I never get to choose the music in the car..he takes my car all the time and wastes my gas..when he wants to play video games he puts the music as loud as the tv so i cant hear and refcuses to put it down..he stays up til like 3 every morning and wakes me up when he comes to bed every night and i get up early for work..i pay for most things..unless i am have no money then he'll pay..he doesn't listen..when i have something to say he ignores me and when i yell to get him to listen he gets mad at me..and he'll make plans with me and then blow me off to go hang out with his buddies and then when i try to talk him out of it he gets pissed with me even tho he promised me some time...he demands a lot(laundry, cooking, cleaning...after him mostly) but he only works part time and i work part time and go to school and he has the nerve to get mad at me for not wanting to do everything for him....I love him but i think there is a line when its not worth it...am i right to think about ending it?!?
2007-08-04 14:16:46 · 21 answers · asked by vikkish1087 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right to want to end it. I dated a guy like that not too long ago and it was a relief to have him out of my life. I had money again. I only had to clean up after myself. I got all the sleep I needed. My ex had no car and always drove mine and I couldn't take it. I warned him and told him there would have to be changes. He ignored it. He was selfish and didn't care about anything but pleasing himself. I haven't been this happy in a while. If your man ignores your requests to improve the relationship, there is no reason why he shouldn't have to go. He should help you out. School and work is very very hard.
2007-08-04 14:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one doing anything in this relationship. That isn't a relationship at all. He doesn't respect you at all. You can see that by the way he treats you when he is doing other things (video games, taking your car, and so on). No one that truly respects you would do that to you. He gets angry when you tell him that you need to talk. That is very childish. You deserve so much better than this. You may love him, and that is all good and well. But, he does not love you. Love is not some fuzzy feeling. It's an action. He is taking you for granted. That isn't love. You aren't a maid service or a car service. You are a person. Find someone that will treat you like one with great love and great respect. Dump this jerk.
2007-08-05 10:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in love with this man who takes advantage of you at every turn. Kick the bum out this week. Your single,working and going to school. If he wants to stay friends,that;s ok. Sounds like you might want to seriously think about not getting pregnant. Since you asked this question you have given yourself a wakeup call. Get rid of him now. Good luck to you.
2007-08-04 21:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This boy doesn't need or want a girlfriend....he wants and needs a mommy!
Dump his butt and find you a real man!
Love is a two way street. If he's not willing to give it to you or do it for you..he shouldn't expect it. And from what you've said, he's not much in the giving department.
MOVE ON! Find a real man who will treat you like a princess.
2007-08-04 21:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're thinking about ending it, you're thinking about ending it. We're not on the spot with you, so we don't know if the story you're telling is lopsided.
Here are your choices:
a) end it.
b) maintain the status quo.
c) Get couples counseling. If he won't go with you, go alone. You need to figure out what you want from a relationship, and whether it's possible to get that from this particular guy.
2007-08-04 21:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing???? I didn't read one good thing or one good feeling that you have for that guy. Kick him out or leave. It sounds like a totally one way street. Relationships aren't 50/50, good ones are more like 90/90 where each does for the other, respects the other, and loves the other. It doesn't sound like he does any of those.
2007-08-04 21:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey you need a new man this one is taking you for a ride my daughter just went through the same thing you deserve better kick him to the curb. there is a man out there that will treat you like you should be. my daughter has now found a good man he is a farmer i say you can't go wrong with a farmer
2007-08-04 21:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by attitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have let things go too far and it has set the tome for the relationship. It is time to cut him off and let him know what your expectations are.
Give him a chance to change, but if things stay the same you will have to dump him.
2007-08-04 21:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Get Your Ex Back 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him an ultimatum and if things don't change then i would kick his *** to the curb. Give him a month and no more to change his ways and listen to how you are feeling and when the month is over and if he hasn't changed then follow through and leave him. He sounds too immature for your relationship.
2007-08-04 21:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in fact what you say is true, he has the best of everything and gives nothing in return. Leave, don't look back and don't ever go back....unless you enjoy being used.
2007-08-04 21:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋