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Whats going on with this guy???
met this guy when out we both fancied each other..have known him now for approx a year...seen him out and about anyway we met up when out. went to a party together he asked me for my number i took his in the end and then we texted a phoned occassionally. He did once ask me out nothing came of it though...then we kept on seeing each other and texting...should i ask him out hes back tomorrow should i just ask him out to a bar??? What do you think guys..he did come out of a 10 yr relationship last year? Can you make sense of why things have not progressed
2007-08-04 07:57:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can sit and think about it.....again and again and again.....or you can just take the bull by the horns and ask him out yourself.! What have you got to lose? Go for it!
2007-08-04 08:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Asking him out to a bar is a bad idea because of the alcohol influence. Which always changes a person's behavior. I would try asking him to a musem or something like that so you two can still talk. Don't pressure him, but allow yourself to be there for him if he needs someone to listen. A 10 year relationship is a difficult thing to get over but everyone can always use a friend. Just be gentle his heart needs a little mending. But a nice shoulder and a sympathic ear he will also appreciate.
2016-04-01 19:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer lies in the fact that he came out of a 10 year relationship last year. He has not got over it yet even if he was the one to end it. Ten years is an awfully long time to be in a relationship and it is very very difficult to start again with someone else. He may like you and be happy to meet, text speak on the phone but not be ready to take things further.
I would say he needs more time but that is not much comfort to you as you want a relationship now. However if you have known him for a year and things have not moved forward you may well be wasting your time.
My advice is move on life is too short to waste more than a year for someone to get over a relationship with no guarantee of anything at the end of it.
Hope this helps a bit.
2007-08-04 08:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think he just needs some space and find himself first before he gets involved with anyone else. When you get involved with another person, you have to compromise to become a couple - maybe he isn't ready to do that yet...When we get older we can see the consequences of our actions, maybe he is taking steps not too break your heart because he knows it could go pear shaped as emotionally he's not strong enough yet?
I think he texts you and phones you because he does fancy you but emotionally he isn't ready for commitment of any kind. You sound like a nice girl, and he must respect you otherwise you would have been a rebound sh*g/date/etc......
If I was you, i wouldn't ask him out tomorrow.......but keep in contact with him......as you said you both fancy each other....just wait a while and be patient...it sounds like he wants to be with you but he has to be comfortable by himself first....
2007-08-04 12:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that either he is a little tired and depressed after his long relationship or he isn't sure you are right for him. Perhaps his mind is on other problems right now (work,money, familly, etc).
You are going to have to make the moves in this situation. I think you should ask him out and give it a try. There is no reason why you shouldn't that I can see. You can always put the question straight to him then, if it is bothering you. Maybe he doesn't recognise how keen you are, guys can be pretty slow to understand at times.
2007-08-04 08:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by bouncer bobtail 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ask him out! You obviously really like him. What do you have to lose? If he says no at least then you know to move on. Maybe hes been in a relationship for a long time and just wants to enjoy single life.. But the only way you'll know is if you'll ask him. Go for it! Good luck! :))
2007-08-04 09:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is interested he will pursue you. You will be on his mind, and he will even be willing to dump the guys and show you he cares about you if he is that into you. Haven't you seen the signs that he "just isn't that into you" I'm sorry, but he isn't. Also, someone who doesn't even want to take the time to make a phone call, and texts' instead shows me that he either can't physically talk because of who he is around, and or doesn't really want to get into a conversation with you. You are more than welcome to ask him out, and you may go out with him. However, just remember, it was you that pursued him. You chased. Men, like to lead. They like to compete. They like to go out and and feel like a man, by asking and conquering a woman. If you ask him out...then you haven't let him be a man. Plus, regardless of what some women think, it screams desperate. If he likes you, he will come to you. You don't have to run after him. If he doesn't that only means he isn't that into you, and or into someone else more, and or isn't ready for what you want. Which, are not bad things, just not things that you want to start a relationship off with.
2007-08-04 08:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he was really that interested he would have done something by now. It seems to be that he is more of a friend. If he suggested going out initially then didnt follow up on it he probably asked to be polite. I have been in the same situation before and ended up making a fool of myself chasing him.
2007-08-04 09:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tabbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him out. maybe things have not progressed because neither one of you know who should make the first move...if he is not long out of a 10 yr relationship, then he may not be as confident at the whole dating thing...make the first move hun, or someone else will, and if you like him then you don't want that!!
2007-08-08 05:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by charli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that he is shy, or maybe he isn't that interested. The best way to tell is for you to ask him out, and the "offer" yourself to him by being somewhat direct. He may take you up on it just for the low hanging fruit, in which case you will end up hurt. Or he is not interested-end of doubt. Or maybe your move will pay off. Who knows? That is the fun (terror) of dating! I would always say: If you want something GO FOR IT!!!
2007-08-05 11:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by Campo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make something out of nothing. If you dated and nothing came of it... try it one more time. Ask him out. Go someplace where you can be at ease. Have fun, be engaging. If nothing comes of it, just be friends. A 10 year relationship takes time to get over, but not forever.
Pursue, but don't waste your time on someone who is not emotionally available. And don't let him waste yours. Things will only progress if BOTH people want them to. If its just you, save your affections for someone who can return them.
Good luck, you've got a date to get ready for...
2007-08-04 08:03:36 · answer #11 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋