Would you say that you love your (or soon to be) inlaws?

Question

I'd like to know how others feel about them. I'm in between. His mother and I are getting pretty close, and she has reiterated to me that she is always there for me and wants to be my friend. His brother and his dad and I are not very close (after 3 years). His brother lives far away though, and his dad is a doctor and works 12 hours a day.

Are you close to your future inlaws? Or if you're already married.. would you consider them another set of parents?

Answer 1

Truthfully, I can't stand most of my in-laws. They aren't exactly the nicest people on the block. His aunt is the only one out of the gang that I could spend time with and get close to - but unfortunately, she lives in NJ (while we live in FL!). If you have in-laws you can rely on - great! And congratulations on your marriage.

Answer 2

I have a wonderful relationship with my in-laws. But it didn't start out that way. I'm extremely close to my two brother in laws, and I love them just like I do my own brother. My father in law and I started off great, and he's a wonderful person. My mother in law on the other hand, is a different story. Her and I had a very, very rocky start. We only talked when we had to talk, and avoided ever having to be around each other. But once my husband proposed to me, everything did a 360. She started calling me, helping me plan the wedding, we went shopping, had lunch dates and everything. On my wedding day, she wrote me a note, telling me how she always wanted a daughter, but was only blessed with her 3 sons, and now I was her daughter and she wanted to be the first to accept me into her family. She apologized for everything that happened prior to the wedding, and told me how much she loved me, and how proud she was to have me. It made me feel wonderful, and my MIL and I are now so close. She's a wonderful person, and I love her nearly as much as I do my own mother.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I knew the day that I met my future in-laws that we would never be close. They were very fake and not genuine. When we got married I actually disliked them very much but over the years I have made peace with the fact that they are very different and that we will never be close because of our different backgrounds. I envy my friends who have close relationships with their in-laws but at the same time I like the fact that we give each other space. I have my own parents and my own siblings. I have no desire to have another set. They are his family and I respect them as such but I don't really consider them to be my family.

Answer 4

I just got married and I wouldn't consider my in-laws to be another set of parents but I wouldn't say that I don't love them. I am not really close with them but I always think of it this way, if something bad were to happen to them would I be upset and sad...and the answer is yes which means that I do care about them and will eventually grow to love them as parents instead of as just my Husbands parents.

Answer 5

My in laws are great, better than my own mother. When I married their son, I had two children aged 4 and 2 from a previous relationship that they immediately took to their hearts as their grandchildren. In fact, they set up college funds for them not 2 days after our wedding. They have been very very helpful to us with support and encouragement, and have helped out financially since we are both finishing up college. While my mother in law and I have butted heads a couple of times, it has only been because of lack of good communication, and not understanding where one another comes from, but we've always managed to work things out.

My mother is a terrible woman who would not even attend out wedding because she was angry that I was moving the kids away from her, and has sniped at my husband every chance she has gotten. My in laws are like the parents I never had.

Answer 6

I have loved my in-law (my husband´s father) ever since I met him 3 years ago. He has always welcomed me into his home, been the perfect host, and by the end of our first visit to meet him, he cut roses from his garden for me to enjoy.

Unfortunately, my husband´s mother passed away in 1995, but I´m sure I would have loved her as well-she raised my husband,and how could I not love her.

I could not have chosen a better family to marry into-they are all German, and very loving! We just had a party to celebrate our wedding which they could not attend-it was in the States-and all of them made me feel so welcomed into the family, and presented me with a necklace that used to be their Mom´s and made me cry.

Yes, I consider my husband´s Dad to be another father, and I call him Papa to show him I think of him as family. My husband, on the other hand, loves my Dad so much, he calls him Daddy-kinda silly I know, but he LOVES my father so much.

Answer 7

I only met my husband's father once and that was when we had been dating a couple months. He died a few months later. He'd also been divorced from my mother in law for years and had little contact with my husband.

My mother-in-law, though, I knew quite well and liked a great deal. She was never another mother to me, but she was a good and loving friend. She's been gone for several years now, and I miss her a lot.

That was the sum total of his family, unless there's a distant relative or two in Japan that we don't know about.

Answer 8

I love my in-laws! I always feel like an exception to all the rules when I tell people this! My in-laws helped with our wedding, helped us buy our first home and are helping remodel it, take care of our daughter while my hubby works and I go to school and are just generally wonderful people. I call them by their first names, I'm not calling anyone but my Dad "Dad" and I never really had a Mom so that's wierd for me. His mom has really stepped up and tried to be as much of a mom to me as possible and I really appreciate that. They are totally another set of parents to me!

Answer 9

In laws are what they are. It's what you make of the relationship. I've been married for 20 years. I couldn't ask for a better MIL. On the other hand my FIL is my husbands father & I respect him ....he has a different personality,he raised 3 boys. He doesn't go out of his way for any of the daughter in laws or the granddaughters. Now that he has a Grandson I see the biggest change in him.

Answer 10

Totally.