I am a guy. I'm 27 years old now. When I was young, around 11 I was fondled & messed with by an older woman. It was uncomfortable since I wasn't ready. I guess this has caused problems for me now. But since I'm telling you now I can get over it? Am I over it now? .. Thanks.. It feels better to tell someone as if I can finally get over it. I've never told anyone.
2007-08-04 05:53:39 · 10 answers · asked by Jim P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no...you are not okay...especially since we are the first people that you have ever told...but yes you can easily get over it...just talk with someone close to you that cares about you and they will listen and offer you advice...take this information from a male that was sexually molested by another male when he was about 9 (i am now 22) and i have talked about it with my girlfriend and parents and friends...the key is to never feel shame...because if you had your choice you would not have let it happen...so you can allow it to bother you or do something about it
2007-08-04 06:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Eli G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 7 i was ill and in a hospital. every night the nite nurse, a girl in her 20's would come into my room and expose her breasts to me and ask me to do certain acts. being a young person i did not know that anything was wrong with it. many years later i realized what was going on and felt bad for the nurse. i have no problem with this situation because it had nothing to do with me. the problem was with her. do not let your situation get you down. nothing was your fault. the problem was hers. it does however make for an interesting part of your life. i think it made me realize that some people will do desperate acts out of loneliness.
2007-08-04 06:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by 1oldone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels good to get things like that off your chest. I understand where you are coming from. Yes, you can get over it. Have you been able to forgive the woman who did this to you? That is a really important step to the healing process. You don't have to speak to her directly, just in your own heart and mind forgive, this will help you move on.
You may not forget, but if you forgive you will feel better.
Good luck.
2007-08-04 05:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg...thats shocking...telling people is good...it means you know it wasnt your fault...as allot of people who have been in that situation can feel like it is...is that how you have felt? only you know if you are ok...does it still make u uncomfortable when you think about it? has it effected your sex life and normal day 2 day life?relationships etc? if this is the case then you could go see a councillor...it could help...it feeling better telling us now has helped you...then that is good...you take care of yourself ok...im sure you will be fine.xx
2007-08-04 06:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your ok telling someone is the first step to recovery...but however i do not believe that you should have told us first you should have old close family member. If you tell them they will be very understanding and help you out.
2007-08-04 06:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how to handle that, but at least it wasn't a man. I guess women can be freaky perverts just like men.
2007-08-04 06:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you're OK. Admitting it is the first step to recovery.
2007-08-04 05:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. 3.14™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hows your relationships been? seek counseling
2007-08-04 05:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by switchmistress 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if your joking that's sick and you need to go to a doctor or something
2007-08-04 06:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is ok.
2007-08-04 05:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋