Please how do you plan a wedding that your date is fast approaching and you have no clue what to do?

Question

I was blessed to meet my fiance thru yahoo personals.I'm 46 years old he is 47.We believe it is an act of God,but here is what i'm struggling with please help me,i have no clue on planning a wedding?The great thing is we did set a date September 14th of this yr.I have watch programs ect,I ask Steve if we could 'just elope'that was a big fat NO he wants a wedding and i'm like no clue what i'm doing.He's handled all our honeymoon.HELP!!!!

Answer 1

You can do it. Pick you venue - a B&B, chapel, park or small resteraunt would be a perfect setting. Get your wedding planner book, look for a dress & invites. Good luck!

Answer 2

1. Decide who you want to marry you? In a church, temple, judge? You should contact them first and see if they are available. If not, go to choice #2.

2. How many people do you plan to invite?

3.Where would you like your reception and what type? Skip all these 'themes' and go for just a straight forward classic wedding. What I'm asking is do you want formal or informal, indoors or out? Backyard or Hall?

4. Once you have the above decided, start making phone calls! Contact caterers, halls, people who do pig roasts or clam bakes, etc.

5. Go dress shopping! Hit the local mall and find yourself a nice dress or suit that goes with the formality your are using. If you are going full blown formal, look for a formal gown in a nice color that compliments you - doesn't have to be white or ivory or champagne - whatever you want. If a little more informal you can still have a nice gown or long skirted suit if you want - or for that matter you can get a street length fun and kicky dress. If you're going to have the backyard reception, find a nice top and capri's and you are good to go!

6. Florist - count up how many bouquets (bridesmaids, MOH?), including yourself, how many corsages and buttonierres and place an order in whatever colors work best. Sit down with the florist to discuss colors and styles.

7. What type of beverages? If you are using a hall they can advise you on various types and the costs - open bar? no alcohol? beer & wine? punch & soft drinks? they'll also tell you how many bartenders you'll need. If you are doing it at home, then you may be able to convince family members to take turns manning the bar area or have it self serve.

8. Music, not only for the reception, but the church as well. What type and what format? Organist? Quartet? DJ? CD's?

9. Invitations - print them on your home computer or if you really have your heart set on fancy ones, track down a '1 day' printer that can get them to you fast.

10. Make sure you go get your license in time. Not sure where you are located but some states have a waiting period.

11. Stick with simple decorations - If it's in the backyard, and you are going for a fun look, use glass jars of all sizes and shapes as vases and put in flower bunches. Votive holders with citronella tea lights will add some bug relief as well as ambiance.

Answer 3

Have a civil marriage on the date you have planned with a few family members and friends as witnesses. Then plan a celebration of your wedding a month or so later. Something low key possibly at your home or a restaurant. You will have a wedding. You won't have the hassle, expense and stress. Think a BBQ or picnic in your backyard or even at a park. You are all grown up now and your hubby to be wants a celebration so have it both ways. it is possible ! There is no need to go into massive debt or get all stressed out.

Answer 4

A smallish wedding can be planned in a month, but you'll have some work ahead of you! You didn't mention a budget, or how many people you want to invite. If you have oodles of money, it's easier. Just hire people and pay them to do most of this. If you're on a stricter budget, then you will have to do a lot yourself, so be prepared for quite a list of thing to see about and do.

First you need a venue for the ceremony and the reception. Might be the same place, or it could be different. Having everything at the same place is easier. Do you belong to a church? What about a local hotel or restaurant. Someone's home or back yard? If outdoors, you'll probably need a tent. A small wedding can be a the local park or lake. Or beach if you're near the ocean.

You'll need a license. Many places have waiting periods. Some states require blood tests. Here in NC, you have to use the license within 30 days.

You need an officiant. Judge, justice of the peace, magistrate, priest, pastor, rabbi. In some states, you can get your friend ordained by the Universal Life Church to perform perfectly legal ceremonies. Many church affiliated ministers require pre-marital counseling before they agree to marry you. Some don't.

Then what for food? Mid afternoon, you can serve cake and punch. Morning brunch. Evening means dinner, unless you get married late in the evening. Then cake and punch again.
You can hire a caterer or ask friends to help prepare dishes, or have it at a restaurant.

How many people will you invite. Decide on a guest list and get the invitations out soon! You can buy kits to print on your computer that are quite nice.

You can wear your own dress you already have. You can hunt a wedding gown, but there is not much time for alterations. If you're easy to fit, you may find one straight off the rack. You might get a nice formal dress that isn't a gown, or a suit.

Will you have friends stand with you? They'll need clothes, too. What color? Can they wear their own?

Decor. You can shop the dollar stores and thrift stores for attractive candles, vases, doo-dads etc etc. You can bulk order flowers from Costco or through on-line vendors. You can hire a florist for everything, or you can rent silks from wedding or party shops. You can also pick wildflowers, or buy from the local grocery store and arrange yourself.

If you get married at a wedding chapel, they are already decorated and usually have packages that supply everything, including the photographer.

If you are outdoors at a beautiful location, you don't need much in the way of decoration.

Cake. You can hire a bakery to create the perfect one. Many supermarkets have a nice bakery section with wedding cakes. Some of them are very nice. Even WalMart does wedding cakes. There may be a local person who makes them on the side, but get references from people who have used them before.

Photographer. September is still prime season for weddings, so you may find most of the local pros are already booked. You might try Craigslist, or maybe you have a capable shutter bug in the family who could do it. Try to get someone with experience. The photos are the lasting memento of your day, and you want good ones. Most happy snappers aren't able to deliver quality images, so try VERY hard to get a working professional with a local base of customers. If that isn't possible, ask at your local college in the arts department for talented students. If you strike out there, at least ask the better family photogs to snap away with their digicams. Do not depend on disposable cameras on tables for your wedding photos!

Good luck in your wedding planning and your future!

Answer 5

go to theknot.com. The first thing to do is get the wedding venue where you will have your reception locked in. Then book the church and minister or reverend. If you really feel swamped and overwhelmed, then hire a wedding planner. But when you lock in the reception venue, you will have to choose food and drink etc. There is wedding invitations, wedding gown, photographer, wedding cake, limousines, choosing bridal party or maid of honor and best man. Go to theknot.com, and also do a search:

" How to Plan my wedding."

"Step by Step on Planning a Wedding"

That will be a great help to you

Good Luck and don't worry, things will work out fine.

Answer 6

If you have a nice hotel in your town with a banquet room, a lot of times they will have a person who helps the client coordinate the event they are renting the room for, plus they have endless contacts ! For the wedding itself, see if the hotel has a garden or a pool that would make a suitable backdrop to exchange your vows (all in one shopping !). Also check out bed and breakfasts in your area, most B&B owners are the sweetest people who sincerely love to have small events at their house, and may even help you plan it.

Answer 7

I would try to find a small church or a nice little outdoor venue and only invite close friends a family. Then after the ceremony have just a dance with a DJ and invite whoever you want to share the wonderful day! That way you don't have to pay for a huge dinner for everybody but you still get to celebrate with them.

Answer 8

first you are not saying if you want to spend more then a average wedding! lest say you both want a comfortabler day under 100 people! i would fast call some caterers, a decent florist, the caterer has halls u can rent not costly!contact a wholesale distributor of wines! have your soon to be go to a place like mens warehouse, great look without heavy pockets! you go to some wedding gown stores, and that all can be done in less then a work week, good luck and congrats to u 2

Answer 9

Major steps:
1. Get a location!! Backyard or Renting a Hall- decide this first, as it will afect everythign
2. Get the food organised- meet with caterers in your area, as well as a cake designer.
3. Purchase a dress
4. decorations!! Even if its simply asking a few friends to help string some paper lanterns in your back yard - Get it done!!!!!

Answer 10

Call a wedding planner. Maybe you can just have a meeting with her/him and she can give you tips/outline of what to do.

See if your husband will go to Vegas to get married at a hotel there. They have beautiful spots there and it can also be your honeymoon. Fly in some close friends to celebrate with you. I love the Paris there.

Otherwise, call around to find a venue to get married at (your church??) and somewhere to have reception (your house??). Go pick out dress/veil/shoes. Check websites on google.com about wedding planning or go buy a book at Barnes & Noble.

Congrats!!!

Answer 11

first things first, you really should have the invitations out by now, so dont count on having a big wedding with families there if you are sticking with your date, and most places would be booked by now anyway, so maybe you could just go to the justice of peace and then have a big reception in a few months.