I am 30 years old, and I have been dating a new guy for about 2 months now. He is almost 33 years old, and I have noticed that he gets TOTALLY drunk (i.e., "blacks out", is very ill the next day, etc.) at least once every 2 weeks. Is this normal, or does he have an alcohol abuse issue?
2007-08-04 16:07:36 · 13 answers · asked by BK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
According to most statistics your guy has a drinking problem. Age has nothing to do with addiction it can be a 15 yr old or a 90 yr old. Does your guy drink every day ie. a few beers or drinks? Daily use of alcohol is definitely a sign of alcoholism although Bing drinking characterized as drinking only once a week or so but drinking to get drunk - ie. black outs and hangovers - is also a sign of alcoholism.
Try talking to your guy and explaining that you feel that he might drink excessively and you aren't comfortable with the extent to which he is drinking! If your guy doesn't like what you have to say then I would move on and not waste anymore time with him. You can't help a person if he doesn't want the help!
Good luck in all you do!
2007-08-04 16:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lookout dear one. Good question and most of us deal with this at some point in life.
The warning signs are there for you. 2 months since you met this guy and you should not be dealing with this type of issue.
Break away from it now. Wish him the best and dont look back.
If you decide to stay with him well you might as well go and get plastered with your friends. Make a party of it and invite his friends over as well.
2007-08-04 16:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chrism 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has an alcohol issue. he is almost 33 hes not 21 anymore. i think you should talk to him about it and tell him how it can lead to serious alcholism and how he is damaging his liver...just say "hey ive noticed ur out at least once every 2 weeks is there anything wrong? Can you please try not to get drunk soo much? thnx for listening.." if it gets worse tell him to go to rehab right away.
hope this helps! ; )
2007-08-04 16:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by Parle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-11 06:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely not normal.
If he "blacks out", start being very concerned for your personal safety.
2007-08-04 16:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a alcohol abuse issue.
dump him now before he start beating up on you!!
2007-08-04 16:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by EW 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think drinking to pass out is normal. If it just happens, maybe. but if he is trying to get blasted.... problem
2007-08-04 16:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by steferby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
danggg, yes this guy is a serious drinker! stay away from him, he is only about partying and getting drunk, not a good person! :)
2007-08-04 16:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blackouts are REALLY bad. He needs help.
2007-08-04 23:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Keith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it's everynight, he's got a problem. When it's every other week, he's a party animal.
2007-08-04 16:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋