What do I tell my 3 yrs. old daughter, why her brother has different privates?

Question

Basically I just what to know ,What to call his privates?

Answer 1

Tell her boys have a penis and girls have a vagina. Giving them cute nick names can sometimes confuse them when they hear what they are actually called. That should be all you need to say until she gets older.

Answer 2

I would stick to the technical terms penis and vagina. Regardless, don't make either of them feel embarrassed about their private parts, but emphasize they are parts of our body to stay hidden and can be looked at in the privacy of a bathroom when we are alone. (you might not even have to say that much). You don't want them to feel bad about having sexual organs, but they are certainly at an age when they can begin to understand that they are private. This conversation can later be followed up with they are so private NO ONE has any reason to see or touch them unless they are mommy or daddy (or a family member helping them clean up) or a doctor and only when mommy and daddy are there.

Make it along the lines of farting and burping. There is a time and a place for everything. Farting and burping in the house may be okay, but doing so in the grocery isn't polite. Talking about our privates, penis and vagina is okay with family, but not okay in school or also in the grocery.

By the way, my three year old tried to pull down my pants because he wanted to see my penis. I told him that I am a girl and I have a vagina and for about a week he insisted that he had a vagina.

They have so much to learn and recognizing terms and differences is enough, adding that is personal really throws them for a loop. So if you stay calm and not embarrassed throughout the entire converstaion (and subsequent conversations) eventually it will sink in.

Answer 3

My daughter was the same age as yours when my son was born and we just decided to tell her what they are really called-a penis and a vagina. The funny part about it was she kept calling hers a "huvagina" for some reason. And now that my son is 2 and can talk he talks about his "penuts" occasionally! Anyway, I told them that girls have vaginas and boys have penises because that is how we were made. I was very matter-of-fact about it. It is slightly embarrassing, however, when my daughter loudly says in public that her vagina itches or something like that!

Answer 4

just be honest.. i cant stand those retarded names for a penis. just be honest with her.. tell her that she is a girl, and girls have vagina's.. and that her brother is a boy and boys have penis'. and if she wants to know more, tell her the story of adam and eve..

its not bad to teach small kids these things.. its part of life. my two year old daughter knows what her vagina is called.. she doesnt have a brother, so there has never been a question about a penis. (my husband is very careful not to let her see him nude) but if she ever has a brother, or ever asks me a question like that, i will tell her the truth.. thats what i do with everything else we encounter every day, and she is a smart little girl for it!!

Answer 5

You tell her "He is different from you because he is a boy. Boys have penises. You are a girl, and you have a vagina". As she gets older, you should give more exact names for the privates (He also has a scrotum and testicles, she has labia, etc.).

There is no need to give them "cutesie" names for their body parts-it is what it is, and there is no shame in that. There is also no reason you should not tell her the simple truth about the difference.

Answer 6

My almost 3 year old daughter knows that she has a vagina, and although she hasn't asked about boys privates, I will tell her that boys have a penis. good luck

Answer 7

I would be honest, I did with my son and yes he did say penis everywhere we went but I know that if something happens he can tell me and I will know exactly what he is talking about. She does not need details just a name and it is better then a nickname because she will be 15 calling it the same name

Answer 8

Whatever he calls them. If it's a pee pee then call it that. If you have tought them the proper names for it, tell her penis. Boys have one girls dont. My son is 3 and he saw a baby girls private while I was changing a diaper. No big discussion, just plain and simple.

Answer 9

I agree with the scientific names. Why is the word penis embarrassing? I think that parents that make talking about their bodies embarrassing will end up with more trouble later on in life!

I, for instance, when pregnant, tell my kids that the baby is growing in my uterus. They in turn, tend to correct people that say, "oh your mom has a baby in her tummy." It amazes me how many adults snicker uncomfortably at the word uterus!

Answer 10

Boys have a penis girls have a vaginia...the reason for the difference, her brother is a boy she is a girl.