I'm a young professional in a loving, but long distance relationship. I will be moving over to a different country to be with him next year. The thing is, I like my career and it won't be plausible for me to pursue it should he move to a more rural area, which he is adamant about doing. I'm not interested in living apart, which is the main reason I'm immigrating. I want my career and he wants his farm, but neither of us are willing to budge. What should I do? I've already gone through a lot of trouble to plan my move there and I'm scared to be alone in a foreign place. What should I do? Please state your rationalizations.
2007-08-04 05:32:51 · 7 answers · asked by janicebks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I could go on and on but I'll just say stick to your career in your country and let him have his farm in his country and you will not regret it.
Next time you find a love, find one that was raised in a similar way to yours, I tried differently but I wish I had been a little bit less "open minded", in the end I would have wasted a lot less time, don't do the same mistake, stick to your country and the people in it, these are the ones closest to your way of being, which when it comes to the crunch is what you are.
In other words, if everyone around you sees you like "the strange foreigner with strange ideas" then that's what you are. I think that "young professional" sounds much better for you, just don't waste it.
2007-08-07 08:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by moaatimo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how long have you two been doing this long distance relationship? How serious are you? Depending on that its really what should tell you what to do.
I'm kind of on the same boat but I'm already with my guy. The thing I fear is that I'm so in love with him that I don't want to be the cause of the relationship not working. I'm going into medicine and that requires a lot of years of study study.
We had been together for almost 4 years and we made it long distance. We kept in touch by any means possible. We split up for one year, learned just exactly how much we mean to each other and are together again...practically married and very happy.
It depends on you two. One or the other has to step up and make a change. You two should determine which would be more important. Your career or him leaving his farm. Only you two can make it work!
Best of luck :D
PS by the way, I personally made the choice to move to a different state with him just because I did my research and found out I could attend both college and a med school in the area. There have been some unfortunate circumstances with school because I'm out of state, but nothing is impossible and I'm keeping strong at it. I'm in love :P
2007-08-04 12:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by artsygal_cc86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your career. Does he want to get married? Can both of you meet each other half way? I wish I would have continued to pursue my career as a journalist, but no, I chose my "love" instead. I have tons of regrets and 3 kids, and we are not together anymore! ( I NEVER regret the kids, I LOVE the kids). Now I'm at a 9 to 5 job that I HATE, wishing I can still pursue my dream as a journalist. At 30 years old with a family to raise, there's simply no time!
2007-08-04 12:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
unless you cannot breath without this guy....do think
it over. Love will force you to go there, you will not even think
for one second.
To find a career which are satisfying, it is very scarce.
No need in being with a guy it he is not completely the one
you wants to change for. You have to make all the sacrafices?
Does not sound good to me
2007-08-04 12:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are bad news.Think about that, the answer is simple to understand.If you are going to waste your time with that, is your time and energies.I think is a mistake,Is your call.
2007-08-04 12:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first.your career is the most important thing in your whole life ever. without it you are nothing.Then love follows once you have achieved in your goals,having your own money,car,house and and support yourself.Then you can look for someone you get married to .someone you love and someone who loves you and someone who will love you the way you are.
2007-08-04 12:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by lszondi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cares for you, he must have told you to stuck with your career.If I were you, may be I would choose my career first.
2007-08-04 12:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by loverofSEV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋