc.

Ask your best friends. If you want your sisters or cousins in the wedding then ask them.

Anyone or noone can walk you down the aisle. Mom, grandfather, brother, your groom, by yourself.

You do not have to invite anyone to your wedding that you do not want there, whether you went to their wedding or not.