Have you had children instead of adopting? Why is it okay to have one child when there are so many needing homes, or two or three or six?
Why is THIS family discriminated against just because they have chosen a large family? If you are so sensitive about the needs of children waiting to adopt, why not step up and do something about it rather than criticize someone else for not doing so?
I am VERY pro adoption-in fact, we will be adopting one or two children ourselves in the near future (I am currently pregnant with our third child, and we are not opposed to having more biological children either, BTW). But whether to give birth or adopt is a personal choice that each family needs to make for themselves-and NONE of us have a right to judge their decision, whatever that may be.
So...I am just wondering why YOUR circumstances are acceptable, but you think they (the Duggar family) are wrong? Quit criticing others for not doing so, and adopt yourself!
2007-08-04 05:22:28 · 10 answers · asked by StayAtHomeMomOnTheGo 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You asked, so this is my answer. And of course my opinion.
As far as your adoption question, yes, my husband and I went through 1/2 the adoption process to adopt an older child out of foster care. After experiencing 3 miscarriages, I became pregnant again. I do not wish to give birth again, and when my son is 5 we will continue with the adoption process where we left off. We would be open to a sibling set as well.
As far as the Duggar family is concerned, MY opinion is that they exploit their family way too much. I personally think one show would have been sufficient to show the general public what it's like to raise such a large family. The fact that the Duggars seem to get a new show every time they have a child and get lots of freebies from sponsors and vehicles, trips to Disney & cross country road trips, I feel is exploiting. Yes, the Duggars CAN financially support their family-that is not my concern at all. I know there are other families with a lot of kids, and they don;t have TV shows. The Duggars put themselves out for public scrutiny via TV show & their web page. So, really the public is entitled to their opinion.
So that's my opinion-you either agree or disagree.
2007-08-04 05:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I think having 17 children is a little over the top, but if they want and are able to take care of a large family, they should have the right. I think what most people who speak against them are saying is that instead of bringing more children into the world, give some of the kids that are being shuttled around in foster homes a real home. Why don't people like that shut up and adopt? I don't know everybody's reasons, but I'll share a couple of mine. First, I don't have enough money to make a proper home for a child. We would have to accept government money, so they wouldn't allow me to adopt anyway. Also, I just don't think I would make a good parent. I like kids, but not enough to change my life entirely. I like to do what I want when I want. Finally, at this time, I am too injured to care for a child and am awaiting surgery. All that said, I still worry about overpopulation. I am very happy to hear that there are people like you who want children and are willing to open up your homes and hearts to them.
2007-08-04 05:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Elsie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am also a strong believer in adoption, there are so many innocent children that need our help. You are a wonderful person for adopting children in need, more people should be like you. I can't begin to tell you how many "foster" parents I know of who house children for a month or so just for the paycheck and then put the children in a worse situation than the one they were in originally. If these people have 17 children, so what? I'm sure they are all loved and cared for rather than going from home to home feeling alone and confused in the world.
2007-08-04 05:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by marm212 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i THINK i know who you mean, are they the large red headed family that home school all thier children??
i saw a documentary recently with them and i was gobsmacked, i certainly coulndt do it but she seems to have everything under control and have some of the best behaved children ive ever seen!!
I personally think that if you are capable of having a large family and looking after it then why shouldnt you?? i dont think i coudl have that many children i would be completely insane by the end of it but that woman absolutely worships her children and she is doing a fantastic job!!
Adoption is a fantastic thing and i hope one day if i cannot have any more children i will be able to adopt but if you can have your own children then whats the problem with that?
i say good luck to them!
2007-08-04 06:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by saera 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I met them in person when they were on a road trip. Any family who is as responsble in parenting and have added 17 well-adjusted pleasant and responsible children to our planet deserves to be rewarded.
Each and every child they have is wanted, cared for (better than the average child) and working as a nanny I can appreciate the work they do.
It is their right to produce children. They are not on any kind of assistance, they have built their own house that spaciously provides room for all of them (and more) and they have done everything the right way.
I only send praise to the Duggar family. If we all raised the amount of children we have as well as they have raised their children, we wouldn't have near as many problems on this earth as we do.
2007-08-04 05:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Marie Q 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The Duggar family is great...though there ways are a little different...they should be respected highly for having as many well- behaved and educated kids as they have. However I would never have this many children myself but I have nothing against this. There personal choice to have 17 children is their choice and nobody should diss them. However they are endangering their financial circumstances and they should think about that and instead of having anotther kid and spending money that should go to the other kids they should invest on birth control. I have nothing against adoption. I just hope that peeps who adopt have the financial stabililty that is required for having lots of kids.
2007-08-04 05:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I haven't a clue. I really have a ton of respect for them. They do it without T.V., without internet, and with love. A friend of mine knows the family and Michelle does raise her voice- she is a human being. Why judge? There is so much love and support there. I think their parenting style should be a model. They are self supporting, have no debt and have a ton of patience. Families today could do with a bit of that.
It is not my place to judge them.
2007-08-04 05:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
couldn't agree with you more :)
I don't think anyone has the right to criticize other parents for having biological children instead of adopting a child unless they have adopted themselves!!
It's easy to tell other people how to live their lives, it takes a lot more to lead by example.
2007-08-04 05:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
To paraphrase Jesus, orphaned children will always be with us. If the Duggars adopted 17 children, instead of having 17 of their own, the problem of orphaned children would not be diminished one iota. If you want to adopt children, that's great. If you want to have children of your own to love, then that's great, too. No one should be criticized for either choice. Especially by nosy, do-gooders.
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2007-08-04 05:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 6⤊ 4⤋
who are the duggars?
and why on earth would anyone want that many kids?
2007-08-04 05:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by SLOMO 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋