i need advice please!!!! im so upset!?

Question

so my BF went to this testicle festivle in montanna. i was totalyl fine with him going. we even had a wedding to go to today (sat) but told him i woild go alone and he could go have fun with his dad and his dads buddies at this testy festy thing. well i looked it up online today and saw sooo many topless women and wet t-shirt contests!! it has nothing to do with testicles!! well, now i am really upest. and i feel really inescure. i dont want to be, but i am. he called me this mornign and was real tired sounding, and as i was talking to him his dads older friend yelled onver to my BF and knowing knew he was on the phone with me said he is a cow man!!! i asked what that meant and he kept laughing and syaing he didnt know. then he was being really short on the phone with me, and he hasnt talkd to me since last evening. am i being paranoid? i know i am insecure about this, but do i have a right to be? i jsut didnt think he was into that kinda stuff + i have 2 days alone to think about it!

i guess i am mostly upset about the fact he doenst sound like he misses me. and whats weird is he told me he kept talling his dads friends how much i ment to him...y would he even need to? god i am so sick to my stomache about this whole thing! i dont know if i can handle it...please help me figure out how to calm down or what to do with myself? i am freaking out, and he stil has another whole night and day there.....

oh AND he kept saying he loved me and he thinks im the most beauftful girl to him. well y woudl he need to even say that? he even said something like, im not going to do anything...god...i didnt think he was...but now that he said that!!!!

Answer 1

Don't stress.
You told him to go and have fun, and that's what he is doing.
Doesn't mean he is cheating or anything.
For god's sake girl, he went with his dad.
Do you think that if he was going on a two day orgie he would go with his father???
The women you saw online were probably employed by the place holding the event and probably were the only women there.
Those women don't give a rat's a s s about your bf, much less want to sleep with him.
Guys just drink beer and watch the show, that's all, it's harmless.
Your bf said what he said to you over the phone because he can tell you are worried and paranoid so he was trying to reassure you that everything was fine and that he loves you.
Don't dramatize it so much.
He is drinking some beer and having a good time, and it's great that he can spend time with his father like that.
Please don't ruin his weekend by jumping all over him when he gets home.
You haven't married him yet, so put the dog collar away.

Answer 2

Its a matter of trust. Do you trust him? How secure is your relationship? Maybe you should find out why he didn't invite you since the festival is open to anyone who will eat bull testicles *ugh* Either trust him and calm yourself down, or work on the strength of the relationship. I don't know the guy, but I doubt that he will be unfaithful just because he sees a wet T-shirt contest. Honestly, I think it will make him appreciate you more. And as for missing you...he DID call you. Doesn't that mean he is thinking of you? Guys don't always say the right things, but actions speak louder anyway. Pass it off and address it when he comes back. You are setting the stage for a really nasty fight and making yourself miserable in the meanwhile. Can you do a "Girls night out" with some of your friends? I think that might balance things a bit. Good luck, dear. I hope you can get your mind off of it. :)

Answer 3

I think you need to first take a breath and calm down. Now if you know your boyfriend pretty well then you should know he is probably just out there having a good time, and the guy screaming in the back round stupid stuff guys do that all the time just to get another guy in trouble with the girlfriend/wifes you get the point. All im saying is give him a little trust I mean if he has never cheated on you before and you dont think he is that kind of guy chances are he isnt. Seriously maybe you should trying getting out of your house and I dont know have fun with your girls then maybe you will feel a little less insecure with your relationship right now.....Hope that helped....Have a great day!!!

Answer 4

I think you have a right to be insecure bc that would make me paranoid too, but I'm sure that your bf loves you with all his heart and wouldn't do anything to hurt you. I also think that its a plus that he's with his Dad that kinda limits what he can do. I'm sure that the dads friends are just jking around with him and trying to piss you off. I would confront him when he gets back and find out what a cow man is though. Hopefully it has nothing to do with any other girls. I would just relax and stop worrying about it. Go out with some girlfriends and show him that your having a good time too and I'm sure he'll come around.

Answer 5

First of all, anything that has a manly sound to the title is BOUND to have sexy women there -- it's just the way men are... they're goofballs who think women won't catch on. Sounds to me like your bf's dad talked him into going -- or he merely said yes to get out of going to a foo foo wedding. Women love weddings, cause they appeal to a female's emotional conection with other women. GUYS hate showing emotion -- thus, they dislike hanging around weddings, talking about "girl" stuff.

Second... of COURSE your bf sounded tired... who wouldn't after hanging out with his DAD at some lame festival. When was the last time you wanted to try and live up to your mom's level? Her values are not yours because you're 2 different people. Hell, my mom wanted me to test cells for cancer as a living, and I'M a writer instead. Your bf probably thought the festival was lame. As for the Internet wet t-shirts, etc., that's great marketing to get guys who are terminally bored to take a chance on some stupid "festival".

As for calling you that morning, think about it. He didn't make excuses about being tired, he called YOU. Most bf's would not do that, they'd get the sleep they needed.

And the dad's older friend? He was probably drunk, and "cow man" refers to him liking Montana because of the "hot women" festival. Hell, Montana has very little else THAN cows! There are open plains, lots of grass and farm animals, and a lot of farms. Your dad's friend sounds really lame. He was probably drunk, and the "joke" [cow man] was only funny to him.

Your bf was short to you over the phone because his Dad's friends were annoying him further, and hanging up was better than not being able to really talk to you. And forget about not talking to him since last evening! The boy needs sleep. And in the future, if your bf gives you a compliment, accept it. Smile and say thanks, kiss him or whatever... just be yourself. I know A LOT about guys, and your bf seems nice..

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Topless women and wet t-shirt contests ... what makes you think that whole "to-do" wasn't about testicles? That is exactly what it was about. Men are going to look a boobs - that is just the way they are. Don't screw your self into the ceiling over it. Unless he gives you a reason to think he has stepped out of line believe him when he tells you he thinks you are the most beautiful of them all. Chances are - he honestly means it.

Answer 8

You're way too needy. You need to let go and get yourself some hobbies. You can't control anyone else's feelings, but you can control your own.

This isn't about "dumping someone", it's about living your own life and not worrying about what "he's" doing. You'll never be able to control what "he" wants to do. Just relax. If he loves you, he'll be back. Just let go.

But you also have to ask yourself, is this the type of man I want in my life?

Answer 9

He is getting laid up there or getting really close to those topless women. He must be in heaven and one lucky dog. I am just wondering how come he didn't invite me?

Answer 10

Is sounds that he knows he did something WRONG so hez trying 2 avoid U.