I have a dilemma. I'm kind of out of routine from dating and faster, quicker relationships therefore I'm having trouble establishing what is so called normal interest level which should be shown to you. I date a guy 3 months now, and I like him very much. He is a reserved and silent type. He works 16 hours per day and he is very busy. He calles me at least once per day, sometimes we are having fun, sometimes, we are both tired. What do you think, if he would be in love with me, would he call or msm to me more than 1 times? I'm just trying to figure out, is this a normal, healthy interest level, or just me who wants more. Sometimes he is so tired, I have the feeling that he is coming to me just to rest and have a good time. With his friends I think he is more vivid. What do you think? It's not a "must", but how would you feel if your boyfriend would just call you for 2 minute talk on Saturday night?
2007-08-04 08:00:18 · 6 answers · asked by shinysunlight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do love him, not just like him very much. That's why I was in dilemma. I do feel the attention given not enough for me, but it's hard to let him go and move on, when I know that the things which are keeping him away are work.
2007-08-04 08:30:59 · update #1
There's no "normal" interaction level. Each person has their own needs or opportunities. If he's working such long hours, it's possible he's just too busy to talk to you as much as he'd like. And by the weekend, he's tired and wants to sleep. Plus, he has to catch up on all the things he didn't have time for during the week.
Maybe he's more energetic with his friends. But he probably doesn't want to hang out with them when he's tired. You he's willing to see even then. With a guy as busy as this, don't read too much into the short calls or infrequent messages. He's probably running ragged keeping up with it all.
2007-08-04 08:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but you sound completely unhappy with your BF. I think you should just move on. You would be happier with someone that would treat you like the attention whore that you are. It's a nasty term, but seriously....you are in need of more attention than you are getting. A guy who works 16 hours a day isn't for you. You need the average 8 hour a day working joe who comes home and goes to movies, out to dinner, etc. with you. I am sure you are hot in the sack, but it seems you need more, and that is all he wants from you.
2007-08-04 15:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Go Kings Go! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about this issue? Try telling him what you think and get his take on it. I know my boyfriend works long hours also and him and I have been dating for three months. But he made it a point to call me every few hours to let me know that he was thinking of me and to see if eveything was going alright. And his first day off he was right there with me. It does sound like he is pushing you away but it could be his normal routine.
2007-08-04 15:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by ffemt2942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems clear that you feel his ability to pay attention to you is below a satisfactory level. I suggest that if you really care about him, you dump him and allow him to be with a girl who appreciates a hard working man with a sixteen hour a day job and busy schedule and still manages to call her. If you care about him you must want the best for him. What's best for him? This may be a problem for you. You say that you like him very much. You go on to ask that if he "would be in love" with you, should he call more often? So why is it that you expect love from him but deliver only " I like him very much" in return?? Sounds like he's easy to please. Since you aren't........maybe you should let him go.
2007-08-04 15:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have same problems as you too...i think that if he really cared about you, he should make an effort to talk to u more than once a day and it doesn't feel like he's obliged to do it but more like he wants to. i would be mad if he called and talked for just 2 mins...i don't think it's normal interest..
2007-08-04 15:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by nisee♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calling you every day is quite a lot!
2007-08-04 15:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋