Where are the parents?

Question

Why are there such young kids getting on here asking questions that are so 'adult'? What happened to being a kid? Parents - get your heads out of you a**es and pay attention to what your children are doing. I don't let my kids touch the computer unless it's school related. I grew up without it, so can they.

It's hard to be a grandma when I am 29.....so no, no grandma here child. Just a 29 year old with three kids ages 9, 8 & 8 who cares about what's going on with kids. Who worries about other kids because my children do have to be around them and the lack of parenting out there makes for troubled kids. Hopefully I am strong enough as a parent to keep my kids straight.

Answer 1

Amen Heidi! I have often thought the same thing...I've decided the first thing parents should do is instead of letting them post questions on here, sit them down with a spelling and grammar book! It's appalling, not to mention really scary, that their language is "text speak." I really do worry about the future, because if it's as bad as it is on here sometimes...we are all in big trouble!

Thanks for being a responsible adult...there should be more like you out there!

Answer 2

I agree that I wonder whether parents know what their kids are doing. I think a lot of the kids are posting these questions to be cool, or because they need attention and don't get it at home. Also, maybe they don't really have anybody in real life that they could ask these questions (though I don't exactly know what adult questions you are talking about as I have not been on here for even a week yet).

I think a lot of kids "know" more than my kids do, so I am not surprised to hear there are kids on here asking questions that are shocking to a 29 year old mom. I homeschool so my kids are not exposed to a lot of the stuff public school kids are exposed to, but that doesn't mean that *I* cannot imagine what those things might be. I just choose to keep my kids interested in good things, as opposed to taboo things. I don't hide it from them; we just don't thrive on it; instead we thrive on real things that interest them like science, nature, playing, and more. I don't personally worry about my kids being on the computer because they don't know about all the garbage out there. Sure, some might think they are naive in a bad way, but they are not. They just don't think most taboo stuff is cool, and they couldn't care less about being cool anyway.

Answer 3

this is a heated debate in our house... i gave them leeway. i thought we had thoroughly discussed all situations that could arise from the computer, from access to porn, wich happened one day when they were working on a school report, i was standing right there and was in shock.. to the chat rooms. and everything else...my girls go to grandparents after school and they are even stricter they are only allowed monitered use for limited time. we all talked about it and agreed ....everything seemed fine. to the point that they were not monitered so much at either house. ..... then just a few weeks ago we discover that one of them has been not only talking to boys but in a very grown up way.... [possible predator]]] we printed up her e-mails and read them all. she was embarressed and in trouble. has had all priveledges revoked indefenitly. when i had them alone, { now this sounds mean but effective}} i grabbed her by the scruff of her neck and threatened her if it ever happens again............................. and then i looked at the other one and said do i need to repeat myself???? they almost peed their pants. TOUGH LOVE>

Answer 4

Dr. Philamona, A computer is NOT a necessity by any means, and if teacher wants an assignment typed, the school provides the necessary supplies.

Answer 5

I remember so well being a young girl with questions. But I was embarrassed to ask those questions.

If I asked a parent or teacher, then they would ask why I wanted to know. There were lots of things in my mind and I did not want to share my thoughts. Some were sexual. Some were philosophical. Regardless, none were dangerous.

I could try going to the library but if I needed help, I did not want the librarian to question me either.

The internet is the greatest invention for young curious minds. It is a safe enough arena for my kids to ask their questions without fear. They know that they can always come to me to ask questions too; but it is then their own choice.

This arena is safe to ask questions anonymously.

Answer 6

yeah I do understand where your coming from, and it's a very good idea what your doing with your kids. Really the reason is just the kids hearing adult questions from their superiors like older brothers/ sisters etc. so they decided to post it online to try to look more adult

Answer 7

honestly. im 19now and have had a computer in my room since i was 13.and my mother isnt very computer knowlegable,so basically i have always been able to do whatever i want,and i have grown up just fine. with the chatting and porn and everything else u can do online. for some kids like myself. this freedom wont hurt,because im not stupid,or crazy,or a "problem child" i never repeated what i saw online u know,because i knew not to, without my mother telling me....u jus gotta know ur kid,to know how much to keep them offline

Answer 8

well while I agree with the first part of your comment, i don't agree that kids can grow up without a computer these days. Like you said, school work! These days teachers expect kids to summit their work typed.

Answer 9

Amen. But sometimes I suspect the 13 year old girls asking certain questions are actually 40 year old male perverts.

Edit: Oh go ahead and thumbs-down me. You know they're out there.

Answer 10

Exactly! Parents are just too busy trying to be the cool parents instead of vigilant, tough educators, providers, and role-models.