my oldest brother is getting married. im the only girl in the family and his fiance doesnt have any sisters. is it just me or should i be a bridesmaid?
2007-08-04 13:35:39 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's up to the bride who she wants in her wedding party. Don't take offense if you are not asked to be bridesmaid. Has your brother requested that you be in the party? You did not say what his feelings are.
2007-08-04 13:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have always thought that if you are a brother or sister of the bride or groom that you should be in the wedding.
I had my husbands sister as a bridesmaid and I know I will never regret it because she is family and I will always have my family...friends come and go but family will always be there. So yes! you should be in the wedding.
2007-08-08 07:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Emily G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are immediate family, I think you should. Unfortunately (or not), it is the bride that has final say. She may just have too many friends that all need a place in the wedding and absolutely can't be left out. Doing so may cause a fight or a problem that will just add stress to a probably already overwraught bride-to-be. Besides, no one wants a 50 person wedding party!
Have your brother do some subtle questioning and see what he finds out. If there is no good reason why you are being left out, he should step in on your behalf. However, if there is cause, then just let it go. I doubt your big brother will forget you on his special day. After all, weddings are a family affair.
2007-08-04 15:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by pixie22406 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It might be nice for the bride to ask you to be a bridesmaid - but it is not necessary for her to do so. Bridesmaids and the maid of honor are people that the bride chooses - she could pick all friends or a favorite cousin or whomever she chooses.
I only had my best friend as my maid of honor - no other attendants - hopefully my husband's sister understood, but we weren't very close and I didn't feel like dealing with the hassle of a bunch of attendants. I did, however, ask her and our other sister-in-law to read a bible passage at the ceremony.
If you are concerned maybe you should mention to your brother that you are available to be a bridesmaid if his fiancee wants...
Good luck!
2007-08-04 13:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mirage 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of females standing on the groom's side! You would probably be wearing the same dress as her bridesmaids, and would be walking the recession with a girl, but it's an idea if you want to be in it!
2007-08-04 15:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine Swirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that making you a bridesmaid is something she has to do, but it is a nice gesture to do so since you will be sister in law forever after. She could also ask you to be a part of the wedding in another way such as doing a reading.
2007-08-04 15:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The bride decides who will be her bridesmaids. Usually she picks her relatives or closest friends. It would be a super nice gesture on her part to invite you to be a bridesmaid, but there is nothing whatsoever wrong with her picking others -- it's no reflection on her feelings for you.
Please try not to let your feelings be hurt by this. You are about to get the sister you never had - and you clearly like her enough to want to be part of her bridal entourage. There are other ways for you to participate in the wedding, and it would be an incredibly generous, lovely gesture on your part to host a shower for your SIL-to-be. She doesn't have sisters, so she'd probably really appreciate it.
2007-08-04 13:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
The bride chooses who she wants on her side. My brother is also getting married in a few months and like you, there are no other girls in either family. But I'm not going to be in the wedding party. I would have loved to have been asked, but my brother's fiance has friends who are close to her and she wanted them on her side. If you're not asked, that's their decision. Maybe you can help out in another way. Don't be offended as she may have close friends and they only want a small number of attendants, so she might already have a tough choice to make. Can you ask your brother if they can use your help in another way?
2007-08-04 13:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Usually, yes, it would be the nice thing to do for your brother to have you in the wedding party. It's not just the bride who picks the bridesmaids; the wedding party is for both of them.
2007-08-04 18:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should let your brothers fiance do as she pleases. I wouldn't say anything if she doesn't pick you to be a bridesmaid, you don't want conflict and I really wouldn't tak it personally. This is a day your soon-to-be S-I-L has been playing since she could think :] you wouldn't want to put anymore stress on people. I hope everything works out!
2007-08-04 14:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by X0_JUSTxF0RxFUN 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋