You already start dating this girl but you are not that interested in her. How to let her know without hurting her feeling? And once you've told her that, is it possible to come back to her in the future?
2007-08-04 05:35:19 · 43 answers · asked by YucaKacamata 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may hurt her feelings, no matter what, depending on how much she cares for you, and how long you've been seeing each other. The less "games" about it, the better. Be upfront and honest, and please don't expect to "come back" for more later. That may not be possible. If you hurt her once, it's prolly not fair to put her through all that again, don't you agree?
2007-08-06 03:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are sure about "dumping" your friend because once you do it you can't turn back. Think it over if you have to but if there is no way you can stand your relationship anymore then here are a few idea's.
1) If you are lucky, you might hit a little snag in your relationship like you or her making a mistake. Take that chance to make a big deal about it. Its a 4 out of 10 it won't really hurt her.
2) you could gather up your guts and just say that you people should go your seperate ways. Don't say I wouldnever want to be with you ever again cuz that will get her to hate you forever. Put it in a nice way but not too nice so that you are still friends a bit because that would be a problem.
About coming back to her in the future, I suggest that you still be friendly with her and if she likes you then you like her back then it will be normal.
Hope this helps! Good luck my friend
2007-08-04 05:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! so here is what you do- pull the sensitive card. Tell her that you hate texting because it hurts your eyes ewhen you look at the screen for a few minutes, so tell her to stop, and also that you dont have any regular minutes cause your parents are cutting costs. That will take care of the phone problem. Then tell her you aren't comfortable dating someone you aren't really good friends with first and that if God (yes, bring him into the convo) want it to happen, it will a long time from now because you feel he has big things planned for you right now that will be taking up all your time.... it'll work and she wont be mad
2016-04-01 19:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question, be honest with yourself and with others, tell her your true feelings. No matter what you say or do, feelings always get hurt. But the tears always go away. Sit down with her and tell her the 'truth' about your feelings and listen to her also. She is a person too, and she deserves to know the truth as the same with you. To get back together in the future is unknown - maybe it will happen and maybe it won't. Depends on how your lifes change and maybe you might find somebody speciall in your life as with her....so many 'maybe's' - no one can tell you the future...but your hearts will.
good luck
Michelle
2007-08-12 05:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy. not "hurtful" honest, but basically that you don't see the two of you being anything other than friends...or that you want to see other people, whatever it is.
She may understand, but then again she may not. Her feelings and how she deals with them are her responsibility, not yours.
As for coming back in the future, anything is possible, but why would you want to if you're not that interested? You need to make up your mind. Either you are interested or you are not. It's not fair to play games.
2007-08-04 05:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly my friend, if a girl has a thing for you, and you tell her you no longer want to be with her, it's gonna sting a little bit. Just respect that fact and tell her, face to face, and gently as you can.
Whether or not she'll come back to use is anyone's guess, but if you leave things on good terms your chances are much better
2007-08-04 05:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not interested then your not interested... I don't get why you are worried about coming back to her later... seems like she is an okay girl, but you think you can do better and if you can't find someone soon then she will have to do.. either that she will just be a bed buddy every now and then. just tell her you think she is nice but there isn't that spark you are looking for, but don't try to come back to her later that is just rude!
2007-08-04 05:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by girlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you hurt her feelings there is somebody way better looking out there !!!! Just joking. Why are you asking if you can come back to her in the future if your not even interested in her !! Sounds like your a playa and no you won't get her back after that. choose you words carefully cause she may have good looking friends that will also hate you if your rude about it
2007-08-04 05:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lexeah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You tell her that you think she's great but your not interested in getting serious.
If you like her as a friend then tell her that. That way you can still hang out in the future.
2007-08-04 05:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by Te 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not interested in her, why would you want to come back later??? Do you want to see if there are other fish in the sea and if they dont work out you will come back to her??? You are a butt - hole ... tell her that you are not interested and let the girl get on with her life, with someone who wont use her.....
2007-08-04 05:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋