My brother came to help me decorate my dorm. He totally messed it up and I yelled and slapped him. He wont answer my calls and I dont want to go to my parent's house.
2007-08-04 09:42:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
YES you should feel bad you need to apologize right away
2007-08-04 09:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll stay out of the issue of how you should feel and stick with what would be good to do: buy a nice card for your brother and write him a brief note of apology. If he's willing to do all that hard work for you, he's a really good brother and meant to do well for you, even if it didn't come out the way he meant. (If you are old enough to go away to school or college, you are too old to be slapping people. Time to start speaking your mind in exact but civil terms, a habit you'll need. You can do it.)
That room is a very temporary place you're going to live. Your relationship with your brother will last as long as you both live. Which is more important?
One thing I have learned that I can share: when you take free help, you give up the right to criticize the results. That doesn't mean not ever to accept free help. But you have to keep an eye on the process and call a halt to it if it seems to be going wrong. If it's very important for the results to be a certain way, it's best to either do the work yourself if you are able or hire someone. If you're paying someone, you have the right to criticize and to insist on the results you want.
A few years back, two friends offered to do some interior painting in my house. I said yes. These are people in whom I have a lot of basic trust, and paint fumes make me wheeze (the reason they offered), so I cleared out while they worked.
They brought along some orange juice and rum and got buzzed while they painted. Result: a decent job on the walls, but lots of spatters on the floors. What I did: buttoned my lip, put rugs over the spatters, and resolved to hire a painter the next time. Wrote them a thank-you note. Their friendship is more important than a few spatters, and the floors are old and battered anyhow.
2007-08-04 10:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are two sides to this story...yours and his. Don't know what your defination of "Messed it Up". But listen...life is too short to be mad at anyone. Anyone who hits someone else has anger issues...hitting is a big big NO NO!!
Explain to your parents what happened, and tell him that you would like to extend an olive branch. Perhaps you can take him out for a Starbucks or maybe an ice cream somewhere to patch things up.
My brother and I got into a big arguement 7 years ago...we haven't spoken since. Actually, he caused the agruement, and I've tried to talk to him on several occasions, but he won't give in. He told my OTHER brother that he could go his rest of his life without talking to me.
So learn from this mistake, and go and talk to your brother.
Take care,
Abby
2007-08-04 09:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yelling is OK but slapping is a no no he was doing you a favor and you threw it back in his face i wouldn't answer your calls either if i was you i would first decorate your dorm the way you want it then it will make you feel better to live in a environment you like then i would grovel my sorrows until he forgives me explain that you appreciate he's help but that's just not the way you liked it maybe in the future you wont get someone so close to do you favors if you like things done the way you like it do it yourself then you only have yourself to blame !!!
2007-08-04 09:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you paid him to decorate, then of course you could have thrown a fit about the mess he caused. but since he just HELPED, meaning, he used his OWN time to help you out. yelling and slapping him was uncalled for. if i were you, i def would feel bad.
2007-08-04 09:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by diamondgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is "yeah, you should feel bad".
Call your parents and tell them what a schmuck you were and ask them to beg your brother to answer your calls. He will call after he licks his wounds and picks his ego up off the floor.
You owe him. Next time you have a planned get together, give him something nice.
2007-08-04 09:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by jjudijo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH!!!
Your brother was being nice. Maybe he doesn't have the fashion flair as you do, but slapping and yelling is way over the top. He's your brother. Apologize.
2007-08-04 09:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by __@__ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah u should feel bad... seriously he was only trying to help. U could have changed it after he left, its not like he is going to be hanging out there.
2007-08-04 09:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by always wonderin 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hmmm u can call ur bro from some1 else mobile n ask him to meet u somewhere bt dnt tell him ur name...buy him a sweet gift n an im sorry card....n tell him ur genuinely sorry...it should work out....good luck
2007-08-04 09:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by radz_punk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should feel bad and start acting your age
2007-08-04 09:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋