How should I tell my Muslim family that I never had and I never will follow Islam without being attacked by my own family or in other words them trying to kill me???. By the way im only 16 and decided not to follow Islam for personal reasons
2007-08-04 11:51:13 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Wait til you're old enough to be independent and then tell them. Otherwise, you might find yourself vulnerable to their 'honour killings'.
2007-08-04 11:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by sonfai81 5 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Religion is a matter of your faithfulness to God which is not possible through coercion.Islam does not allow a forced conversion.If you are not convinced with its truth, your family should be stupid to kill you, if you are deserting Islam.However, as gentleman and being courteous to your parents you must listen to any argument they propound.You must have courage and conviction to desert your family because you shall have an automatic social seperation. Some of the muslims of Madina had devoted their sons to Judaism as a matter of some social practice at that time but when under an agreement the Jews were asked to leave Madina, the jew offsprings of the muslims were stopped by their parent from going with other Jews.At that time, it was revealed to Holy Prophet in Quran that there is no compulsion in the matter of religion as such those jew turned offsprings were allowed to go away with religious brethern.If the brave Knight of British Empire Sir Salman Rushdie has chosen go out of fold of Islam, he has the birth right to it and those threatening him are doing so because he chose to stupid enough to write rubbish about the Holy Prophet of Islam.In fact these people are defying the teachings of Islam because Islam does not teach to kill such a man.
2007-08-11 04:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by shahinsaifullah2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with some of the others who have answered at 16 you are still under you parents care and unfortunately you will probably have to ' go with the flow' for a few more years till you can support yourself .
you have obviously thought long and hard about this but there is still more thinking to do . over the next couple of years you will change your mind on many things but for the time being even if you have to outwardly follow the same path of your family your thoughts are your own and no one can change them or have control over them.
at this point you probably can't tell them but in fact you have already done the hardest thing which is making the decision
you will probably not have many people you can discuss this with but as you can see for yourself the yahoo gang are quite supportive - i am always impressed by how much. ignore any answers that make you feel bad but even though we don't know you or each other we are always here.
think positive always and hang in there.
2007-08-08 23:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by gillm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! i just don't believe how ridiculous some people sound! (sorry no offence!). i mean you people just hear a few negative story's about Muslims and judge all Muslim family's to be the same way! HEY how would you lot like it if everyone judged you just because of what someone from your religion did!.....i mean i certainly don't label all Christians just because of what Hitler did! so please people think twice before you write.
Anyways! back to the question...well all parents are different and would react in a different way..it also depends on how religious your actual parents are aswel...i really don't think they would kill you..but they might get a bit mad...i mean which parents woudn't?..all parents from any religion want there child to believe in the same religion and no one would expect the opposite reaction. I think you should wait for a while..i mean your what 16?..an age where it just in your nature to reject what your parents teach you or what others tell you to do.I mean you might not think like that later on..or you might do.Just give it abit of time..and like say if you 18 and you still don't want to follow Islam then tell your parents in a calm manner.God knows how they react..you know them best..but all I'm saying is think through your decision k.
2007-08-05 07:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by N@FeE$a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard keeping your mouth shut around people you don't agree with, but if your safety is at risk, then it might be best to wait until your old enough to move out on your own, then you could try to tell them, but if they are willing to kill you over your beliefs, then it may still be dangerous to tell them after you leave. i have 3 kids and i'm a christian, i teach them my beliefs, and if one grew up and didn't want to follow the same beliefs as me, i know i would take it hard but i would never try to hurt them because of it. i have heard before that this is what islam teaches, if someone doesn't adhere to it's teachings then the penalty can be death, is that true? i will pray for you, i hope your parents can one day see that just because you don't follow their religion doesn't mean your not their son and deserving of their love. i really think that for now you should keep quiet about it and until you have a safe place to go and you know they wont harm you, keep it to yourself, then tell them once safe. what country do you live in? i live in the USA and here it's against the law to persecute others for their beliefs. if you live in a country that isn't free to believe what they choose, then when you turn 18 it may be best to get out of there and go to a country where you will be safe, regardless of what decision you make.
2007-08-12 09:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could never be a good time for such declarations to the family... You might have to just suck it in for the time being. That is the best way to keep the peace within the family - which I believe is an honourable priority, whatever the case or personal reasons you may have. I will pray for you, nonetheless.
2007-08-12 03:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Islamic Religion is hateful to non islamic peoples and converts from it are treated harshly by "good" muslims. If your family feels strongly towards infadels, you will have a long road ahead of you. If you are converting to Christ, ask the Good Lord to assist you and say the Our Father, slowly, several times a day for guidance. You may have to hide your decision untill you can move out. God bless.
2007-08-04 12:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by carmel 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Two possible solutions:
1) Have a calm rational conversation with your family now. Express yourself as an free-thinking mature adult not as whining child.
2) Go through the motions until your 18 years old and in the world or in college and tell them then (as an adult).
2007-08-12 02:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by ta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raj, you must not do anything yet.
The time is not right, and you are too young.
Man can take your body but your heart belongs to you. Stay focused on your own beliefs and one day the opportunity will arise. Till then my dear friend know that you are not alone many people understand and will help, but not yet! You are still very much under the care of your family.
2007-08-09 20:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you Trust and Love the One and Only True Living God and Lord Jesus, then be strong, be of good courage and tell them honestly of what you believe! As the Lord Jesus said; Mat 5:8 Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.
Is that what you mean" for personal reasons"? It's all about Mighty Creator God? If not then just be honest to tell your family that you have your own preferences to follow and believe! for if it is all about Lord Jesus, i know and i truly believe God will help you, tell your family, just be prepared to whatever consequences that may result in confessing such to them!
2007-08-12 08:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ephesians 2:8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, wait till you're 18 and go to college or get your own apartment and a job. It is easier when you're not completely dependent on them. But you know your family, and none of us do, and only you can really guess at their reaction.
It's your life, you have to live it your way. It's a cliché, I know, but true all the same.
Just bide your time. You'll know when the moment to tell them is here.
2007-08-11 11:06:23 · answer #11 · answered by ivy_la_sangrienta 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋