All of a sudden everyone (family, old friends, random acquaintances) is asking me if I am single. Then, when I say "no," I am instantly hit with some variance of, "Don't worry. You still have time."
I still have time?! Yes, I'm 23. I haven't graduated from school yet. I would say I have plenty of time and I wasn't even thinking about "time" until everyone else started bringing it up. They also keep dropping hints that they expect me to meet someone at any moment. Like my aunt telling me to watch my weight because I might meet someone and want to have kids sometime soon?!
I don't know where this is coming from, but I just want it to stop. I'm okay with being single, but it seems like everyone else is upset about it and I'm NOT going to be in a relationship because everyone else wants it. My brother is 30 and single and no one is even pressuring HIM.
What can I say to make them shut up about it?
2007-08-04 10:32:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Ummm? I don't have an attitude about it, they do. My problem is being asked about it all the time and hearing the inane followup of "you still have time."
2007-08-06 09:29:00 · update #1
Funny, I was just reading this morning in a mag on how to set boundaries which is what you must do in this situation. I will quote "Take responsibility for you own boundaries. Figure out what you need. Communicate it clearly and effectively to others and stick to your guns" Let me see - I would say "Hey that is my business - I need some privacy here. I promise that when and if I make a committment to someone you will be the first to know. In the meantime please don't ask. I feel so uncomfortable when you do". Well you get the jist - say it in your own words and good luck!
2007-08-04 10:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that a woman doesn't need a man in their life to be a whole person, and that when you have your career established you might think about wanting to meet someone. People are more likely to meet a life partner when they are not actually looking. As for your aunt, tell her body shape/size has nothing to do with finding truelove. If a guy cannot love your body the way it is he is not worth having around. Not everyone needs to be a size 6 to find love. How idiotic!
2007-08-04 10:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to get that a lot, along with the assumption that I might be gay (always the reason why women are single). I just tell people the truth, which for me was that I didn't meet many men I was interested in dating but that I was always willing to be set up if they knew anyone who fit the criteria. I got married 3 months ago. It finally stopped.
2007-08-04 10:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them politely to not worry until like your brother you are 30 and still single.
Get your degree. I did before any of that and it has never, ever been a regret. In fact my kids that I do have now respect my advice on how important an education is!
2007-08-04 11:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Nurse Winchester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone asks, "Are you seeing anyone right now?" say, "Yes, I can see YOU right now, you're right in front of me!" haha
Meanwhile, if people keep pressing you about relationships, just tell them that you don't want to even think about a relationship until you are 30. That will give you seven good years without pressure........I hope.
2007-08-04 15:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 10:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by kostenbauber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be polite, smile and say you're seeing a lot of people. What's with the attitude? Just laugh.
2007-08-04 13:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it's your life and could they please ease up. Or ask them why they're pressuring you. I bet they don't even know. Just stand up for yourself, and remind them that you're only going to do it once. You shouldn't have to keep defending your lifestyle, so tell them that. At that point, if they keep bugging you, it's their problem, not yours. Let it roll off your back.
So it's half defending and half ignoring.
2007-08-04 10:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by demimonde00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely tell them how you feel, It sounds like they are just trying to be nice. Once they know how you feel, it should stop.
2007-08-04 10:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by amondriscoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "there is someone," and refuse to give very many details about him they will think you are just really shy about talking about him when really there isin't anyone.
2007-08-04 10:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by THE ONE! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋