i found out by a guy in reunion.com, he works for some adoption place. anyways, i found out that my birth mother isnt gonna be out of prison until 2009. i am 17 and my parents (not biological) should have told me. Should i comfront them?...that i have found out?
2007-08-04 16:01:39 · 5 answers · asked by AJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, i don't really know, but i did have a couple comments...
perhaps your parents are trying to "protect" you from your mother? i'm not sure? maybe they feel that you'd be better off, or it would be a bad thing for you to see her?
by the time your mom is out of prison, hon, you will be 19 and old enough to decide whether you want to see your mother or not... at 19 you'll be an adult, free to make your own decisions, i'd hope?
i'm sure your adoptive parents care for you so they might have (what you might think are) weird reasons for not telling you about your bio mother.
maybe just go about your business, and make a decision about what you want to do when 2009 gets here?
take care ok? hugs
2007-08-04 16:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to get to know bio-mom? Honey, it sounds like she's going to have some serious issues to work out after her release and she may not be ready for you. Afterall, she gave you up didn't she? Yet, your parents who have been there, love you unconditionally, and want nothing from the best from you, probably already know this hon. And just because they didn't tell you, didn't mean they would do it out of spite. Maybe they were protecting you. You have no idea what this lady is like and you may be opening pandora's box.
If you'd really like to meet this lady, then yes, tell mom and dad, but lose the attitude. Have them check her out for you and see what the situation is. For all you know, she could be in prison for child abuse.
2007-08-04 23:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a mother, you need to know the true love of a mother or father comes from: Getting you through potty training, wiping your runny nose, taking you to school on your first day, watching you sing in a school program, watching as you took your first step, teaching you how to blow soap bubbles, buying your school cloths, setting a curfew.....the list goes on and on..........
If you have discovered news about a biological mom, take the time to write a "loving and caring" letter to you "non-biological" parents.......Give them the love and respect they deserve. They have given themselves to you out of choice and a love like any other parent. Be gentle with your words. They may have had word from your birth mother "not" to tell you.....Give them that which they have given you.....Unconditional love.....
2007-08-04 23:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure this guy is telling the truth before you do anything....
Your parents probably didn't want you to be upset and the circumstance of your mother...
Maybe just discussing the whole adoption thing with them might be of help...
I am sure your adoptive parents love you very much and just wanted the best for you..
Don't be angry with them.
2007-08-04 23:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just didn't want to hurt you... cut them some slack
2007-08-04 23:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Alexis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋