We have been knowing one another for more than 8 months until now where we developed from being just friends to being lovers. He was the first to confess his deep feelings to me & I find myself sharing him those precious feelings. As I got introduced to him as a friends at first, he was having a gf but their relationship was not going so well as he used to tell me. I suggested to help them & even try to fix what's broken in their relationship if I could by talking to her too but he refused saying"Not working anymore". Suddenly, he called me after some days telling me"I am full yours now!" He was laughing & smiling in a way I never seen b4 & it happened that he broke with her! Deep inside me, I felt it was coz of me & I felt like leaving him. My conscience was telling me too wrong especially after he kept hinting b4 leaving her that he appreciates our chemistry!. Now & after he became my man, I sometimes needed curiously to ask about stuff related to his relationship with his ex but am
2007-08-04 07:48:38 · 8 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not teasing him but I think so necessary to find answers to them. He tends to get irritated telling me, I can ask her to come and you sit with her and know whatever worrying you! I dont know why is that making tension between us, knowing that I rarely mention her name and almost never. Does he love her still? I am worried though I told him from start I appreciate if we only be best friends but he as an angry lover said "I can't imagine my life without you, I am so in love with you!" What about him then? btw he is 33 and am 26.
2007-08-04 07:50:58 · update #1
He probably is just real personal about his past. If it mattered, he would tell you. I'm sure there is no good reason for their separation other than they grew apart. That often happens in a relationship. Also, if he tells you, then he could feel that you might be extra wary of the situation and watch for that. Realize that he is with you now. Plus, the best kind of relationships stem from friendship anyway. Yall have taken it slow and it has blossomed into something lovely. Guys don't like to rehash the past or even talk deeply about things. Mine is the same way. Don't push too hard. He loves you and you have nothing to worry about. The past shouldn't matter.
2007-08-04 07:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by troubledone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol! Just be happy you can smile and say to yourself or whoever, this guy isn't my problem.. after all you did write EX. Be grateful you saw his true colours and you no longer have to tell people he's your bf. Through dating you will learn people aren't always what they seem because everyone always puts on their best face at first. It takes time to truly get to know someone.. it always come out with time. It is too hard to be someone you are not with people who begin to get close. It sucks to learn about characteristics you particularly find repulsive or just don't like about someone you are dating. You have many years more to endure. Each time you will gain more experience and hopefully come to accept that mainly, teenage boys care about sex, video games & any form of quick entertainment, there are the few exceptions I'm sure. As this is high school times..there will be more immaturity to come. Don't let him see how it bothers you, because that's partly his intention or perhaps his way of moving on either way he's bad news. You said he's not popular so it should be easy to avoid his social circles.. if you want to get out your frustration do it in more positive ways like move on with your own life and it seems he's not someone you really need to pay any attention too anyway. Live. Learn. As for him, well let him be also..it's his life, if he wants to act this way that's his call. As it is yours to not give any attention to someone who will only bring you negativity, drama & heartache. Eventually you will completely get over any upsetting feelings you feel now even if you don't think so now. It's common to feel a little sore after a break up & chances are you feel you lowered your standards when you mention he's not even that cute and now he's quickly asking out others so soon after you broke up. Why waste your efforts on trying to figure out WHY he does anything. Higher your standards and focus your attention on school or at least someone who isn't disrespectful amongst other things. You are more valuable then that (:
2016-05-18 00:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be one of two options: he could still have feelings for his ex that he is trying to get over but by you asking questions about her, it raises those feelings back up to surface.
Option 2: he could be trying to have a serious relationship with you and by you asking about the ex he feels like you are trying to find some fault in him or the relationship.
Try talking to him about the possibility of both of these options, I'm sure you'll get an answer- Good Luck.
2007-08-04 07:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's feeling guilty about starting a relationship with you before he broke up with is ex. So you asking about his relationship with her just brings that all to the surface. He's uncomfortable with some aspect of his relationship or break up with her and doesn't like you asking about it.
My advice is to tell him openly what your concerns are and why you want to know. Reassure him that you are trying to resolve your own issues, not find a reason to break up with him.
2007-08-04 07:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh please please let me know how it turns out i am in the same situation, well i was. she found out that he was falling for me and went back to him and now he is all confused and doesn't know who he wants to be with. Him and i have been talking for about 9 months and the same thing. I cant believe that he is thinkin of getting back with her. I told him a quote "don't trip over the same rock twice" and he said that they didnt have closer and that he just need to make sure that it was completely over with the two of them, so he could be with me...uhhh love triangles you got to love em..
2007-08-04 07:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't want to relive those moments with his ex because he has you in his life now. Plus, it might be to painful to go back to and so he justs wants to forget that it ever happened.
2007-08-04 08:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Blaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just freakin out...dont worry..evrythings fine
2007-08-04 07:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Nanda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell him your feelings. you say that he has deeep feelings for you..then he would understand.
2007-08-04 07:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋