felt up?????(read please)?

Question

well im 14 and me and friends went to the movies like yesterday.The whole time my guy friend kept feeling me up and I told him not to because we were in a movies.

He kept feeling me up and kissing my neck and stuff.

Then after the movie we went back to his house and he kept feeling me up there. Then he took my shirt off.All we did was make out, nothign more.

WHy though when i told him to stop at the movies he didnt? was it because he couldnt wait or soemthign?????

HOw come he didnt stop when i told him at the movies?

does he not understand what no means???

he can touch me at his house but not at the movies. people can see as there at the movie.

Answer 1

He wants to do it, and he did not believe that you meant no.

You let him take off your shirt and feel you up at his home.
But at the movies, you don't want him to do it. So, he is not sure that when you say no, you mean no.

You have a legitimate point. Even dark movie theaters are still public places where sex petting is inappropriate. People can still see, even children. It could be embarrassing if someone complains to management, or management has to talk to you about it.

You need to get it clear in your own mind what your rules are and why. Then, like training a puppy, you need to enforce your own rules without exception. Otherwise, the puppy and the boy learn that your rules and instructions really don't mean anything.

You have a bigger problem coming your way. If you don't have rules, don't enforce them, and don't make him believe you, then you are setting yourself up for potential date rape. The next time your partially undressed and petting at his house, you may say no sex and he might not believe that you mean it.

Answer 2

Some guys think no means yes. The truth of the matter is that it just doesn't. If he keeps it up after you say no, its a crime. Also, your story has a moral. I hope you'll take this to heart:

If you tell a guy not to do something, and he does it anyway, he does not respect you. This is an indicator that later on, he will blow off what you say in favor of what he wants. This includes sex with you, with other girls, and all sorts of risky behavior. If this is the first time, I suggest you tell him that he is on thin ice.

If this is typical behavior that you put up with from him, then you need to tell him that its over. Once is a mistake, doing it all the time is abusive. Respect yourself, or no one else will.

Good luck. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, or you'll fall for anything.

Answer 3

I was a jerk in high school. I was one of those guys who ignored no and kept going. We don't care what you say or how you feel. We just want what we want. You proved he was right, after saying no so much, you still caved and made out with him. You taught him how to treat you, like a tramp.

If you want a guy to listen to your no if he ignores the 1st time, you have to make him feel pain. I seriously mean cripple his penis. Even if through his pants, grab it really ahrd, and twist telling him you said no. Then give him a good open hand slap across the face so it leaves a nice red mark.

Answer 4

No, he doesn't understand. You said no, but did you escalate further. Did you push him away, or slap him? Some guys (okay, a lot of them) are stubborn and selfish. They won't back down unless you really make a point of it. After all, this time you said no, but still let him continue. You don't have to put up with that kind of crap, next time he won't take the hint, make a scene. Tell him to keep his hands to himself lout enough for a few people to hear him. He'll be angry and embarassed, but hopefully he'll stop. If he still doesn't, it's time to slap him and walk out.

Good luck.

Answer 5

He didn't stop, because he doesn't respect you and put his needs over yours. Next time you need to be more forceful and if he doesn't stop, get up and change your seat. Although, going back to his house and allowing it anyway, only gave him mixed signals for next time that you decide to say no.

Just to add because of the uninformed person above me..rape means there was penatration of some sort in some orafice of your body. This was feeling up which is only a form of sexual harassment which is a lesser charge.

Answer 6

what better place to make out than at a movie??

That being said, you should tell him how you feel before hand, that you don't like to be felt up in public. Then when you go to the movies, he can just SIT there.

Answer 7

are you an idiot or something?? you gave him an invitation by going back to his house with him. and you dont just LET someone take your shirt off, you obviously wanted it to come off. and you obviously wanted him feeling you up because you didnt become more forceful when he kept doing it, and that why he kept doing it. what was your first clue? if someone raped you would you just keep saying no and stop and wonder why they didnt? seriously how dumb can you be

Answer 8

Well first off it seems that you like him enough that you dont mind doing that with him... next time he tries it in a public place though make sure you tell him firmly that your not that kind of girl and if he wants anything to do with you he'll respect you and your wishes. Remember men are pigs and teenage boys are worse... but if your irm with them they know when you've had enough!

Answer 9

Be careful. You are only 14 and should not be going back to a guy's house if you can't trust him to stop when you say so. He sounds like a potential rapist to me.

Answer 10

So why didn't you get up and leave when you told him no? If a guy doesn't take no for an answer, you get up and leave and call for a ride home. He only wants you for one thing, so he's not really a friend anyway.