Are there any parents here that oppose corporal punishment?

Question

Often when this debate comes up, the people who oppose corporal punishment for children are usually assumed to be childless folks who just happened to get ahold of a few child psychology books. In my life, I have heard a few parents (one even had grown kids) say that they did not see spankings and whatnot as necessary forms of punishment. So, I was just wondering if there were any parents here that opposed it, and what the reasoning was. Thanks.

Answer 1

I'll turn around the old 'pro-spanking' argument, just for the fun of it... My parents never spanked any of us & we all turned out fine. :-)

I'm the 9th of 10 kids in my family, by the way - oldest was born in the late 40's. My parents weren't trendy psychology-book-reading people, so I would imagine that they, too, were not spanked. And, that they probably had peer parents that both weren't spanked and didn't spank. But, anyway...

Spanking was not a necessary teaching method in my family when I was raised. I can't imagine why I would choose to physically hurt someone (especially my own child) when it wasn't necessary. That's why we don't spank.

Answer 2

I've been spanking my daughter (just a spanking, never hitting), and thought I would do the same with my son as he got older, because that's how we were all brought up, but more and more I'm beginning to see how it's not really effective, and I'm trying to get some information now on discipline without spanking. I think a lot of us as parents are really uneducated about the ways children think, and we use spanking because we can't think of a way to really 'get through to them'. Obviously I can't say I've ever been opposed to corporal punishment, but I'm beginning to see there's better ways, especially as I've gotten to know other moms outside of my own family, and some of them don't spank, and they have great kids!

Answer 3

any discipline done needs to done when the adult is in control and used to correct behavior. Children need to be taught consequences for actions both good and bad. As a parent you will want to do the type of discipline that give you the desired and quickest results. I have seen that a swat on the behind to get attention at a young age when reasoning capabilites aren't there 1-3 makes the child more easily to stop and listen as they age. I would rather not spank, my children know that however they know if they don't change behavior, I don't hesitate to do what needs to be done. My youngest is 8 oldest is 16. I usually have them name their consequences for unhealthy actions and they come up with appropriate ones. My children were told that if I have to spank them due to their extreme behavior they will get one for every year they are alive I haven't had to spank in a couple of years because I did what I had to do early.

Answer 4

Well pretty anything is good if done in moderation, spanking not hitting can be really effective if it is done to discipline a child not to make yourself have better days. Sadly what happens with a lot of parents is that when they start spanking and they dont see it as a big deal, that leads them to other things which ultimately is abuse. So in the end, if it is done in moderation and not as the only form of discipline but together with a combination of other forms then it is not bad.

Answer 5

i do no longer trust corporal punishment, and have self belief that the only time actual administration desires for use is while the different individual (young ones subsequently) are being actual besides. sure, spanking is incorrect, for any reason. It teaches young ones that hitting and violence is okay in the event that they're justified, it humiliates, and it teaches young ones that the only way their dad and mom are on top of issues is by ability of actual tension. Spanking additionally basically approximately never works as a logical or organic effect of an action. some say that they do no longer spank tricky adequate to harm. subsequently, then what harm is unquestionably being completed? frequently that's emotional, and makes the youngster experience humiliated or exploited. while it does harm, then that's abuse. while young ones misbehave, it somewhat is the person's interest to self-discipline. If the youngster does not somewhat comprehend that the habit is incorrect, then they'd desire to study at that 2nd. the suited habit would desire to be practiced. If the youngster does comprehend that's incorrect, then effects would desire to be experienced. they'd desire to easily make experience. removing possessions and privileges do no longer somewhat artwork subsequently the two, except those issues being taken away are at present area of the situation.

Answer 6

I have 2 children, a 3 year old and 8 months old, and I do not spank. I do not believe it to be necessary, and find it to be more harmful than good. I find it is more likely to instill fear than respect. I think all too often spanking is used as the "easy way out" form of punishment, and/or it is used because the parents discipline is inconsistent and that is their "last resort".

Answer 7

I do not spank my kids (I have 2) but there is a big difference between spanking and beating. I do not think parents who spank their kids are abusive, as long as it is not with a belt or anything like that. If you start disciplining your kids young enough there is usually not a need to spank, but there are times I think they are warranted, safety reasons and certain actions like really hurting someone, though I have not had to with my kids and they are 6 and 8. And a swat on the butt is not even a spanking in my opinion.

Answer 8

I am a mother of an 8 month old and had been a nanny for 10 years prior to having my daughter. I know how much kids can test you in every way imaginable. However, I do not believe that hitting a defenseless child is the way to teach them the way of the world. When you hit a child they learn to not feel safe around you. It may stop the unwanted behavior but only out of fear. I would rather my children be taught how to behave through positive reinforcement and once old enough, reasoning skills.

I will not hit my child. I will have the urge to, but I would never want my child to look back and remember me harming her and making her hurt. My job as a parent is to raise a responsible, sympathetic, confident child. In order to do that, I feel I need to set boundaries and expectations. If she does not follow my rules there will be consistant consiquences. Children learn by example. Fear is not an emotion that I want my child to associate me with. I am here to keep hersafe, not hurt her.

I really think that parents that choose corporal punishemnt are lazy and would rather just slap their child than take the time to teach their children how to behave. We all get frustrated, but if a parent doesn't know how to handle that emotion then how will the child ever learn coping skills from them.

Corporal punishment works because of fear. I would be well behaved, too if I was afraid for my safety.

Answer 9

I don't use it as a primary form of punishment, but it is effective if you really need to get and hold the child's attention right now. I figure anyone who's too dense to behave without constant spanking is too dense to behave WITH them. Seems to be working so far.

Answer 10

Just because spanking doesn't work for some doesn't mean it doesn't work for others. I don't spank my children often, but when they need it they need it. I know families where they never spanked their children, and now there children are hitting them instead, so I don't think it's anyone's business how someone handles their kids. Take care of your kids your way, and others will take care of their kids their way.