How can I get her convinced?!?! Advice Please!!
2007-08-04 07:50:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first off, how old are you? I would say that a reasonable age to be allowed to have a boyfriend would be between 15 or 16. Maybe you could try talking to her and see if she would allow a boy to come over to your house to watch movies or for dinner or something. She will be more willing to allow you to date if you can show that you are mature enough to try and compromise with her.
I'm sure that your mother trusts you and it's probably boys that she doesn't trust. Let her have some time to get to know your boyfriend and maybe after he comes over a few times she will let you go out with a group of friends. Eventually she will have enough trust in both of you to allow you to go out alone.
Whatever you do, I wouldn't sneak around behind your mom's back. Those things always have a way of catching up with you and if you get caught, it will just make everything worse. Then she'll lose her trust in you and it will be even longer before she'll let you date. Also, if she does allow you to go out make sure that you are home on time and follow her rules or you'll be back to square 1.
Just try talking to your mom and find out her reasons for not wanting you to date and maybe you could give her your reasons for wanting a boyfriend. If you can be open and honest with each other, things will work out in the end! Whatever you do, don't get mad and yell. Try to talk with her like an adult and maybe she'll see that you are mature enough to have a boyfriend.
Good luck!!
2007-08-04 08:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by ljv1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom said i wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend until i was 16 and a lot of times i was annoyed by that.
if your mom is anything like my mom, she won't let you have a boyfriend just for the sake of having a boyfriend. you may have to have someone that you are truly interested in, and you may have to tell her why you want to date him. my mom made me make a list of all the things i liked about a boy and we would have to talk about it until we both decided he was a good match or not.
if she says no, you have to respect that. don't go behind her back and date because it probably won't end well. just talk to her about why you want a boyfriend. she may be protecting you, and i know it can be frustrating. just know what you're going to say beforehand.
2007-08-04 14:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you think you are mature enough. But what always works best is to tell her that you'd only date responsible boys who she approved of, tell her you'll let her meet and talk to your boyfriend and meet his family.
If she is comfortable with the boy, then she'll be very likely to let u date.
My girlfriend had this same probelm. I befriended her mom, which really made things easier considering her dad was really strict and difficult.
2007-08-04 14:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by triath91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be responsible enough to prove to her that you can handle dating. And, you need a decent guy who your mom will be convinced that he's decent and wants nothing more than dating and a girlfriend.
2007-08-04 14:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥ Easily Amused Dijinn ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you would really like a boyfriend and that you wouldnt try anything funny and that you will pick out a nice guy and if she still says no just have some guy friend s and then you mom will relize they are not so bad
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2007-08-04 14:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.o maybe she just wants to protect u maybe she thinks your not ready, just sit down with her and talk to her and say that u understand and that u would never pick the wrong guy and if ya did u would dump him quicker then a pickle in a bikini
2007-08-04 14:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how old r you any way????if you r like 13 tell her that you just want to hang out with him and wont do anything stupid or bad with him you just want to get to no each other more and go places together and be really good friends then tell her all of the good qualities of that guy.tell her that if you go out with him there will be parrents every where you go to supervise you
if you r like 17 tell her you r old enough and reaally mature and responsible and still wont do any thing stupid or wrong with him.tell her about him tell her he doesnt do drugs etc.and that you just want to get closer to him and get to no him better
GOOD LUCK
2007-08-04 15:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by peace love<3 happiness=) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i couldnt either, but i started dating anyways, my 1st boyfriend. My mom was suspicious bout but i dint care. Then it slipped from my sis mouth and my mom knew... in the begining it was kinda awkard but then it just kinda fit..btw im 15 and started dating him @ 14...we still date =)
2007-08-04 14:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Nanda M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 16, good for her. You should be allowed to date at 16.
2007-08-04 14:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
show her that you are mature enough. but also, it depends what age you are. if you are too young, then you should listen to her and just wait. and who cares if she wont let you if there is no one you like? But if there is a guy you want to go out with, tell your mom about him
2007-08-04 14:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Elliot15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋