Perhaps it's because people don't know what to say, but this really bothers me because it seems to be what a lot... too many... people fall back on when paying their respects. It feels meaningless and hollow.
It could also be that whenever you see a story in the press about death, the quote comes up.
What do you usually say when someone passes on and you want to extend your sympathies?
2007-08-04 07:24:27 · 8 answers · asked by MadDog 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My deepest sympathies are with you during your time of sorrow. While I cannot possibly understand how you are feeling I am here for you if you need someone to listen. Then you give them a hug and you make yourself available if they need to talk.
2007-08-04 07:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
1) My condolences to you and the family of the bereaved.
2) My prayers to the divine for blessing to the passed soul, and patience and healing to the family
3) I'm sorry for the loss.
4) My sympathy and condolences to your family.
Or I say "My thoughts and prayers are with you" I say this when someone I know is close to me, and I don't have enough knowledge of the relation of the person passed to my friend. But I am serious enough to be empathetic for my friend's loss. That is what it means.
Taking someone saying personally intensifies the argument, and focusses on yourself, instead of the person who is passed on. Ask yourself, is it important to pray for the person's healing who has passed on, and be there for the family or just take personally of a comment which means for what it is??
Hope this helps.
2007-08-04 08:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by DragonHeart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Thoughts And Prayers
2016-09-28 15:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by diemoz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not bothered by those words of endearment because I believe in the power of prayer.
Whenever someone uses the terms,"You are in my thoughts and prayers", it is meant in the highest of respect for someone who has lost a loved one. It's intended to let you know that when I pray, I will ask God to comfort you, to wrap you in His arms, to strengthen you and to protect you, during this time.
Death in itself is very hard on loved ones. People respond to death in different ways, therefore people say this, to let others know, that through the power of prayer and your belief in God, you will make it through.
2007-08-04 07:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not really bothered by it..it makes them feel better...what I say is "I'm very sorry for your loss" because most people know I'm athiest.
2007-08-04 07:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have used that. I also use' What a great loss' or I am so sorry' I frankly dont think anyone notices if they are in grief and shock.
2007-08-04 10:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you judging the sincerity of the person who says that their thoughts and prayers are with you? Obviously, they believe and if they seem sincere, why not just say "Thank you", and leave it at that.
They are trying to be nice. Why not be nice back to them instead of judging their motives or saying it's hollow?
2007-08-04 09:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
"my thoughts and prayers are with you" works well for me.
haven't receive any complaints.
2007-08-04 07:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by AILENE 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
In all the cases that you mention, I find it difficult because I do not like to use meaningless cliches that I don't mean.
2007-08-04 07:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by JiveMan 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
wow, really? Of all things to be bothered by? You must be one miserable person.
2016-02-07 04:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mitchy Poo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋