I have guy and girl friends and my boyfriend has guy and girl friends.
I never go out wiht just a guy it is always a group of us.
Can this work in a relationship?
I am also interested to know your relationship style with friends? Does it work or would you rather have it another way?
All my life, my family and my friends have told me once you settle down and get married, there is no room for friends. Is this true?
For some reason - this does not work with me and my boyfriend. Is that ok?
WE do NOT want to be swingers or anything, but most of my old friends dont do anything anymore because the are "IN A RELATIONSHIP" or married.
2007-08-04 07:24:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of couples drift apart from friends when they get married. This isn't because marriage and friends are incompatible, but because the happy couple can get quite busy. Also, too often newly married couples insist on doing everything together. So now they each has twice as many people to visit in order to see his friends as well as hers.
As long as you are both okay with separate friend time, you'll be fine.
Good luck.
2007-08-04 07:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the relationship can work. It's important to have some away time to appreciate what you have. You also learn how to deal with your relationship, if you correctly learn from the right friends.
I usually have guys' night out and prefer it that way.
People usually have a lot of things on their minds when they get married. 1. Finances and education being the big ones, so they work a lot and 2. Possible children.
So yeah it's true. Close friends manage to keep it close like family.
Yeah it's okay that it doesn't work that way w/ your b/f but priorities do change. You have to decide what's important.
Best.
2007-08-04 14:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Zen Master D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not true that once you get married there is no room for friends. In fact it is this thinking that gets 50%+ of couples divorced - the fairytale idea of your spouse being your "one and only", that they are to be everything and fulfill every need you have. In my opinion it is unfair to put that kind of responsibility and pressure on your spouse. Nobody can be everything to someone else. We are what we are and others are different and offer different things to enrich your life.
So, if you want your marriage to be just like everyone else's, than do what they do. If you want your marriage to be what YOU want it to be, than do it your way. There are always those that say you are doing wrong because you are not doing it the way they do, but those are simply the ones that are followers and do everything they are told, right or wrong anyway.
2007-08-04 20:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really all depends on the couple. me and my husband have a girl's night (for me) out and a guy's night (for him) out. we try to keep in touch with our friends. we know we are busy but we try and make time. sometimes when we do make time with them we take our children with us. just because your in a relationship or married doesn't mean you can't spend time away from each other. you need your space and it's good to get away from your boyfriend or husband sometimes. what works for you and your boyfriend doesn't mean it's going to work for another couple. every couple is different and they need to do what works for them. if it doesn't work for you and your boyfriend then it's fine because that's what works for the two of you and your OK with it. you have to be OK with what does and doesn't work for you two. is it true there's no room for friends well yes and no because it depends on the couple. you need to do what works for you guys. good luck.
2007-08-04 15:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh. it's kind of true as i hate to say it, but once your married, your single friends and you will kind of lose touch. and you will have married friends too. but people are different. so you could seriously talk to your friends, and have fun with them.
to the asnwer to your first one. uhh, you guys are already friends. make sure you look ure best, and have a great smile, and personality, and i think this guy will lke you. flirt with him, and see's if he flirts back. if he does, it could be that he lkes you. but you should just flirt with him back for a while, and then maybe hang out with him or maybe ask him on a casual date.
2007-08-04 14:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie Mia. Well to me when you are in a relationship for sure there are rooms for friends, because when you are in a relationship it is good for you to have friends but it is not good for you to cheat on him and it is also good for you to be loyalty towards him and when you are loyalty towards him then it is fine for you to go on with him and when you are hanging out with your friends then it is good for you to also try to spend some time with him and not spending most of tome with your friends and when this happen then it is bad for your relationship of just spending time with friends, because if you have friends then it is good to talk out your problem with them and for sure when the problem is solve then there will be a solution to speak to them . So it is good for you to have friends although you are in a relationship. Try this and hope it might help you....................
ALL THE BEST...................
2007-08-04 15:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋